No we don't. And when we remodeled the contractor did ask if we wanted them. There was a great thread on whether people had locking bedroom doors a few years back, most interesting.
My grandparents lived upstairs, and I live with my parents downstairs. You didn't need a lot of space. Times were different.
Yes. But for those claiming a "McMansion" is necessary, they should know it's not. The city example in my post is more realistic.
I agree.
When my dad died, my mom wanted someone to move in with her. One of the grandkids. They said no thanks. If she had to, she could have stayed with us, although I wouldn’t have liked it much. I do think if you live together while the person is still independent it could be easier. A lot of people have mother in law apartments where they can all live their lives.
We also see a lot of problems in the hospital when people fall, or mess up their medications, and a medical crisis occurs. (Saw this recently where someone was over anti-coagulated because they took their medications incorrectly and a critical neurological event occurred. No one in their family realized what was happening until there was an incident.) 
Can she move to assisted living with activities in the building?We built an in-law apt onto our house and my mother lived with us for 25 yrs, until the moment she passed. It worked out really well for all of us. When my kids were little, she helped out, and always had an open door so they could go in and watch a movie with her, or she’d cook them something, etc. As she aged she had all her needs taken care of, and we were able to even do hospice at home with two of us being nurses. So many people have said how lucky she was! I’d say we all were.
My DD will probably be taking over the apt once we fix it up a little, while she saves to buy something of her own. That will work out well, too. In some other countries, it’s normal for multi-generational families to live together and care for eachother. I think here, in modern times, there was a lot of availability of affordable apartments and land and such, so it wasn’t a necessity for most families, but our economics are rapidly changing now. I’d say if people get along fairly well, and it’s well thought-out, it can be a good thing.
I have an elderly friend who lives alone in a rent-controlled apartment. I saw her last night, in fact. And she is terribly lonely there, and afraid to open up to her caregivers about how much her mobility has declined, because she’s afraid they’ll make her go to a nursing home. She told me that sometimes she just cries.
In a lot of ways my life was easier because my mother was right there, off my living room, so I could stay on top of everything. That wasn’t always the case. Before she moved in with us I’d have to travel over an hour in the opposite direction to get to her, sometimes after working an overnight shift (and having to be back the same night), if there was a problem, and it seemed to happen a lot. I had to send police to her house before for a well-person check when I couldn’t get a hold of her. Some of the locals who “helped” her from time to time didn’t always have her best interest at heart and actually caused some problems, so I worried a lot. All that changed for the better when she came to live with me.
my friends son used to tell her he was living with her until he was 30, he closed on a house monday at 31 .Well, my five year old has already stated that he’s going to live with me forever, so….Although, with the way things are going that may be the reality for his generation.
Sorry to laugh at your pain but, man, if only you’d had a crystal ball back then, right?
It's become less stigmatized because it's necessary. I can't believe I was on my own at 18. I have an 18 and 19 year old and I just can't see them being capable of that.
Privacy is more than just having locks on bedroom doors. For me having adult children living at home has made dating much more difficult. Guys don't really want to come over, even just to hang out & watch a movie because of the lack of "privacy."
Exactly what I was thinking. Not sure why "privacy" needs to mean "a whole house to yourself."
That sounds awful! I was thinking of intentionally living somewhere that worked well for multigenerational living, not shoving into a shoebox with a tenant as well as family!
My grandma lived in a beautiful one toward the end of her life. Totally her choice, many of us would have been happy to have her move in. But she wasn't one to ask opinions. She was living alone in the house she'd owned forever. Fell and broke a hip, and while she was in the hospital she made all the arrangements herself to sell the house and move to the assisted living. Told us after it was a done deal.
Sounds like you're dating the wrong guys to me. Can't you go to his place if he's so hung up on "privacy"??
Well, usually sounds travel through the entire house without regard to doors, locked or not.
If you find the "right kind" of guy that isn't "hung up" on having adult children around on date night, send them my way.
