This is Us- Season four

[DisneyHardin]

The actual name of what she has doesn't change my point. Yes, I suppose she has to be mid-60's. So not early onset anything. That's sort of my point. Maybe if she looked mid-60's I'd find the story line more believable. (Yes, I get that some younger people get it, but it's not the norm so not where my mind goes with this).

I think there is also some confusion between the term "early onset" and meaning just the beginning stages. When talking about Alzheimer's, early onset means that someone got it when they are younger than usual for that disease. But, people often say it meaning the beginning stages of Alzheimer's no matter the age of the person.

I know this because my grandmother had Dementia and I made the mistake of saying something about early onset of it to my aunt, who is a nurse, and she quickly corrected me and explained exactly what "early onset" means.

 

[lisaviolet]

The actual name of what she has doesn't change my point. Yes, I suppose she has to be mid-60's. So not early onset anything. That's sort of my point. Maybe if she looked mid-60's I'd find the story line more believable. (Yes, I get that some younger people get it, but it's not the norm so not where my mind goes with this).

I am sorry. I am honestly not understanding something. I thought you were saying that showing such early (as in age) dementia was making it hard to believe. I guess I misunderstood your original point mom2rtk.

 

[lisaviolet]

I think there is also some confusion between the term "early onset" and meaning just the beginning stages. When talking about Alzheimer's, early onset means that someone got it when they are younger than usual for that disease. But, people often say it meaning the beginning stages of Alzheimer's no matter the age of the person.

I know this because my grandmother had Dementia and I made the mistake of saying something about early onset of it to my aunt, who is a nurse, and she quickly corrected me and explained exactly what "early onset" means.

I just communicated poorly in my original post. And probably misunderstood mom2rtk's point anyway.

I was merely trying to show that it is perfectly natural - ie. not hard to believe - for Rebecca to show signs of mild cognitive decline in her mid-sixties, when we have seen that she will probably pass from a form of dementia (I am putting a form of dementia as people are at times misdiagnosed with Alzheimer's - forgive me for ridiculously questioning a tv neurologist!?!?!! Insert smile.)

I know early-onset Alzheimer's is a completely different form of the disease. I was trying to make a point by referencing it.

 

[lisaviolet]

Even if the Pearson children did not have roles in the family, so to speak, it is difficult to not fight with siblings when faced with such an emotional time. Most process their parents' well-being and decline differently.

It is a Godsend to come through it unscathed.

 

[kiddo76]

Even if the Pearson children did not have roles in the family, so to speak, it is difficult to not fight with siblings when faced with such an emotional time. Most process their parents' well-being and decline differently.

It is a Godsend to come through it unscathed.

Siblings process, and also experience, things differently.

My grandmother had Alzheimers. My father and his 5 sister had very different opinions on what was best for their mother. Shortly after my grandfather died and against my father's very strong opinion, they placed her in a nursing home.

My father and grandfather had the same name and When my dad visited my grandmother, she would cry and say "Bill, bring me home." Bill don't leave me here" "Bill you promised to always take care of me."

Then one day my grandmother got very angry and started yelling at my dad "If Billy knew I was in this place, he would NEVER leave me here! I know Billy doesn't know I'm here, otherwise he would have come to see me by now! Wait until Billy finds out."

My dad realized that my grandmother thought he was his father (Bill) and was waiting for her son (himself, Billy) to save her. It completely destroyed him and things were never the same between he and his sisters.

 

[Searc]

No new episode tonight.

 

[mnrose]

Thank goodness. I have theater tickets tonight. I won't miss a thing. LOL.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Since we don't have an episode to discuss this week, let's play "Which character are you?" ~

https://www.magiquiz.com/quiz/well-tell-us-character-based-handle-drama/

Spoiler: I am...

Beth, you’re the best. Hands down. You’re the pragmatist amongst all the high stakes emotions of the Pearson clan. You married into this, so you’re able to give an outsider’s perspective while also being in the thick of it with your monologue-prone husband. Used to sacrificing for your family, you’re finally giving yourself permission to follow your own dreams and make yourself happy for a change. You’re grounded and are a rock for the emotional turbulence that this family is prone to. You’re awesome and the family loves you.

 

[Searc]

@PollyannaMom I got the same result.

 

[3threebabies]

Siblings process, and also experience, things differently.

My grandmother had Alzheimers. My father and his 5 sister had very different opinions on what was best for their mother. Shortly after my grandfather died and against my father's very strong opinion, they placed her in a nursing home.

My father and grandfather had the same name and When my dad visited my grandmother, she would cry and say "Bill, bring me home." Bill don't leave me here" "Bill you promised to always take care of me."

Then one day my grandmother got very angry and started yelling at my dad "If Billy knew I was in this place, he would NEVER leave me here! I know Billy doesn't know I'm here, otherwise he would have come to see me by now! Wait until Billy finds out."

My dad realized that my grandmother thought he was his father (Bill) and was waiting for her son (himself, Billy) to save her. It completely destroyed him and things were never the same between he and his sisters.

I am so sorry for your father to see his relationships end that way and for you to have to watch his pain. And then to have to watch something similar play out on this show. I appreciate your post.

DH was estranged from his middle brother for 20 years over parental health issues end of life decision making as the executor. It has been hard to watch his heart harden. His brothers were a lot older than me, so my relationships with them weren't close. I adored dh’s mother, and I quietly told him a couple times that she would have never wanted it this way. It is still hard for me to think that my son is 14 and has never met any of his paternal family. (Both grandparents and estranged uncle deceased. No good excuse for the rest, but I love my husband.)

This is Us just reverberates in my mind about the fitting title almost every time I think about it. Not only are the Pearsons unapologetic in their portrayal of a loving family and all the messiness that goes with it, but the extended family truly does reflect situations we have all lived. It is also all of us.

 

[3threebabies]

Since we don't have an episode to discuss this week, let's play "Which character are you?" ~

https://www.magiquiz.com/quiz/well-tell-us-character-based-handle-drama/

Spoiler: I am...

Beth, you’re the best. Hands down. You’re the pragmatist amongst all the high stakes emotions of the Pearson clan. You married into this, so you’re able to give an outsider’s perspective while also being in the thick of it with your monologue-prone husband. Used to sacrificing for your family, you’re finally giving yourself permission to follow your own dreams and make yourself happy for a change. You’re grounded and are a rock for the emotional turbulence that this family is prone to. You’re awesome and the family loves you.

What does it mean about me that I had to go with a sort of answer because I would do none of the options for almost half of the questions?!? I needed the how do I like this quiz question at end to be I am not really any of these lol. So maybe I really am “us” like the royal we I do sometimes speak of myself in 3rd person...

 

[bethbuchall]

What does it mean about me that I had to go with a sort of answer because I would do none of the options for almost half of the questions?!? I needed the how do I like this quiz question at end to be I am not really any of these lol. So maybe I really am “us” like the royal we I do sometimes speak of myself in 3rd person...

That's kind of how I felt about it, too. Many of the questions didn't have an answer that was quite right.

In the end though...
Randall. Always doing the emotional most. Do you know how to communicate to people in your life in a style that is not giving a dramatic monologue involving a metaphorical anecdote from growing up? We guess not. But, that’s also why we love you! You bring a big, beating heart to this show that everyone loves and are largely responsible for tugging everyone’s heartstrings and tear ducts. You’re impulsive and highly emotional, which in combination with each other can lead you to do impulsive things like bringing home your birth dad to live in your home without asking your wife. YOLO I guess?

 

[Twilight Sparkle]

Same answer here, too, @PollyannaMom.

 

[Twilight Sparkle]

Thank goodness. I have theater tickets tonight. I won't miss a thing. LOL.

We have theatre tickets tonight, too!

 

[Searc]

What does it mean about me that I had to go with a sort of answer because I would do none of the options for almost half of the questions?!? I needed the how do I like this quiz question at end to be I am not really any of these lol. So maybe I really am “us” like the royal we I do sometimes speak of myself in 3rd person...

I kept waiting for the "act like an adult because it's no big deal" answer for every question...or my other "get over yourself".

 

[tcufrog]

I got Beth too.

 

[kimblebee]

What does it mean about me that I had to go with a sort of answer because I would do none of the options for almost half of the questions?!? I needed the how do I like this quiz question at end to be I am not really any of these lol. So maybe I really am “us” like the royal we I do sometimes speak of myself in 3rd person...

I think that makes you a Randall


I thought I was going to be Randall but I’m Rebecca. I found all the questions had an answer that I’d say myself.

 

[kiddo76]

I am so sorry for your father to see his relationships end that way and for you to have to watch his pain. And then to have to watch something similar play out on this show. I appreciate your post.

DH was estranged from his middle brother for 20 years over parental health issues end of life decision making as the executor. It has been hard to watch his heart harden. His brothers were a lot older than me, so my relationships with them weren't close. I adored dh’s mother, and I quietly told him a couple times that she would have never wanted it this way. It is still hard for me to think that my son is 14 and has never met any of his paternal family. (Both grandparents and estranged uncle deceased. No good excuse for the rest, but I love my husband.)

This is Us just reverberates in my mind about the fitting title almost every time I think about it. Not only are the Pearsons unapologetic in their portrayal of a loving family and all the messiness that goes with it, but the extended family truly does reflect situations we have all lived. It is also all of us.

Thank you. This storyline is a double hit for me. My siblings and I watched my dad live through my grandmother's dementia, then we had to live through his dementia. We lost him 2 years ago tomorrow. Like the Big 3, the 3 of us have always had our roles, and something like this really shakes up family dynamics.

 

[3threebabies]

I think that makes you a Randall


I thought I was going to be Randall but I’m Rebecca. I found all the questions had an answer that I’d say myself.

So true! I didn't think of it that way Ironically, though, not who I got. I expected Rebecca. I will leave the “winner” up to the imagination.

ETA.
So, for the science. I took it again. I changed some of the I don’t do any questions to the answer that was almost as close as my original answer. This time I did get Randall! So, @kimblebee , you should write the next quiz.

 

[3threebabies]

Thank you. This storyline is a double hit for me. My siblings and I watched my dad live through my grandmother's dementia, then we had to live through his dementia. We lost him 2 years ago tomorrow. Like the Big 3, the 3 of us have always had our roles, and something like this really shakes up family dynamics.

I wish you and your family peace tomorrow.