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[Piecey]

I wouldn't know where to put me on the parenting spectrium...I don't co-sleep, I don't cloth diaper, I don't baby wear (but wish I would have done more of that earlier). I do BF, it started off because its cheap -)) but now I love doing it. I'm afraid of how I'm going to feel when I go back to work on Monday, just for that reason...

I remember getting a story from my mom about how she never BF her oldest (just wasn't thought of) and she tried with my other brother and me but couldn't do it because it didn't feel right. She used to tell me that "formula" for my oldest brother was canned milk, water and Karo syrup... Now that is interesting!

Patsy -

I never answered your earlier question, I'm sorry!!

It's an infantino carrier from Toys R Us.

DH's grandmother told us that was her "formula" too!

I think the only thing that has driven me nuts about moms with Lucas is not listening to me. Only happened a few times...

My MIL gave Lucas REAL applesauce this last weekend. I was so peeved.
My mom kept giving him water and I kept saying "no, give him formula."

My mom is pretty careful because I had a lot of issues with my parents growing up.. we just clashed and as soon as I was old enough, I moved out. I think they expected me to withhold grandkids.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

Pasty- so sorry to hear things are just not good between you and your Dh.

I have not read Dr. Sears book so I don't know what kind of Mom I am. I couldn't b/f, no milk came in for me. So we bottle feed. Natalie sleeps in her crib in her room and has since we brought her home. Her room in close to ours. I sometimes carry her in a sling, she is getting heavy to carry in my arms. Oh, and we use pampers. Hello landfill. I am also what they consider a mother of advanced age


What's everyone doing for Thanksgiving? We are heading to my in-laws for dinner. I am glad I don't have to cook since we leave the next day for Disney. Although my parents are bummed that there won't be any leftovers for them to munch on while they watch the baby for us.

 

[staley7580]

We are hanging here at home.. i hope. We might get roped into going to my Grandmas house, but I hope not. My husband had the whole week off, so we might not even have dinner that day. Or at all. I just dont know yet. We get a free Turkey from his work. Should be today or tomorrow. But we are HAM people!

 

[december]

First, the "fun" stuff: I kind of fit with attachment parenting. I don't cloth diaper (too lazy for that!) but I cosleep (pure laziness-just makes my life easier) and breastfeed (ds12 for 18 mos, dd10 for 4 days due to seizures, Katie for at least 18 months I hope). I also have an Ergo. I haven't used it much, but enjoyed a Walmart trip with it last week. I got alot of looks, and many positive comments. I have NEVER seen anyone baby wearing here.

My family is all for the cosleeping, not so much the breastfeeding. At this point, I really quite enjoy grossing them out. We were eating at my parents' house Sunday, and I was sitting next to my sister. Katie got fussy, and I pulled out the wrap (that she made me!) and covered up so no one could see anything. She still got up and left the table.

And my mother asked why I couldn't just bring a bottle when I'm out. She never nursed, so she doesn't understand that if I give her a bottle then I need to pump! And she doesn't understand why I won't just switch her to cow's milk, at 6 mos old! My grandmother on the other hand is very supportive, since she saw on the news that breastfeeding was a good preventative to swine flu. Of course they all think I'm starving her to death not feeding her straight from the table!

Now for the serious stuff:

Patsy, I'm so sorry. I feel like we all know each other from this thread, and my heart breaks for you. I'm glad you have the guts to stand up for yourself, and for Lucas. If he won't get help, you have to get out!

 

[Piecey]

DH's grandmother is having dinner @ 1pm two hours from here. I don't know if I'm going or not.. if I don't, I don't figure I'll get Lucas back to go to my family's dinner sooo who knows.
I have to go to my family... my crazy Aunt is driving up. Mostly because my cousin is having a baby shower Saturday. I had mine the Saturday after Easter and she came up.. so my cousin is having hers the Saturday after Thanksgiving and she is coming up.

At least we time things to make it easy on her!

I also just got e-mailed this "recipe" and I think they're adorable!!

 

[caitty13]

I also just got e-mailed this "recipe" and I think they're adorable!!

Where can I find the recipe? DS4 would have fun making these.

 

[yellowfish78]

Thanksgiving is being spent at a friends house. Her and my mother offered to cook so I didnt' have to0, but I'm making pumpkin rolls. DH doesn't get a turkey for Thanksgiving, he gets a Honeybaked Ham for Christmas. The bad thing is, we don't like Honeybaked. Well, we do...but we can't "cook" with it...no ham and eggs, no ham and cheese sandwiches, no ham and bean soup...it's just too sweet! We've repeatedly asked his boss to either give us a gift card for Honeybaked (their side dishes rock!) or a $50 bonus so we can buy our own.

I'll have to check out the infantino and the ergo...I've seen women in our Walmart with the wraps that are just adorable, but it seems so hard (for any carrier) to get the kid out of the car seat, get the carrier hooked up, get the kid in the carrier.....

 

[MelessaG]

My SIL and DH's favorite aunt are visiting which means we will be with his family for most of Thanksgiving Day. And that means I will have to answer the "NOW will you get your tubes tied?!" question at least three times (once from his step-mom and each step-sister). I've told them many times that DH is free to get snipped if he wants, but that I will never get my tubes tied. (I have nothing against the surgery, I've just chosen not to have it. Honestly, I think those three bugging me about it for the last 8 years has everything to do with that choice.) But that doesn't stop them from badgering me. I feel like telling them I just had a personal "revelation" that I shouldn't ever use birth control again and have as many kids as I can between now and menopause.

SIL lives in Louisiana and favorite Aunt lives in Florida. Seeing them had better be worth the otherwise unpleasant afternoon. Afterwards we will go to my grandparents' house. They live about two hours north of here. I'm hoping to stay a couple of days there before we come home.

 

[MelessaG]

Where can I find the recipe? DS4 would have fun making these.

Ditto!

 

[staley7580]

My SIL and DH's favorite aunt are visiting which means we will be with his family for most of Thanksgiving Day. And that means I will have to answer the "NOW will you get your tubes tied?!" question at least three times (once from his step-mom and each step-sister). I've told them many times that DH is free to get snipped if he wants, but that I will never get my tubes tied. (I have nothing against the surgery, I've just chosen not to have it. Honestly, I think those three bugging me about it for the last 8 years has everything to do with that choice.) But that doesn't stop them from badgering me. I feel like telling them I just had a personal "revelation" that I shouldn't ever use birth control again and have as many kids as I can between now and menopause.

SIL lives in Louisiana and favorite Aunt lives in Florida. Seeing them had better be worth the otherwise unpleasant afternoon. Afterwards we will go to my grandparents' house. They live about two hours north of here. I'm hoping to stay a couple of days there before we come home.

I HATE that! My dh absolutely does NOT want me to get my tubes ties. He was all ready to get the snip-snip.. Well.. You guys know how that went. Now we are thinking that we might by better off just waiting a while to see what happens. Maybe we will be three or four years down the road, and we wll want more kids. I dont think its anyones business but ours!! I hate it when people get all over our case about having babies!

 

[harleyquinn]

I hope the few comments on here I've made about how I could never co-sleep didn't come across as my judging you guys...

No, no! Not at all! My DH is the same way. He would never be comfortable doing what I do. I hope my comments aren't doing the same the other way.

I would KILL to have Lily in her crib or anywhere really.

I think I'm really only AP by necessity--I just find that I'm enjoying it!

And I never felt judged about co-sleeping. I wasn't even sure I was going to do it this time because Alexis turned out to be such a tiny thing that it made me nervous. Now that she has filled out, can support her head, neck, and shoulders, and roll over on her own; I feel a lot better about it. She still starts the night in her crib though, because she goes to sleep before I do.

I wish I could Lily to do that--it's my goal. Right now she goes to sleep way too late, between 10-11, but she usually gets really tired around 8, but it's nearly impossible to get her to sleep then and stay asleep, even holding her.

I have not read Dr. Sears book so I don't know what kind of Mom I am. I couldn't b/f, no milk came in for me. So we bottle feed. Natalie sleeps in her crib in her room and has since we brought her home. Her room in close to ours. I sometimes carry her in a sling, she is getting heavy to carry in my arms. Oh, and we use pampers. Hello landfill. I am also what they consider a mother of advanced age


What's everyone doing for Thanksgiving? We are heading to my in-laws for dinner. I am glad I don't have to cook since we leave the next day for Disney. Although my parents are bummed that there won't be any leftovers for them to munch on while they watch the baby for us.

Ahh! I didn't mean to label everyone! I phrased my question stupidly!

I guess the one thing about AP is that they really don't believe in CIO or corporal punishment. It's very hippie to me. lol It's kind of--go with your instincts instead of following society's norms--which I think is funny as it seems that a lot of the practices seem to be becoming more mainstream.

I'm a very moderate APer lol. Babywearing sounds cool, but I don't want her on me all the time. I bf because it's cheap, healthier and I got lucky and managed to have a good supply. And cosleeping started as a necessity and now I really enjoy it.

So sorry if I offended everyone...I really have no idea what I'm doing! lol

 

[MelessaG]

I HATE that! My dh absolutely does NOT want me to get my tubes ties. He was all ready to get the snip-snip.. Well.. You guys know how that went. Now we are thinking that we might by better off just waiting a while to see what happens. Maybe we will be three or four years down the road, and we wll want more kids. I dont think its anyones business but ours!! I hate it when people get all over our case about having babies!

What annoys me is that now people in public places (stores, the kids' school, etc...) now feel like they get to tell me "5 is too many" just because they see me there and count all the 'mini-me's' following me. (My kids all look so much like each other AND me that there's no question who they are with when you look at us.) It's MY business folks. Especially since none of your tax dollars go to support us. Which reminds me, I really need to call & make an appt. with WIC...

(Alexis and I qualify, but the office where I'm supposed to sign up at is over 30 minutes from here. I'm not sure with the cost of gas that the vouchers would even be worth it.)

 

[harleyquinn]

I'll have to check out the infantino and the ergo...I've seen women in our Walmart with the wraps that are just adorable, but it seems so hard (for any carrier) to get the kid out of the car seat, get the carrier hooked up, get the kid in the carrier.....

I got a Mei Tai off of Etsy. They are supposed to be really easy to use and very versitile. There are videoes that show you how to use them.

 

[staley7580]

No, no! Not at all! My DH is the same way. He would never be comfortable doing what I do. I hope my comments aren't doing the same the other way.

I would KILL to have Lily in her crib or anywhere really.

I think I'm really only AP by necessity--I just find that I'm enjoying it!


I wish I could Lily to do that--it's my goal. Right now she goes to sleep way too late, between 10-11, but she usually gets really tired around 8, but it's nearly impossible to get her to sleep then and stay asleep, even holding her.



Ahh! I didn't mean to label everyone! I phrased my question stupidly!

I guess the one thing about AP is that they really don't believe in CIO or corporal punishment. It's very hippie to me. lol It's kind of--go with your instincts instead of following society's norms--which I think is funny as it seems that a lot of the practices seem to be becoming more mainstream.

I'm a very moderate APer lol. Babywearing sounds cool, but I don't want her on me all the time. I bf because it's cheap, healthier and I got lucky and managed to have a good supply. And cosleeping started as a necessity and now I really enjoy it.

So sorry if I offended everyone...I really have no idea what I'm doing! lol

NO!!! I know you didnt offend me! You are fine!

What annoys me is that now people in public places (stores, the kids' school, etc...) now feel like they get to tell me "5 is too many" just because they see me there and count all the 'mini-me's' following me. (My kids all look so much like each other AND me that there's no question who they are with when you look at us.) It's MY business folks. Especially since none of your tax dollars go to support us. Which reminds me, I really need to call & make an appt. with WIC...

(Alexis and I qualify, but the office where I'm supposed to sign up at is over 30 minutes from here. I'm not sure with the cost of gas that the vouchers would even be worth it.)

I get it too! Arent you DONE having kids yet?? Shut up. I wonder what is the acceptable number of children to have? 2?? 3??

We are on WIC. I just love going to the grocery store and having everyone stare at me with all my kids... getting my wic stuff. I want to SCREAM at them. GUESS WHAT!!! When I got pregnant we were making TWICE what we are now! We didnt know the economy would bomb like this, and my husbands hours would get cut in half.. I wouldnt have even gone on it if not for the formula.

 

[staley7580]

I got a Mei Tai off of Etsy. They are supposed to be really easy to use and very versitile. There are videoes that show you how to use them.

I made my own.. It is SUPER easy! I love it! I can front carry.. side carry.. and now that they are big enough, Ill bet I can back carry. I havent tried it yet. Im afraid the straps would cut into my fat and make me look like a strung ham.

 

[caitty13]

Which reminds me, I really need to call & make an appt. with WIC...

(Alexis and I qualify, but the office where I'm supposed to sign up at is over 30 minutes from here. I'm not sure with the cost of gas that the vouchers would even be worth it.)

We are on WIC. I just love going to the grocery store and having everyone stare at me with all my kids... getting my wic stuff. I want to SCREAM at them. GUESS WHAT!!! When I got pregnant we were making TWICE what we are now! We didnt know the economy would bomb like this, and my husbands hours would get cut in half.. I wouldnt have even gone on it if not for the formula.

We are on WIC too. My husband lost his job last spring, so he stay's home. He does most of he WIC run's. The new food package is great though.
The formula is why I when on it to. The new package has baby food and if your BF'ing fulltime you get fruits, vegges and meat.

 

[december]

This thread is moving fast tonight!

I got to hear all the crap, and I only have 3. It is because my older two were so much older, though. No one could believe we did it on purpose. People at work even felt free to tell me I was stupid (exact words) or that they felt sorry for me! Then of course, as a high school teacher, I got to hear it from my kids. On of them even had the nerve to ask if I was embarassed to be pregnant at my age (I was 35 at the time).

I did get my tubes tied, but it was my decision. It was a hard one, though. And yes, people staying on me would make me more apt to have more! If it was up to dh, I'd be pregnant again right now, so a snip was out of the question.

We go to my parents' for Thanksgiving. I cook here the Wed before. Usually I cook a wild turkey, courtesy of dh, but he didn't kill any last year. I love turkey leftovers! The last couple of years, we've also done Bass Pro on Thanksgiving, and that is alot of fun.

 

[Piecey]

Where can I find the recipe? DS4 would have fun making these.

Ditto!

Sorry. That would have helped, huh?? I even remember thinking that I should print it because I bet Lucas would have fun making them in a few years.

http://www.pillsbury.com/Recipes/Sh...09&rvrin=33D904DE-B0A8-481A-BC27-C8D4783BBA79

No, no! Not at all! My DH is the same way. He would never be comfortable doing what I do. I hope my comments aren't doing the same the other way.

I would KILL to have Lily in her crib or anywhere really.

I think I'm really only AP by necessity--I just find that I'm enjoying it!


I wish I could Lily to do that--it's my goal. Right now she goes to sleep way too late, between 10-11, but she usually gets really tired around 8, but it's nearly impossible to get her to sleep then and stay asleep, even holding her.



Ahh! I didn't mean to label everyone! I phrased my question stupidly!

I guess the one thing about AP is that they really don't believe in CIO or corporal punishment. It's very hippie to me. lol It's kind of--go with your instincts instead of following society's norms--which I think is funny as it seems that a lot of the practices seem to be becoming more mainstream.

I'm a very moderate APer lol. Babywearing sounds cool, but I don't want her on me all the time. I bf because it's cheap, healthier and I got lucky and managed to have a good supply. And cosleeping started as a necessity and now I really enjoy it.

So sorry if I offended everyone...I really have no idea what I'm doing! lol

No offense taken. Trust me, I'm VERY grateful Lucas has slept in his crib since day 1 and that he slept through the night so early.
I got very lucky.

NO!!! I know you didnt offend me! You are fine!

I get it too! Arent you DONE having kids yet?? Shut up. I wonder what is the acceptable number of children to have? 2?? 3??

We are on WIC. I just love going to the grocery store and having everyone stare at me with all my kids... getting my wic stuff. I want to SCREAM at them. GUESS WHAT!!! When I got pregnant we were making TWICE what we are now! We didnt know the economy would bomb like this, and my husbands hours would get cut in half.. I wouldnt have even gone on it if not for the formula.

The only thing that bugs me about people on WIC are people like my BIL's girlfriend. She gets WIC, HUD, food stamps, etc. and has never worked a day in her life. She is not paying into the system at ALL and getting a TON of benefits back. Why? Because my BIL won't marry her and she pretends he doesn't exist. So they live together and he makes out on all her federal aid and just packs his stuff and leaves whenever the HUD inspector stops by.

DH and I are not eligible for WIC, even w/o my income. BIL's girlfriend constantly makes comments to us about how I have stockpiles of stuff like frozen/canned veggies, meats, cereal, baby food, etc.
It's because I coupon and take advantage of sales but his entire family, who are on federal aid, give me crap about it and refer to us as "moneybags."

This thread is moving fast tonight!

I got to hear all the crap, and I only have 3. It is because my older two were so much older, though. No one could believe we did it on purpose. People at work even felt free to tell me I was stupid (exact words) or that they felt sorry for me! Then of course, as a high school teacher, I got to hear it from my kids. On of them even had the nerve to ask if I was embarassed to be pregnant at my age (I was 35 at the time).

I did get my tubes tied, but it was my decision. It was a hard one, though. And yes, people staying on me would make me more apt to have more! If it was up to dh, I'd be pregnant again right now, so a snip was out of the question.

We go to my parents' for Thanksgiving. I cook here the Wed before. Usually I cook a wild turkey, courtesy of dh, but he didn't kill any last year. I love turkey leftovers! The last couple of years, we've also done Bass Pro on Thanksgiving, and that is alot of fun.

It totally goes both ways on getting tubes tied. I was discussing it with my cousin (who works in L&D at the hospital I loathe) that I would want my tubes tied after #2. Originally the plan was for DH to get the snip-snip, but since I'll be doing scheduled c-section (if it happens again) I decided it made more sense for me to ahead and get my tubes tied.
My cousin said MOST OBs (I haven't talked to mine about it because I'm not 100% sure yet) won't tie tubes on people as young as I am. In a perfect world, I'd have my second/final kiddo when I was 24. So apparently I am too young to make the choice.

 

[yellowfish78]

Patsy, my cousin is 31 annd they wouldn't tie her tubes. She lost her first baby at 28 weeks and found out she had a blood disease, then got pregnant again and had to take daily blood thinner shots making her extremely high risk. They decided to not have anymore children after this one because she is high risk, but the doctor said to wait. I really think it should be up to us, not the doctor.

 

[MelessaG]

I really think it should be up to us, not the doctor.

Exactly. Those decisions should really be left up to the us. Not the doctor, not our families, not our friends/co-workers, and certainly not the nosy people at the grocery store who say "I can't believe she's an only child. " OR "Don't you know what causes that?" interchangeably depending on their audience. /RANT