The new "New Moms" thread!

[k_reile]

Ash- Congrats on losing 27lb that is awesome and you should be really proud of yourself! I too am trying to lose weight. The baby weight and all the extra I had before. I want to lose 50-60 lbs to get to my healthy weight. Lost almost 10lbs this past month. I don;t think I have lost that much yet to be able to really tell...but enough to get me motivated to want to lose more.

My BIG news...well big to me anyways. I can wear my wedding ring again. I have not been able to wear it since at least the end of June 2008 whenever I started swelling soo bad and with all the extra weight I gained...it just never was able to go back on. Well I got the wedding band on. The engagement ring is a little tighter but I can get it on if I want to. I think I will wait a while on wearing the engagement ring. DH bought me a mothers ring that is supposed to go behind my wedding band and it pushes up my engagement ring and makes it a little tighter. If all goes right anyways....then I should have to have them all made smaller!

In Caleb news...the 2nd tooth is now coming (both bottom) so I think that is why he has been up during the night twice since Sat night. I made sure I gave him tyenol and baby orajel and he was out before I even left the room. Hopefully tonight is a good night especially since I have not gone to bed yet. Which I need to do now!
Night!

 

[beckmrk04]

This is totally changing the subject, but does anyone just feel like being really mean sometimes? Not PMSY or anything, but ok.... DH has always got his ipod stuck in his ears- day, night, while he's sleeping... And I would love to hide it without him knowing that I hid it just to mess with him and then OMG look it's been in the desk drawer all along! How did you survive? But sadly he never lets it out of his sight for long enough... I don't know. Maybe it's just me.

Um, I feel like being really mean almost daily. Sometimes my inner brat even forces me to act on it.


And I am sort of trying to lose weight. Well, really, I'm trying to work on a few specific habits. BUT- one of my best friends may be deciding to get married soon, and I told Mark that I have GOT to lose weight before I am in another wedding! So, we are going to go check out treadmills again, and now that the weather is warming up it will be easier (and more enjoyable) to get outside and walk.

I am down about 7-8 lbs from my heaviest, so I'm ok with that- not too bad since I'm not working *too* hard at it- just trying to drink more water, less coke, eat more fruit. Taking baby steps.

 

[beckmrk04]

Bethany- that's great that you made a new mom-friend! And I wouldn't worry too much about the hyper-materialistic mommies. Their kids poop just like the rest of ours.

I have to admit, sometimes I get caught up in some of it. I mean, I'd be lying if I said I never did- I own a $300 stroller. But, I do love it. But, I'm tend to be more practical about my spendiness- like I paid a lot for my stroller, but I did so out of my yard-sale profits and I picked this one because it has bicycle-like tires that can handle the crappy sidewalks and roads around here.

But on most things, like kid's clothes- eh. I love Gymboree, but I won't buy anything there unless it's at least 40% off! I just can't see paying more for Vaylie's clothes than I do my own because she outgrows things so quickly!

In the end, we're all moms just trying to do the best we can- I'm glad you found someone you could connect with.

(BTW- I live in the "sketchy" area too, but my area is more of a rednecky, racist, anti-diversity, homophobic, cheaper part of the county, where we got our house so cheap we practically stole it. You do what you gotta do. )

 

[lilianddomsmom]

Thanks everyone for the warm welcome

7beasley- yeah my sons name is dominik (wanted to spell it a little different than others)

That's funny that so many people are celebrating their 5th anniversary this year because dh and I are also celebrating our 5th in september

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Hey ladies...looks like I have a bunch to read and catch-up on!

We have been soooooooooooooooo sick. DH came home early yesterday from work, throwing-up every 10 min. Then it finally hit me later in the afternoon. Brady was still sick as well....and it all came to a climax last night at 9:30. I had just run to the bathroom to get sick, Brady started throwing-up in his crib, DH ran to get him, and also started getting sick. I attempted to go help, but passed out en-route. I woke-up to DH holding a puke-covered, screaming Brady. He had called my parents to come and help. They came and took Brady, because we were in no shape to take care of him. It was just AWFUL not being able to take care of your own child. The good news is that we are all on the mend, although now my parents have it. I think I've lost at least 5 lbs since it started 24 hours ago. CRAZY!

Off to bed...will be back to read more tomorrow and catch-up!

Yikes, Kelly!!! Wow, I'm glad your parents were able to help and you guys are getting better. Sounds like a nasty time there. Take it easy and hope you are all doing 100% better soon.

So how many other people are trying to lose weight? I've been working on it since Ellery's birthday in December, and I'm down 27 lbs. In one way I'm really proud of myself and in another I'm disappointed because no one can really act like they can tell. I'm down a full clothing size, maybe a little more. I guess since I got so out of shape no one is going to notice until I'm not fat anymore. I'm just waiting for someone to tell me I look fab!

Wow, that's awesome that you've lost 27lbs!!!! I'm really impressed, Ash!

I'm still trying to lose weight, too. I'd love to lose another 17lbs, but I'm trying to be realistic and my current goal is to lose another 7lbs in addition to the 3lbs I lost already, but then I ate a box of girl scout cookies in just 2 days all by myself. I haven't weighed myself to see what damage that did. I try to just weigh myself once a week so I don't obsess.

Bethany- that's great that you made a new mom-friend! And I wouldn't worry too much about the hyper-materialistic mommies. Their kids poop just like the rest of ours.

I have to admit, sometimes I get caught up in some of it. I mean, I'd be lying if I said I never did- I own a $300 stroller. But, I do love it. But, I'm tend to be more practical about my spendiness- like I paid a lot for my stroller, but I did so out of my yard-sale profits and I picked this one because it has bicycle-like tires that can handle the crappy sidewalks and roads around here.

But on most things, like kid's clothes- eh. I love Gymboree, but I won't buy anything there unless it's at least 40% off! I just can't see paying more for Vaylie's clothes than I do my own because she outgrows things so quickly!

In the end, we're all moms just trying to do the best we can- I'm glad you found someone you could connect with.

(BTW- I live in the "sketchy" area too, but my area is more of a rednecky, racist, anti-diversity, homophobic, cheaper part of the county, where we got our house so cheap we practically stole it. You do what you gotta do. )

Normally I don't particularly care what people spend their money on, but I have to say that these particular moms are just over the top. A $300 stroller is one of the inexpensive ones for them. I have a $100 stroller and a $10 got-it-at-a-yard-sale stroller, so the stroller line up looks a little odd. I really wouldn't care, but they like to talk about what they spent on things, and in the opposite way that I usually do. I like to find a bargain, they like to compare how much they've spent and say things like "isn't that shirt he's wearing cute? $70 at the new boutique." or "I just found the best diaper bag! It was $225." So that's why I've been a little hesitant about joining in with this moms group. But the moms group in my neighborhood doesn't have very much going on, and the few things they do have tend to be during Owen's nap times. So I decided to get over my issues with their money and go make some friends.

 

[jennyL]

Well if its not one thing its another. I know some of you saw on facebook but I got the call from daycare yesterday to come and get Noah they think he has pink eye. So I get there and his eye is red but theres no goopy stuff. Since I don't really know but always assumed that pink eye ment goopy stuff but whatever. I took him home for his nap since the doctors office was closed for lunch and then over to the doctors. Nope not pink eye and by the time we got there his eye was pretty much clear. The doctor did write me a note though so DH is taking Noah back to school today.

Since I had to leave and get him yesterday he got to go to the doctor with me and get my stitches out. DH did meet us there so he didn't have to go in with me which was nice but I was in and out pretty quick. The margins on this removal were clear so alls good with that now.

So now that the stitches are out I still have to be careful but I plan to start getting back on my elliptical and trying to loose some of the extra weight. DH and I have talked about TTC again starting on our cruise (which is perfect timing) and I'd love to be down at least 10-15lbs by then. Right now I'm were I was before Noah but that was up a little from where I should have been.

 

[7beasley]

Hi guys...

Ash - great job on the weight loss...I am trying -- but not really succeeding.

Jenny -- hope Noah is ok!

Bethany -- the play date sounds great - glad it went well

Hello to all!!

Well -- it seems that Izzy has what Kelly's Brady has/had!!

Daycare called me about 2pm yesterday to say she was projectile vomitting. I left work and picked her up - got her home and she was sleepy and refused to eat. Finally around 630pm she ate some soup (and when she started to eat it she kept eating it - she was hungry!!)

I thought she was doing better.

Then she threw up everywhere at 1am

Then again at 430am

Then again this morning around 8am

and she is running a low grade fever and is super crabby, lethargic and won't eat or drink

I have a call into the pedetrician.

I hope DH and I don"t get sick too!!!

-Nicole

 

[DMickey28]

Hey ladies...looks like I have a bunch to read and catch-up on!

We have been soooooooooooooooo sick. DH came home early yesterday from work, throwing-up every 10 min. Then it finally hit me later in the afternoon. Brady was still sick as well....and it all came to a climax last night at 9:30. I had just run to the bathroom to get sick, Brady started throwing-up in his crib, DH ran to get him, and also started getting sick. I attempted to go help, but passed out en-route. I woke-up to DH holding a puke-covered, screaming Brady. He had called my parents to come and help. They came and took Brady, because we were in no shape to take care of him. It was just AWFUL not being able to take care of your own child. The good news is that we are all on the mend, although now my parents have it. I think I've lost at least 5 lbs since it started 24 hours ago. CRAZY!

Off to bed...will be back to read more tomorrow and catch-up!

Oh my ... I am so glad that your parents where close enough to come help. I have NO IDEA what I would do in that situation! I'd probably have to call DH's best friends girlfriend to come help! We have no one here. I am glad you guys are on the mend.

This is totally changing the subject, but does anyone just feel like being really mean sometimes? Not PMSY or anything, but ok.... DH has always got his ipod stuck in his ears- day, night, while he's sleeping... And I would love to hide it without him knowing that I hid it just to mess with him and then OMG look it's been in the desk drawer all along! How did you survive? But sadly he never lets it out of his sight for long enough... I don't know. Maybe it's just me.

I feel like being mean almost everyday. Not so much to DH but just to the stupid people out in public. However the whole ipod would drive me NUTS and while I think I am a fairly laid back wife I would not allow it!! Honestly ... that's just not cool to have it on all the time even when he is home with his family.

As for the weight. I can't seem to get anything in gear to diet or go to the gym on a regular basis. It's horrible! I am about the same weight I was when I got PG with DS but that was up about 20lbs from my comfort weight which is STILL a few pounds up from my ideal weight!!! I'd love to lose about 30lbs rightnow but I really need to do something for that to happen.

I woke up this AM to pouring rain and had no idea what the sound was. It's been sooo long since we had more than a passing shower. It's great. I am going to make something nice and homey for dinner!! I have to pretend it's cold outside.

Oh ... I got an email this AM at 2:00 from Gymboree saying that the one we go to is closing down as of Tuesday, March 17th. Um, wasn't that yesterday? I just paid for a new month last week and missed the two weeks before that. I better get some money back!

 

[k_reile]

Caleb and I went for a walk yesteday after we got home since it was soo nice out. we live in the country and walked down to the stop sign about a half mile down and back. Took the dog....turn around and two of my outside cats were following me. THe one took the whole entire walk with me. It was too funny. And she probably could have used the walk too to get off the winter weight. THe other decided to head back home when she about go run over by a car.

He went to bed last night before I even left the room. He woke up about 1:30am and fussed so I gave him more tyenol and baby orajel and he went back to sleep! Which was good bc mommy had a hard time dragging her but out of bed this AM.

Hope all the sick kiddos get better and the mommies and daddies don;t get it also!

My DH thinks I am mean bc I took away the debit and credit cards (in my defense I took mine away too) and we are using cash for our gas and a little extra for the week. I am tired of using the debit and credit cards on a whim and think we will use less money that way. We were both too depenent on them and there were so many debits that it had my check book all messed up. So for now on...the checkbook is for bills only!

 

[ashjohnson80]

I could never lose any weight either until I started keeping a food diary. Right after I got married in '02 I was diagnosed with hashimotos hypothyroid stuff... And the hashimoto's had caused me to be really depressed so they put me on all kinds of antidepressants and I went from being from a normal range bmi to being obese in a matter of a couple of months. So I've been trying to lose it since then. I haven't been able to wear my engagement ring since early '03. I'm going to be in a friend's wedding next month so that's been extra motivation for me. I ordered this dress yesterday in a mossy green, http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/pr...ry=Rosette&defaultSizeTypeFromCategory=Misses
I hope that it fits. I ordered it off of ebay because I got an awesome deal on it. I was hoping to order a smaller size by this point, but what can ya do... If it's a little big I can have it taken in, but you can't do anything if a dress is too small.

Ellery notices everything! I just sat the computer speaker down on its side in front of the computer to keep the computer from buzzing and she came up and said "uh oh!" and pointed at it. I didn't think she would notice that!

 

[DMickey28]

Argh ... the debit card sucks. I haven't taken ours away yet and we are getting better with them but the money just seems to walk off the cards.

Our cats do that too .. one more than the other. He'll follow us all the way around the block!

 

[wdwchewy]

I'm fairly new to the boards. Have lurked and read for years and every once in a while will post. I am feeling the need to post more as I just had a baby and could use some moral support.

I was due on April 28. On Friday, March 6, I woke up around 5pm (I work nights in an ER and had worked the night before) and was cramping and felt some contractions. Wasn't too bad so I did a couple things and made some phone calls. Called DH and let him know. I called the OB and he told me to come into the hospital to get checked out. By now it is 6pm and I had about an hour before DH would get home. I took a shower and made myself something or dinner. That's when it happened.

I was walking with a drink in my hand and felt woozy and slammed into the wall. I spilled my drink so I got on my hands and knees and started sopping up. I felt a gush. Thought that my water had broke so I went to the bathroom. It wasn't water. I was bleeding - bad. I called DH and he said to call an ambulance. I did not (we both work in the medical field and I knew where the ambulance would take me. It was not where I needed or wanted to be. I took a chance.) I called my SIL and she came within 10 minutes to get me. I didn't have much time to react. Went upstairs and through stuff in a bag, not really knowing what I was grabbing. I couldn't think straight. I knew what was happening and that was all I was thinking about.

We got to the hospital around 730. I was taken up to maternity and I really don't remember much after that. I knew I hadn't felt her move and all I could think was that I had lost our baby. I saw my DH come through the door and remember feeling a sense of calm.

I had a placental abruption. I was taken to the OR for an emergent C-section. I had to be intubated. (not how I had planned to deliver!) When the baby was taken out, she had no pulse and had the cord wrapped around her neck. They intubated and were able to save her. I was also almost not so lucky. I lost a lot of blood and dropped my pressure. I woke up in the ICU to my DH's smiling face.

Long story short, I know, too late! We are both doing much better! My Angel was born on 3-6-09 @ 2127 and weighed 3lbs. 2.3oz. and was 14 inches long. She is in the NICU and doing great. She is a fighter. I am also doing great. Was released from the hospital at the end of last week. My pressure is still through the roof, but we are monitoring very closely. My hemoglobin is still not where it should be, but every day I get a little more color back! I am an emotional wreck though. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. It's hard to describe the feelings and I cry at the drop of a hat. I have a great support system around me, but sometimes feel like that isn't enough. My DH is a surgical resident so he is not home as much as I would like. (it's tough, but we knew that this would be. It's the price you pay but it still stinks)

Anyway, not sure why I posted all of this. I guess I am just in need of a little more and ! Again, I know I don't post much, but I do read daily and get much comfort from it. Sorry for the long post and thank you for reading. I wish all the new moms and moms-to-be all the best. I hope I can be there for someone else someday as well. I look forward to posting more! Goodbye for now - I am off to the hospital to be with my daughter!

 

[k_reile]

wdwchewy...welcome! Sorry to hear about how your daughter arrived into the world but glad to hear everything and everyone are starting to get stronger. That is great!
My dad was a premie when he was born. He was born in 1958 and was 4lb 4 oz. He doesnot have any side effects at all and you would never tell looking at him that he was born too early. Course he was in the hospital for a long time and my grandparents must have thought they might have needed to replace a baby maybe and my uncle was born 10 mos later. Its no wonder why my grandma waited 6 more yrs before having 3 more kids. And this is back in the 50's when medicine practices were not as good.

Anyways...there is lots of hope for your baby girl. I hope she continues to grow and thrive and become a strong little girl!


Congratulations.

By the way what is her name if you don't mind sharing?

 

[kellyf2626]

Thanks everyone for the kind words! We are doing much better today...Brady slept through the night without throwing up, so that is progress. Still not eating/drinking lots, but we are taking it slowly.

Ash - Yes, I have been trying to lost weight, but only recently have been stepping it up a notch. In the last 3 weeks I've lost about 5 lbs...so that makes me happy. I have been running 2 miles, 5 days a week - and that has really kicked-up my weight loss. Especially since I am a person who simply loves food, and it's much easier for me to committ to working out and eating things I like, rather than cutting out all the foods I like. Just can't do it. Good for you for losing 27 lbs...that is AWESOME!!! Oh, and LOVE the dress!!

Kara - Yay for wearing your wedding ring!!! I couldn't wear mine until Brady was about 8 months old!!!

lilianddoms - Welcome!!

Jenny - Good to hear that Noah doesn't have pink eye!

Nicole - Oh boy.... and more because this bug is the WORST. Brady started on Saturday afternoon and he is still not back to normal. Hopefully you and DH don't get it! Hang in there!!

wdwchewy - Holy crap you have been through a lot! What a horrible experience. Someone was watching over you and your LO that day...you both made it through. Take it easy and don't push yourself too much. Keep us posted about your LO....I will be thinking of both of you!

 

[k_reile]

Ash---I like your dress much more than my bridesmaid dress! This is mine ( I hate it but hopefully when I lose the weight it won't look as bad)

http://www.jasminebridal.com/J_2_1_...ine_no=LINE20080821003&j_line_season=B&forb=f


it will be in bahama breeze (fourth color from the left on the top row) Colors not bad just not to sure about the dress.

The wedding is in August so hopefully I should have lost at least 30lbs by then.

Yeah the wedding ring is exciting but I put it back in my jewlrey box. I haven't worn it since June and I am used to not wearing it now. I am going to wait until they all fit on easily b4 wearing them again permentaly and I want to get them proffessionaly cleaned too.

 

[Villain-lover]

WDWChewy- My twins were 6 weeks early..I went into labor in the hospital at 33 weeks, 5 days. They spent 2 weeks in NICU/transition as growers/feeders. You will make it, an your beautiful girl is goin to be just great! It is stressful going back and forthe to visit and coordinat all of that, but I also looked at it this way...I was pretty much completely recovered from my C-Section by the time they came home, and that helped a lot..plus having the nurses answer questions as a new mom was great! Good luck to you!

 

[ashjohnson80]

Ash---I like your dress much more than my bridesmaid dress! This is mine ( I hate it but hopefully when I lose the weight it won't look as bad)

http://www.jasminebridal.com/J_2_1_...ine_no=LINE20080821003&j_line_season=B&forb=f


it will be in bahama breeze (fourth color from the left on the top row) Colors not bad just not to sure about the dress.

The wedding is in August so hopefully I should have lost at least 30lbs by then.

Yeah the wedding ring is exciting but I put it back in my jewlrey box. I haven't worn it since June and I am used to not wearing it now. I am going to wait until they all fit on easily b4 wearing them again permentaly and I want to get them proffessionaly cleaned too.

I think that dress is cute. We got to choose our own, and this is the second one that I bought. The first one I didn't ask for the measurements before I bought it and it's not going to fit in another month. But I only paid $8 for the first one so no biggie.

 

[clgwli]

I admit I really like the name Dom a lot It seems to have made a big comeback recently too. I just like classic names like that

I have to say I am so happy that I got my DS to eat more today. His bottom 2 canines are through and one molar. The other bottom molar is almost through as is his top canines. Poor guy just worries about food hurting when he eats it I can tell. He's normally great about trying foods. Right now not so much So far he only really doesn't like yellow peppers. I'm pretty impressed.

Nicole reminded me I am on facebook, but I haven't found a lot of you yet. I do love mobwars though. It really was what I played almost every day for the longest time.

Bethany I am glad you went on the play date. I admit I live and grew up in "one of those towns" like you described. I noticed the ones who make the biggest deals out of money are the ones who want more and think they don't have enough. The really wealthy in our town knew how to appreciate money and wouldn't bother wasting that kind of money on clothing for every day use. Kind of interesting how sometimes having tons of money makes you appreciate it more.
Glad you found a nice person or two to hang with. I wish there were more SAHMs in my area though. Where I live there are still a lot of elderly.

DMickey that is part of our problem with eating dinner as well. He always gets what we eat when we eat but it is usually a snack. It's hard when you are going to make two meals. I make a huge pot mac n cheese at hte beginning of the week. So sadly he usually gets that very often. It's just tiresome to do so many meals. My husband's work schedule is going to change in less than 2 weeks and I am veyr much looking forward to that

KellyF, so sorry to hear that you all were so sick Hope all get well soon

Ash, I'm not into losing weight right now. I did lose about 70 pounds somewhere around 5 years ago. I was super strict with how much I gained while pregnant and then i got hte "added bonus" of being so sick during delivery that I left the hospital 5 pounds heavier. Within a week I was out of my maternity clothing. So my bad thing is I have a lot of loose skin since I lost it all so quickly (mostly due to being on pitocin for 24 hours after I gave birth)
But like I said I did it before, and I know how tough it can be. Congrats on losing what you have so far!!!

I was a strict calorie counter. I still do it in my brain most of the time out of habit too. I gain or lose sometimes but it is easy for me to keep track. I'm overly anal about it now I think.

Oh and yeah, I am so mean right now. I know some of it has to do with my DH's job situation, but some of it is just me being a brat. Not sure why either

K_reile, congrats on getting your ring back on your finger. One of my good friends had that same issue for some reason. Just magically one day the swelling was gone for her. i think her son was about 7 months old.

I admit we do a lot of thrift store buying for our son. I really cannot justify spending even $20 for a pair of jeans he will outgrow in a few months. We have some really nice 2nd hand stores though that have really good quality items. I have gotten really nice brand names for about $3 each and his skechers sneakers were only $5 (instead of almost $40) I am sure we'll keep doing that for a long time.

We did get a very nice jogging stroller for me, but we also have a super cheap $30 stroller too. I admit the one thing I couldn't justify extra money on was the carseat. Mostly because the bigger more expensive ones didn't fit well in my car

Nicole so sorry that Izzy is sick

And sorry about the pink eye Jenny

Wdwchewy, welcome and so sorry about your delivery! How very scary!! I have a dear friend who almost lost her girl to placental abruption as well. Fortunately it all turned out great and it was a good thing she was about to be induced. They got her out in no time.
Have they thought of doing a blood transfusion with you though? My BP after I delivered was horrible too and my hemoglobin was really low. My platelet count was good after a while, but the other two just weren't good at all until I got the 2 units of blood.

My brother also was very premature and in the NICU for 2 months almost. No way you'd be able to tell now. I am sure your little girl will be fine!

I like the Jasmine dress. I was looking at one like that for a wedding I was in (got to pick my dress at David's Bridal). Unfortunately I couldn't afford the alterations so I went with two pieces that required almost no alterations for me.

My DS is not sleeping well today for his nap. I know his teeth are making it rough

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Hi Everyone!

I need to catch up, but I am at my wits end with Spencer's attitude. He has been SUCH a handful and tries to bite you when he's mad.
The new thing today is he will cover his ears when you say something he doesn't like (such as "no"). On one hand that's cute, but I don't want him to continue (and not listen when older).

 

[DMickey28]

Amber - I am sorry Spencer is being a pill. At that point I would scoop him up and plop him in a time out spot. Because they are so young still, I use the pack n play in the living room. Turn the TV off and let him scream in there until he is calm enough to come back out. How old is he?