GLT- I read your post last night, but was too irritated to respond. I do not understand why men do this- what, suddenly he doesn't have to be responsible and take the high road anymore, just because he doesn't live with his kids now? WTH is up with taking a lesser paying job? That is just LOW. I don't even want to post words on what I think of him. My cousin's xDh played the same games with her. Although she did get to keep the house and 95% of their stuff with no argument from him, but he took a lesser paying job so he wouldn't have to pay her as much. Jerk.
Yes, everything will be worked out with a mediator; and they will see right through his games and side with you. Trust me.
Alisa- I had a long 'talk' with myself about finances last night. I just am making no headway with our final debt we owe on our visa. It's time to forsake the Gymbo until we can pay off some. Sob. I think I can afford to go buy the swimsuit next week, as I think that will go quickly, but the rest will have to wait for my 2 measly Gymbucks.
I just was sobbing last night to DH about finances and he was getting irritated with me, because ladies, things aren't that bad! I just feel stupid. We can afford all our bills, we can afford the basics in life, and occasionally a few luxuries. We had a long talk about how we're not overspenders and to keep things in perspective, although we still need to work on a few areas (ahem, Gymbo).
Then I had a little of enlightened moment. I thought of that Bible verse about being anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer, give thanks. And it gave me a sense of calmness. And then I thought about my friend Brandie- she called last night. Her brother and sil welcomed their 2nd son into the world. But it's not too joyous- he has no soft palate and symptoms of a disease called SLO (something about the body not making enough cholesterol and it causes severe developmental delays, as well as physical impairments) that his older brother has....basically their first son had a feeding and breathing tube for his first several months (the feeding tube much longer). He's 3.5 and just learning to walk and talk....he probably won't live past 18.....and now their second son has it as well, but even worse than their first son did at birth.
They knew that this was a possibility, but forged ahead as they were hoping for a miracle. Why am I worred about a few thousand dollars of debt, when this couple, who is so vivacious and lovely, now have two sons that will probably not live into adulthood.
And I thought of GLT and all the stress she is under, esp with finances.
I felt like a fool and cried some more.
I still think I am all fouled up hormonally because of the Depo.I think I will email my doctor and have her decide if it's anything they can do something about. I looked up signs and symptoms of depression last night, and of the 20 or so questions, I really only related to two of them. And guess what- those are strong side effects of the damn Depo. Coincidence? I think not.
On a bummer note, DH thinks he woke up with strep. I encouraged him to please go to the nurse treatment room at the hospital he works in and he promised he would. I like that- you just go in, give them your medical card, wait a few minutes for your turn, and then you can get swabbed for strep, get your vaccines or BIRTH CONTROL SHOTS
, BP checked, etc without having to make a doctor's appt. It's handy.
TTYL- thanks for letting me babble a bit this morning.
OH- and I talked to my neighbor. Baby Lily is putting some weight back on. She's been having to pump and bottle feed her, as well as supplement with formula, but hey, whatever works. The baby has thrush, so that was also interferring with nursing. She is feeling a lot better about the whole situation and I said, "Hey, however you can get her to eat is the RIGHT way to do things!" She said when I told her that on Sunday, it helped her tremendously and I helped her in more ways than I knew- it's always nice to get a compliment like that.
And WTH with kids just walking in--my dsis even knocks and she's here all the time! Trying REALLY hard not to look at gymbo--my mantra now is "don't need any more girls clothes, don't need any more girl's clothes!" 
Sounds like a great party!
I always wear my contacts too long, speaking of which I should probably make an appt. myself--BUT, oh, I have 2 small kids to take care of, so something must get pushed aside!
I think it's pretty funny we got each other in the Secret Santa exchange. 
get new license plates for my new van 
All a.m. my friend and her three kids and 2 of mine went to check out two vans that were both ready today. I called my dad from one of them, talked to him and he negotiated with the dealership -- I had to leave because of my court hearing.
My boss called me in (I didn't use any names luckily) and I ended up getting a raise 
