The Lonely Hearts Club

[*NikkiBell*]

Valentine's Day, or as some like to call it "Singles Awareness Day," is going to be especially lonely for me this year. I'm coming close to a year since a very sudden and unexpected leaving of my ex for another woman. I know it's just another day, but this holiday is difficult for many, and I thought I'd start a thread for those not lucky enough to have someone to share it with. Do you have anything special planned?

 

[safetymom]

Add me to the club. I am always glad when the day passes.

 

[WaltD4Me]

For some reason Valentine's Day has never bothered me. New Year's Eve is the one I could do without. On Valentine's Day I have fun sending my nieces and nephew cute cards and candy their mom's don't want them to have.

 

[dalt01]

I'm coming close to a year since a very sudden and unexpected leaving of my ex for another woman.

what an idiot..........my dad did that to my mom........with her best friend.

 

[dalt01]

New Year's Eve is the one I could do without.

Sandra darling..........all you miss on that nite is a sloppy kiss from some drunk

 

[daneenm]

But, you have us, and we love you!

Hang in there, the day will be over soon.

 

[mainegal]

With or without someone special in my life, I have never made a big deal over Valentine's Day.

Hallmark Cards and TV commercials from jewelry stores set extremely unrealistic expectations.

For those who find themselves "alone", know that you are the best person ever! Always.

 

[simonkodousek]

Count me in... I've learned to lower my expectations with people... There are so many bad ones out there, it's like, why bother?

 

[DisnyMama]

Hi Nikki! I'm sorry that happened to you. It does rate as one of the top most difficult things you will ever have to deal with. My ex-DH did the exact same thing two weeks before X-mas back in '95 when DS was 5 yrs old.

Yeah, I may be alone on Valentines day and New Years Eve but on the plus side I can do what ever I want, whenever I want (if I can afford it if ya know what I mean) and so can you.

When the time is right and the "real" right person comes along you'll be ready and laugh about being alone.

Have a Happy Valentines Day!!

Shannon

 

[Disney Dad Canada]

While my situation is different (with my wife passing, not leaving), holidays are still rough. In our house Mother's day is the roughest.

AS for Valentine's day, I have my home made cards from my kids, thats good enough for me.

 

[safetymom]

While my situation is different (with my wife passing, not leaving), holidays are still rough. In our house Mother's day is the roughest.

AS for Valentine's day, I have my home made cards from my kids, thats good enough for me.

We didn't celebrate Valentines Day for many years while married but the last several before he died we did. Christmas is tough too because it is all about love and family.

That is why I escaped to WDW that first year. I am so glad I did.

 

[Dian-er]

I get it too. Though Bob didn't leave voluntarily, it was sudden & has left me scrambling to keep busy on those special days. He never forgot Valentine's Day, Anniversary, or any other special day. Miss him lots. His Birthday was Feb 5th, I surprised myself let it pass without leeting it mes me up. Hope you get past this bump without feeling too blue. I think you're pretty neat, & who knows, maybe there's someone better out there for you.

 

[sayhello]

The Valentines Days where I had a boyfriend who thought it was a good day to do projects with his Dad, and maybe sent me a card were way worse than Valentines Days spent on my own. Count me among the ones who don't care about this Holiday.

Sayhello

 

[Disney Dad Canada]

http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/MSNBC/C...alentines/ss-110208-valentines-05.ss_full.jpg

 

[JacksLilWench]

http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/MSNBC/C...alentines/ss-110208-valentines-05.ss_full.jpg

Hahahaha, that's so funny

Count me in too, I can't WAIT for Tuesday to get here. It's sad for me this year because I keep seeing the Hallmark commercial where the couple is at the hockey game and the woman finds the card in her pocket...the ex and I used to go to hockey games all the time, and we'd watch them almost every day. It just serves as a "gentle" reminder about our relationship and how he broke up with me for no good reason. It doesn't help my BFF is totally in love and tells me every day about how amazing her DBF is and how they loooove each other and how they're getting married and blah blah blah. I know I sound like a Bitter Betty, but next time she does it, I just want to killjoy her so bad

I'm just waiting patiently for Tuesday to get here! *taps foot....*

 

[disprincessatheart]

Nikki - just want you to know there are lots of us out there who know what you're going thru. In grad school my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and started secretly dating by best friend at the time. Who knows maybe they were dating each other before that. The next few holidays sucked, but looking back it was so much better that I didn't end up with him! I actually was more upset about the best friend.

My dh now is great and never misses a holiday, but I still think valentines day over hyped. We're going out to our regular Monday night dinner tomorrow - burritos at moe's. hang in there!

 

[shellynn24]

Nikki, I know how you feel. My husband, now ex husband, got another woman pregnant while deployed to Iraq. When he got home he decided he liked her better and they now live together raising their kids. To add insult to injury, when my kids have visitation with him they go to her house

I am lucky to have my kids because they are my Valentine's, we just got finished making their cards for school. That is all the fun I need but I do look forward to the day being over because I too am a bit bitter when I see all the mushy lovey stuff

Yeah, I may be alone on Valentines day and New Years Eve but on the plus side I can do what ever I want, whenever I want (if I can afford it if ya know what I mean) and so can you.

After being single for a while and trying to date once in a while I have adopted this mindframe. I am happy being in control of my own life for the first time in my life. Plus, I can go to Disney World whenever I can afford it without having to run it by anyone!!

 

[*NikkiBell*]

I really am enjoying everyone's posts here. I'm so glad you all are willing to be open and honest and support one another. This is great!!

It doesn't help my BFF is totally in love and tells me every day about how amazing her DBF is and how they loooove each other and how they're getting married and blah blah blah. I know I sound like a Bitter Betty, but next time she does it, I just want to killjoy her so bad

I'm just waiting patiently for Tuesday to get here! *taps foot....*

I can sympathize with this. I found myself in a horrible mindset shortly after he left me. All of my friends (but one) were either married, engaged, or about to be engaged. It was very difficult. Sometimes it still is.

I know that I'd never be where I am today if this didn't happen. I hired a realtor a month after our breakup and was able to set a deadline. I moved shortly before it. I wanted to make sure that I did not spend New Year's Eve with my parents. Instead, I spent it at home with some good friends who live far away...via Skype, FB, and the DIS. I love having the freedom to do what I want and not having to answer to anyone. This holds true for vacations and otherwise. I also thoroughly enjoy shopping alone.

With all of this being said, there are still some nights that are particularly the hardest. Valentine's Day will most definitely be one of them. I know I'd never return to that relationship again if it was offered. I know I have no interest in seeing him or even having a discussion with him again. And, most importantly, I know that I had to forgive him in order to gain peace; I did this in September some five and a half months after the break-up. Still, I think I miss certain things like the extra hugs the most. I'm glad we are all here for each other during this time! My friends both on here and in the "real world" (many of whom I met through this great online community) are my rock!

 

[KristEn87]

It's my first Valentines Day alone since Evan's dad left us last July. I'm not completely looking forward to the day, but I am looking forward to Evan wearing this adorable Mickey t-shirt I found at Target that has hearts on it and says Momma's Boy! He's my Valentine this year and I couldn't be happier that it's just us!

 

[Cherinva]

Although I have someone in my life, we are not that close anymore....last year he didn't do anything for me on Valentines Day on purpose...and it hurt...so this year, I'm skipping it....can't wait for it to get here and leave.

Nikki...and everyone else....I suggest that you do something nice for yourself that day...even if it's a treat to a Starbucks coffee...or an ice cream...

That's what I'm doing