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[Piecey]

My girlfriend with twins updated her FB status. She lost both boys NYE, but mentioned they were fighters and tried their best.

 

[DannysMom]

My girlfriend with twins updated her FB status. She lost both boys NYE, but mentioned they were fighters and tried their best.

I'm so sorry for your friends' loss.

 

[TiggerStac]

My girlfriend with twins updated her FB status. She lost both boys NYE, but mentioned they were fighters and tried their best.

 

[staley7580]

My girlfriend with twins updated her FB status. She lost both boys NYE, but mentioned they were fighters and tried their best.

Im so sorry. Thats just awful.

You are going to have a full house!It's so hard....I don't know how to make the feeling go away. My gut tells me that we made the right decision, but my heart wants more babies. Maybe when Luca gets a little more self-sufficient, it will feel different....like we are in a different chapter of our lives. For now...especially since Luca STILL isn't sleeping through the night, I'm still in baby mode. Been there for the last 5 years and I don't know how to break free. Maybe a pina colada would do it!

Tell me about it. The more we talk about doing something permanent, the more my heart says.... NO!!!! We talked about it some more yesterday, and I think we will wait a couple of years and see where we are.

 

[TiggerStac]

Im so sorry. Thats just awful.


Tell me about it. The more we talk about doing something permanent, the more my heart says.... NO!!!! We talked about it some more yesterday, and I think we will wait a couple of years and see where we are.

We did something permanent a couple weeks ago. In my heart, if my OB hadn't said "you really shouldn't have anymore" I may have tried for another. But after everything I went thru with CJ and if the emergency csection was because of him, not me...my OB doesn't think he would have made it to him in time. That scared the you know what out of me. I scar really badly, I guess. I knew there was a lot of scar tissue after my first as it took longer to get to Brady, but with CJ, I was in the OR about 2 hours it took him about 30 minutes to get to him and then the rest to put me back together and try and clean up the scar tissue some...mind you, they cleaned me up after the 2nd section as well. It's just the way I heal.

But CJ's whole birth was scary...honestly I don't know if I could go thru it all again. Thankfully he's healthy now, but in the beginning, it was sooo scary!

 

[IHeartTink04]

Hey all,

I am absolutely devastated about having to return to work tomorrow after my maternity leave.

I know that I should be grateful to have a job and especially a teaching one where I will spend the summers with my baby and get off work at 3. Plus, my mother will be the one watching her but I just would love to be able to stay home with her myself. It was a dream of mine to be a SAHM.

My husband and I are considering me not working next year and we are going to try to see if we can swing it.

So all of you SAHM's how is it to survive on one income (my husband is a teacher too so his income isn't HUGE!)

Also, to all of you working moms, how is it going back?

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

We did something permanent a couple weeks ago. In my heart, if my OB hadn't said "you really shouldn't have anymore" I may have tried for another.
But CJ's whole birth was scary...honestly I don't know if I could go thru it all again. Thankfully he's healthy now, but in the beginning, it was sooo scary!

There's nothing scarier than when something goes wrong and your child is involved.

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Hey all,

I am absolutely devastated about having to return to work tomorrow after my maternity leave.

I know that I should be grateful to have a job and especially a teaching one where I will spend the summers with my baby and get off work at 3. Plus, my mother will be the one watching her but I just would love to be able to stay home with her myself. It was a dream of mine to be a SAHM.

My husband and I are considering me not working next year and we are going to try to see if we can swing it.

So all of you SAHM's how is it to survive on one income (my husband is a teacher too so his income isn't HUGE!)

Also, to all of you working moms, how is it going back?

Darn it, I meant to multi-quote.

I'm a SAHM and DH's salary is similar to a teacher (which he is currently in school for). I read your post and started thinking about how we do it...and I honestly don't know. It's hard sometimes....other times it's not. We live in an area with a lower cost of living so that helps. I think that you just do it. Just like if you were to add another kid...you would just find the money.

I would definitely love some suggestions of how to "do it" better!

 

[Piecey]

We're one income now, too. My pay stopped at the end of August!

I coupon. A lot. We have like 30 bottles of Shampoo/Conditioner upstairs because I got them for .25c a bottle. Same with toothpaste, DH's deoderant (I can never seem to find mine cheap!), diapers, wipes, etc.
If I find a deal I buy as much as I can store/afford to get. We've been using that stockpile of shampoo/conditioner since May and still have plenty.

I float money on credit cards, which I probably shouldn't do... but I do. I make purchases based on which card is the last one to have the statement cut over (therefor giving me the longest to get the money to pay it off)
We've yet to pay any interest and it helps me- especially with the rewards you can get these days!

I buy food on sale... for example, I went to Sams yesterday to buy formula and they had fresh chicken tenderloins $1.58 a lb. Unfortunately, they only had 1 pack left.. but I bought it, and would have bought a TON more if they'd had more.

If we have extra money (DH gets 3 paycheck months occassionally) I buy giftcards to places that are "treats" for us. That way, if we want to go to Red Lobster the majority of the meal is already paid for. That, and if a situation comes up and we need a gift we've already got one paid for.

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My friend (that has been TTC) called and invited us to dinner tonight. I declined... told DH I couldn't go and not tell her I'm pregnant. And I don't know how to tell her. Does anyone have any advice? I thought about waiting and hoping she gets pregnant this month but I don't know. Blah! I'm such a wuss.

 

[yellowfish78]

I'm probably doing damage to his eyes with this picture, but they were only on long enough for us to take the pic!

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Love it!

 

[staley7580]

I stay home, and honestly, we wouldnt be able to afford for me TO work. It has been SO tight for us this year. We got dh's last pay stub of the year and compared it to our last years... We made over $20,000 LESS this year then last. I can only hope people start building more airplanes next year.

But as to how we do it?? We only have one car.. We need to get a second now that Dh is on days, but no way will we have a second car payment. I shop in bulk and on sale. I dont do a whole lot of couponing..Most of the things I buy there aren't a whole lot of coupons for. I make everything from scratch. My own bread.. all that. Its healthier, and cheaper. I dont buy processed things. Clothes on clearance, or on good sales.. Just keep you eyes open for deals.

Oh, and to those of us on WIC and getting TONS of baby food.. You can use the fruit in brownies in stead of oil. It tastes better, WAY more dense and its healthier! Also you can use the veggie in meatloaf and meatballs. Maybe its just us, but I get a BAZILLION jars of baby food, and we dont use it anymore. So I take most of it to the food bank, and keep some for baking. I also made banana bread with the banana baby food.

 

[TiggerStac]

Thanks for the tips on staying home... I'm hoping to stay home again by the end of the school year.

I need to learn to adjust my spending and continue to pay off debt..says the one who just booked another trip to WDW. But for me, this is low key....we are getting a 1br at BWV and I am planning on cooking most breakfasts, a dinner or 2 and having lunch in there if we are at the resort. That is sooo not me, but if we are getting the villa w/kitchen, I'm going to take advantage of it. We got the 45% off deal that's going on now, so I splurged for the 1br so hubby and I can have our own space. Honestly, I work for our trips, my pictures and so we can get new cars every 2 years. I love my photographer and my pictures of my boys. I can deal w/out the new car every couple years and trips....our options will go down once CJ hits 3 as we're a family of 5, but that's ok.

I stayed home w/my oldest and seemed to constantly be out shopping, because we were home. With 3, don't think that'll happen. It's hard enough juggling the schedule!

 

[Laura]

I've been out of the loop for the holidays, but I do see that Piecey has some exciting news! Congrats, Patsy!

 

[sbell111]

I'm way out of the loop and behind on this thread, but here's a couple pics of the Wiggly One:

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Absolutely adorable!

 

[harleyquinn]

Hey all,

I am absolutely devastated about having to return to work tomorrow after my maternity leave.

I know that I should be grateful to have a job and especially a teaching one where I will spend the summers with my baby and get off work at 3. Plus, my mother will be the one watching her but I just would love to be able to stay home with her myself. It was a dream of mine to be a SAHM.

My husband and I are considering me not working next year and we are going to try to see if we can swing it.

So all of you SAHM's how is it to survive on one income (my husband is a teacher too so his income isn't HUGE!)

Also, to all of you working moms, how is it going back?

Well, I guess I'm the only working mom around right now! lol

I just started back full time today, but I've been pretty close to that for the last 3 months. At first its really hard, but now, I know it's the best choice for us. DH is a teacher. If he had is masters and was making max pay, I would probably find a way to work part time.

But I love my job. I love the library and the families and getting out of the house. I love that Lily has lots of time with her grandma, great grandma and great aunt. She loves them all tons and I think she's a better baby for having interaction with other people on a weekly basis.

But that's not what you asked!

Going back was hard, but honestly? I think it was really really good for me. I'm not the type of person who can deal with a baby 24/7. Sometimes I really look forward to going to work on Monday. It helps that I love my job and that most times my job is easy and rewarding.

Tips for going back to work? I guess the ones I have all revolve around breast feeding...do you need those? Other than that, you just do it and cope. It honestly does get easier.

I'm way out of the loop and behind on this thread, but here's a couple pics of the Wiggly One:

Thanks for sharing!! She is gorgeous!! How are you all doing?

 

[harleyquinn]

Crap! Duh you went back today! Hoep everything worked out okay. It really does get better!

 

[sbell111]

Thanks for sharing!! She is gorgeous!! How are you all doing?

Mostly, we're doing great. Cathy's pretty exhausted and we are still having tons of trouble getting Sarah to go to sleep in her cradle some nights, but it will all work out.

 

[harleyquinn]

Mostly, we're doing great. Cathy's pretty exhausted and we are still having tons of trouble getting Sarah to go to sleep in her cradle some nights, but it will all work out.

I understand and I hope it gets better soon!