There's an outdoor, backyard wedding tomorrow.. Update post #45!

[Mimi1965]

C.Ann-did your relatives have a good time?
Hopefully the wedding went well

 

[Abbie]

You seem very bitter over this! Sorry if the bride/groom could not meet YOUR idea of an ideal wedding. You do realize that they might have a budget, got a good deal on the date and took it.. I mean, it is about THEM, not you..

Hmm, not sure where you are getting "bitter" from her posts, she clearly has wished them well over and over!

And I have to say that as someone who hates summer and the heat, I would not have enjoyed an outdoor wedding with as awful as it's been around here!

 

[Silent1CB]

C.Ann-did your relatives have a good time?
Hopefully the wedding went well

I was looking for an update too. Weddings are such a fun time, no matter what the party or weather is like.

 

[CF'er]

At least the 60 mph winds will help create a breeze and maybe cool people off.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Sorry, that sounds horrible. 100 people and one bathroom, heat and rain, no tent. Good grief.

 

[HunnyPots]

Doesn't sound like the ideal situation for sure, but it could be worse. Ninety degrees doesn't sound too bad - it was 109 here yesterday! Definitely not outdoor wedding weather. Personally, I think anyone who plans an outdoor wedding with no shelter and no back-up plan is asking for disaster, but that's just me...

 

[pigletgirl]

90 isn't that horrible! Plus, a wedding is what you make whether it goes perfectly or not...

 

[mjkacmom]

DSis got married last July in an over 100 yo church. No air. No running water....
It was HOT. but we made it. Course we did have the reception at a different place where there WAS air conditioning!

No running water? As a member of a church way over 100 years old, who's kids' bladders seem to act up at every Mass, that would be a problem.

 

[crz4mm2]

No running water? As a member of a church way over 100 years old, who's kids' bladders seem to act up at every Mass, that would be a problem.

Awe, no troubles! Had two NICE outhouses out back

 

[jdisnut]

You seem very bitter over this! Sorry if the bride/groom could not meet YOUR idea of an ideal wedding. You do realize that they might have a budget, got a good deal on the date and took it.. I mean, it is about THEM, not you..

Could not disagree more. Weddings are about the guests, not the couple. Planning a wedding with no regard for the people you're inviting shows incredible selfishness and shortsightedness. Almost nobody actually cares about the bride and groom at a wedding. Their parents and particularly close friends, maybe. Everybody else is doing them a favor by attending. They aren't going to have any fun, so the least the couple can do is make them feel comfortable.

The bride and groom have their entire lives to spend together. They should be focusing on that. The wedding should be about the families, not themselves.

Anyway, let's face it. What are they more concerned about? The wedding, or immediately after the wedding?

 

[barkley]

we went to an outdoor wedding a couple of summers ago.

the location was stunning, with lots of shade trees, but unfortunatly the ceremony was'nt set up under any of them the guests were seated in the full bore sun, while the area where the bridal party stood was in full shade-they had hundreds of feet of shade surrounding them so i would have thought that since the location was used to hosting weddings they might have at least given consideration to where the sun would be at the time of day the ceremony was held b/c it would have been possible to tweak the chairs a bit to provide shading.

as it was, if you look at the wedding photos that were taken during the ceremony-it looks like there were next to no guests (after the bride got down the aisle, the majority of people got up from their chairs and stood in shade many yards away). several of the older guests as well as younger kids ended up missing the ceremony entirely b/c they had to retreat to an adjacent building b/c of the heat.

i'm sure the b/g were disappointed that more guests did'nt stay for the reception, but after being in the sun and heat for that long it was'nt practical.

 

[horseshowmom]

we went to an outdoor wedding a couple of summers ago.

the location was stunning, with lots of shade trees, but unfortunatly the ceremony was'nt set up under any of them

Any chance it was on 6/7/08? There were several different weddings in our area on that date. We were at one (at our church), and the reception was so full that we decided to go eat somewhere else. When we got to the restaurant we ran into some friends who had been at another wedding that was outdoors. It was very hot that day (heat index well over 100), and their faces were beet red. They had left after the wedding due to the heat.

 

[bjgrazi]

Are we ever going to hear how the wedding went?

 

[aprilgail2]

Sorry, that sounds horrible. 100 people and one bathroom, heat and rain, no tent. Good grief.

I agree- ANY outdoor party would be horrible in those conditions!

 

[wvjules]

And I'm sooo glad I declined way back when they first mentioned it in the early spring.. I had a gut feeling that the weather would not be conducive to me being outdoors in July, but I had no idea it would be this bad!

Quite frankly, I don't know how anyone is going to survive tomorrow.. It's supposed to be at least 90 degrees - very humid - and there is no shade in the postage-sized stamp backyard (nor did they rent a tent).. It's at the bride's home - which is very, very tiny - and it would be impossible to cram 102 people in there to cool off - or heaven forbid, if there is a thunderstorm..

DD, her DH, and my DGD are attending - then at a specified time, all of the children who were invited are supposed to be picked up by sitters or whatever so the adults can stay and "party" all night.. DD and her family don't plan on staying beyond the time that the children are allowed to be there and possibly not even that long if the weather becomes too much to bear.. Now they're kind of wishing that they had declined the invite, but it's a good friend of DD's DH, so they feel they at least have to make an appearance..

Is it just me - or does anyone else think July isn't the best time for a backyard wedding - without so much as a tent for shade (and/or the possibility of thunderstorms)? There will also be only 1 bathroom available - for over 100 people..

I'm really hoping - for the sake of the bride and groom - that all goes well.. It's such an important day..

Anyone have some nice, cool, dry weather they can ship their way?

Before I go any further...you declined a wedding invitation because the weather *might* be bad since it is in July?

 

[aprilgail2]

Before I go any further...you declined a wedding invitation because the weather *might* be bad since it is in July?

My mother would do the exact same thing of it was an outdoor wedding in the summer. She can not be out in the sun so she would RSVP NO as soon as she got the invite-regardless of the weather!

 

[horseshowmom]

Before I go any further...you declined a wedding invitation because the weather *might* be bad since it is in July?

Depending on how close I was to the family, I might do the same. The heat index in our area this summer has been running regularly between 100 and 108 (while that's a little hotter than normal, it's not a lot hotter).

DD was married last June. The wedding was indoors with an outside reception (under trees and with a tent). We purposely arranged it so that if the temperatures did happen to be unreasonable, the reception would be moved indoors. We were fortunate, the weather was beautiful and happened to be on the cooler side that day.

I certainly don't fault the bride and groom for doing what they chose to do (it's their wedding, and I completely understand outrageous wedding costs these days), but I also completely understand why she chose to decline the invitation.

 

[Amg120499]

I hope all went well with the wedding. Now I have to post my wedding story.

A few of us were invited to a co-workers wedding. The ceremony was held at a park with the reception at their house two hours later. The invitation clearly stated it was BYOC – bring your own CHAIR to both. After the two hour break inbetween, we were all starving and could not wait to get to the reception. We get there and the bride tells us that the food was inside on the washer and dryer because they could not keep the flies off the potatoe salad!!!!! YUM. After sitting there for an hour, listening to the neighbor power washing their garage, we had to get out of there.

 

[Silent1CB]

Are we ever going to hear how the wedding went?

I'm thinking we are not going to hear. It probably went great & everyone had a great time, so what's the point in updating us. Now, if everyone was rushed to the hospital with heat stroke, sewer overflowed, and tree was stuck my lightning, you know for sure we would have heard about it immediately.

 

[FireDancer]

I personally wouldn't turn down a wedding (or any other) invitation just because it was outside. I would dress less formally if it were hot (and lose the tie) but wouldn't turn down an invitation or choose not to attend just because it might be hot. To each their own though.