TheLittleRoo
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OP, first I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers for her health go out for you.
I have to ask this, especially since so many are reading and posting on this thread: I've had this book for 8 years and have never managed to read it past the first chapter. I know I have a bad case of unforgiveness and revenge against my husband. He has had a couple of affairs, including one with his ex-wife. I don't trust him, at all, for good reason. Well, now he's verbally abusive, withholds sex (it's been over a year now), hides his income from the family, is cruel with his words, has told me he only married me to have influence over our daughter and that he doesn't love me. Moreover, he's cruel and exclusionary toward my son from my first marriage. I don't think it's possible to be a worse husband than mine is.
I know God allows for divorce in cases of adultery, though He does despise it. I have been praying for God to confirm that it's okay for me to leave this man, that it's in His will and I won't be in the "wilderness" apart from him if I do. I'm 99.9% ready to file for divorce and try to restore my self-esteem and my kids' self-esteem. Isn't there a time when divorce would be the best option and not outside of God's will? (oh, and DH doesn't believe in God either, and says the nastiest things about Him even though he'll sit in church with me on occasion. So we're unequally yoked too.)
Thanks for any perspective. I can't get through the book because I just have no love left for him and it's hard for me to wish good things for him when he is so cruel to me and my family.
I have to ask this, especially since so many are reading and posting on this thread: I've had this book for 8 years and have never managed to read it past the first chapter. I know I have a bad case of unforgiveness and revenge against my husband. He has had a couple of affairs, including one with his ex-wife. I don't trust him, at all, for good reason. Well, now he's verbally abusive, withholds sex (it's been over a year now), hides his income from the family, is cruel with his words, has told me he only married me to have influence over our daughter and that he doesn't love me. Moreover, he's cruel and exclusionary toward my son from my first marriage. I don't think it's possible to be a worse husband than mine is.
I know God allows for divorce in cases of adultery, though He does despise it. I have been praying for God to confirm that it's okay for me to leave this man, that it's in His will and I won't be in the "wilderness" apart from him if I do. I'm 99.9% ready to file for divorce and try to restore my self-esteem and my kids' self-esteem. Isn't there a time when divorce would be the best option and not outside of God's will? (oh, and DH doesn't believe in God either, and says the nastiest things about Him even though he'll sit in church with me on occasion. So we're unequally yoked too.)
Thanks for any perspective. I can't get through the book because I just have no love left for him and it's hard for me to wish good things for him when he is so cruel to me and my family.
