The meaning of a very short life.

[6_Time_Momma]

This is long as I am in a pensive mood tonight. (Sorry, Jason!)

As many of you know (or not) I am one of those "archaic" people who believe very strongly in God and am very adament in my faith. I believe very much that God has a purpose for all He does, including giving us Gabrielle and then taking her before we had a chance to have her here with us for very long. So I, of course, have been trying to figure His purpose in her.

Two days before we found out that she had died, it was DH and my 13th wedding anniversary. We had been fighting off and on for several months about various things.

Since Gabielle's death, DH and I have had a lot of time to talk. We have talked more than we have in many years. We both have had to reevaluate our lives, our priorities, what was really important. We now are able to see so clearly that the things we had been fighting about were nothing--trivial, unimportant things that had taken over our lives. Being together, just holding each other or talking are so much more important. Our children and spending time with them are so much more important than they ever were before.

So, while I don't think that was her whole purpose, her very short time in our lives has truly made my DH and me closer than we were even when we first married. Our eyes have truly been made clearer. I have always lived by a saying since Garrett was born---

"Only eyes that have been washed by tears can see clearly."

DH and I both have made it a vow never to forget that purpose in her short life. To try to never let trivial things come between us or our children or our relationship with God.

So, my dear friends. Let her life have that meaning in your lives as well. Don't let the trivial things become so large in your lives, that you can't see clearly.

 

[Pooh93]

Amen. You are so right and that brought tears to my eyes. Prayers and good thoughts for you family.

 

[kejoda]

What a wonderful tribute to Gabrielle. {{{HUGS}}} Kristi. I do hope that you can make it to Chicago.

 

[Goofyposter]

DH and I have had a lot of time to talk. We have talked more than we have in many years. We both have had to reevaluate our lives, our priorities, what was really important. We now are able to see so clearly that the things we had been fighting about were nothing--trivial,

As odd as it seems my dear....and I certainly don't know...but, this is a good thing....God does work in mysterious ways.....

....out of anything bad...some good IS born....Bless you....and may God's Grace give you the comfort and strenght that you need.

 

[Buckalew]

Kristy,
That was so special. I have tears in my eyes. What beautiful thoughts. Strange how her short presence could change so many lives. Trust me when I say that your words have touched me and I carry them with me to remember her and her life's special meaning.
Thank you for sharing your faith and thoughts tonight.
More {{{hugs}}}
Brenda

 

[tkyes]

That was beautifully said.

God bless you and your family.


Tamie

 

[ead79]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I have tears in my eyes. I really needed this reminder. My prayers continue to be with you and your family. God bless you all.

 

[Dan Murphy]

God does work through many of us, even little Gabrielle. She has performed her work, as an angel of God. {Hugs}, Kristy and hope to meet your family soon.

 

[helenabear]

Kristy, those thoughts you just shared were absolutely beautiful. You're words touched me deeply and I wish words could explain what I feel in my heart, but they can't, so I will just say that you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you and your family.

 

[#1 Disney Fan]

Tears in my eyes here too. You wrote a very touching post, Kristy, and Gabrielle certainly did have a very special meaning in your life. {{{Hugs}}}

 

[Buckalew]

Kristy, I wanted to share this with you.


Hello, Goodbye
Michael W. Smith

Where's the navigator of your destiny
Where is the dealer of this hand
Who can explain life and it's brevity
Cause there is nothing here that I can understand
You and I
Have barely met
And I just don't want to let go of you yet

No, hello, good-bye
I'll see you on the other side
No, sweet child of mine
I'll see you on the other side.

And so I hold your tiny hand in mine
For the hardest thing I've ever had to face
Heaven calls for you
Before it calls for me
When you get there save me a place
A place where I can share your smile
And I can hold you for more than just a while


And this verse:

"I prayed for this child, and the Lord answered my prayer and gave him to me. Now I give him back to the Lord."
I Samuel 1:27, 28

And one more because of your faithful in God.

"Because Thy loving kindness is better than life, my lips will praise Thee. So I will bless Thee as long as I live; I will lift up my hands in Thy name."
Psalm 63:3-4


My dear friend Amy lost her son Noah on August 10, 1998. His brain did not form. These were words she found great comfort in and I hope they might comfort you too. Love and hugs,
Brenda

 

[newmousecateer]

I have always believed God works in mysterious ways. Do we question them? Yes, at times we definately do. We get angry at him at times, and at times we hold his miracles in wonder.

No, I do not believe His whole purpose in taking Gabrielle to Heaven before you and DH had a chance to hold her and raise her was to bring you and DH closer together. We will never know why He decided to take her into his Kingdom of Heaven when he did, but possibly within His grand scheme of things that we do not understand, one of the things He felt he could be accomplished through the love you and DH have for Gabrielle was to bring you and DH closer together.

I wish I did, but I do not have the answers for you sweetie. Just know we are all here for you and DH at any time you need us.

{{{HUGS}}} for you and DH.

Marilyn

 

[Catzeyes]

That was very touching and beautifully said Kristy. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers. {{Hugs}}

 

[Michelle]

Kristy, that brought tears to my eyes.

So many times we hear that tragedies such as the death of a child tear a marriage apart. It is heartening to see that you and your husband are working through your grief together and realizing what is truly important in life.

{{{HUGS}}} to you both.

 

[Towncrier]

Thank you so much for this witness to your faith. We can all learn a valuable lesson for your experience. God Bless.

 

[caitycaity]

{{{hugs}}} kristy, and you know i don't think you're archaic.

 

[poohbears5]

Kristy your words brought me to tears i am glad you are able to find a little peace in what you have been dealing with , I believe as you this past year I dealt with the death of my baby nephew that was 22months old that because of a long stupid unimportant agruement with my sister hadn't met till he was sick and dieing it all happened in two months time I believe he brought us back together it had been 5years that we had not spoken or seen each other . May god bless you and your family I pray every nite for all of God little angels like my little AJ.

 

[KimRaye]

You're an incredibly strong and gracious person to share your life so closely with us. All those things you said at this, a time of sorrow for you, have just helped countless people to look around and, re-evaluate.

{{HUGS}} and, thank you.

(please pass the tissue)

 

[catsrule]

{{{HUGS}}} Kristy, to you and your family.

 

[LemonDietCoke]

That was beautiful and heartfelt. God bless you and your loved ones.