The I've beaten cancer for the 2nd time celebration trip! Updated 3/30

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Wait, you mean children are supposed to foot the bill for their own vacations once they become adults???? Oh my, I'm going about this all wrong. We have taken our adult children on 6 vacations so far, 4 times to WDW, once to Hawaii and once to the Bahamas. I just can't feel like it's wrong when I enjoy their company as much as I do.

Do you want another adult child that comes complete with a great 8 year old? We are well trained and love WDW!! LOL!!

My mom always made us go our own way as adults. Once we were able to then she started footing the bill as adults. I didn't understand it at the time but now that she is gone I truly appreciated the life lesson.

Oh - there is nothing worng with taking your adult kids on vacation with you. I know that I will be doing the same thing with my dd!

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Hello!

Well - my ADR switch was a no go. Which when I look back over my plan I realize now why i planned Ohana's for DHS day instead of the day after. On our DHS day we are going to attempt to see Fantasmic. This means that we will have a late night night. I did not want to have to get up early (or earlier than normal) to get to an ADR. Which is why we are eating at Boma the next morning. All we have to do is roll out of bed, dress, and go downstairs.

Now dds spring break is coming up next week. My nieces spring break is this week. My dsis and niece will be in Phoenix this weekend. So... dd and I are leaving on Thursday to go see them. We will be in Phoenix until Monday. I think my dsis has something planned with Horses? Not sure about that.

On Monday we will fly to Virgnia. DD will be able to see her dad and his relatives there.

Thursday and Friday will be spent with some good friends and my other sister visting Hershey Park in PA.

Then on Saturday we will return home in time for all the Easter festivities.

is how I feel about our "vacation".

Sometimes things look much better on paper than in reality.

Finally, as if the always on the run spring break wasn't enough we are moving at the end of April. DD and I have been living with family while I was in school. Now that I am done we are getting our own place. It's cute and just right for the two of us. I will finally find out if my china actually made it through the move from Virginia to California.

Then we have dds first communion.

Then we finally have our WDW trip!!

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Okay - so whats so sad about a birthday party you may ask?

Well on our upcoming whirlwind spring break vacation dd will have a chance to see her dad. He has decided to throw her a surprise birthday party with all his family. Which is a very nice idea. Where my woes come in - is that I have no desire to see all of these people. They completely desserted dd when her dad and I split up.

His family got very upset with me when I broke up with dds dad. See they could not understand why I got upset over him having a girl friend, or why I got upset when I figured out the "friend" living in our basement at the time was his girlfriend. When I figured it out I told her to leave. I gave him a choice - stay and work it out but no more contact with her or leave with her. He left with her. His mom told me I just had to wait it out. When I actually divorced him they cut off all contact with my dd.

So its nice that he wants his family to see dd but the idea of spending an evening with these people makes me . Plus since it is a family gathering I imagine that the girlfriend (if not wife already) will be there. There are other issues which require his visits with dd be supervised - which is why I cannot just let him take her for the night.

So, I will be a good mom and take her but.... I really do not want to do it. I guess that is part of being a grown up... doing the things you don't want to do.

Luckily dd is pretty oblivious to this all. She was young when all this went down and we have lived in CA for three years now so thier absence in her life is not noticable at all.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Back to fun WDW vacation planning!

 

[a1tinkfans]

Okay - so whats so sad about a birthday party you may ask?

Well on our upcoming whirlwind spring break vacation dd will have a chance to see her dad. He has decided to throw her a surprise birthday party with all his family. Which is a very nice idea. Where my woes come in - is that I have no desire to see all of these people. They completely desserted dd when her dad and I split up.

His family got very upset with me when I broke up with dds dad. See they could not understand why I got upset over him having a girl friend, or why I got upset when I figured out the "friend" living in our basement at the time was his girlfriend. When I figured it out I told her to leave. I gave him a choice - stay and work it out but no more contact with her or leave with her. He left with her. His mom told me I just had to wait it out. When I actually divorced him they cut off all contact with my dd.

So its nice that he wants his family to see dd but the idea of spending an evening with these people makes me . Plus since it is a family gathering I imagine that the girlfriend (if not wife already) will be there. There are other issues which require his visits with dd be supervised - which is why I cannot just let him take her for the night.

So, I will be a good mom and take her but.... I really do not want to do it. I guess that is part of being a grown up... doing the things you don't want to do.

Luckily dd is pretty oblivious to this all. She was young when all this went down and we have lived in CA for three years now so thier absence in her life is not noticable at all.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Back to fun WDW vacation planning!

Sorry about the woes. Can you just bring her and literally spend YOUR time in another area of the place?
By the way I just want to also say CONGRATULATIONS on beating cancer to both YOU and also to another poster on this thread. Another cancer survivor here, 4 years, JUST got Good News YESTERDAY, cancer markers look good and all else is GOOD too! What a relief, I know......
Best of Luck to you, have a WONDERFUL time at DISNEY!!!!

 

[Pakey]

Don't stress too much about the visit with the ex inlaws. I did it once when I took my son back to visit his bio father (sad but in 26 years, it has been his only visit with his "real" dad and that family as they, too, had no interest). It will be very uncomfortable but you will be able to look back and say that you did everything you could for your daughter and that's what really matters.

If that doesn't work, you could also take an ipod and headphones.

 

[rodeo65]

First - congratulations on beating cancer TWICE!!!! Them's good fighting genes. They can come in handy when dealing with ex ILs. I am quietly seething for you. I really don't get that. Well, I do - inability to hold their son / sibling accountable for his actions. I've met a few in my life.

I'm sure your visit with them, while annoying and uncomfortable, will pass quickly enough. I just had to deal with a visit with my ILs this past weekend after years of non-contact (DH's choice - not mine) Because of this non-contact, it was easiest to blame me rather than look at their part in it (again, HIS choice). It was surprisingly peaceful. I told myself going in - in 6 hours this will all be over. And it was.

Quite a whirlwind ahead of you. But in the end you have a fabulous vacations to look forward to. Looking forward to following along.

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Sorry about the woes. Can you just bring her and literally spend YOUR time in another area of the place?
By the way I just want to also say CONGRATULATIONS on beating cancer to both YOU and also to another poster on this thread. Another cancer survivor here, 4 years, JUST got Good News YESTERDAY, cancer markers look good and all else is GOOD too! What a relief, I know......
Best of Luck to you, have a WONDERFUL time at DISNEY!!!!

Congratualtions! That is good news. It is such a wonderful feeling to get good reports.

It all depends on where we go. I just have to make polite for a few hours. Not the worst thing in the world, I know, but not someting to look forward to either.

Don't stress too much about the visit with the ex inlaws. I did it once when I took my son back to visit his bio father (sad but in 26 years, it has been his only visit with his "real" dad and that family as they, too, had no interest). It will be very uncomfortable but you will be able to look back and say that you did everything you could for your daughter and that's what really matters.

If that doesn't work, you could also take an ipod and headphones.

Yeah, thats why I am doing it. I want her to have the chance to see him and at least say shes met his family. None of this is her fault and she should not have to pay for the actions of the adults in her life.

Why do ex inlaws do that to the kids? I get not wanting to see me but.. her too?!?!

First - congratulations on beating cancer TWICE!!!! Them's good fighting genes. They can come in handy when dealing with ex ILs. I am quietly seething for you. I really don't get that. Well, I do - inability to hold their son / sibling accountable for his actions. I've met a few in my life.

I'm sure your visit with them, while annoying and uncomfortable, will pass quickly enough. I just had to deal with a visit with my ILs this past weekend after years of non-contact (DH's choice - not mine) Because of this non-contact, it was easiest to blame me rather than look at their part in it (again, HIS choice). It was surprisingly peaceful. I told myself going in - in 6 hours this will all be over. And it was.

Quite a whirlwind ahead of you. But in the end you have a fabulous vacations to look forward to. Looking forward to following along.

Thanks for your kind words. Thanks for reminding me that is only for a few hours! Sometimes it is hard to keep that in perspective. Yes, his family blames me. I should have kept him interested, I should have waited, I never should have divorced him, yada yada yada... I think for families it is easier to blame the other person than take a look at what your own fmaily member has done.

On the bright side we do have some great vacation time coming to us and enough to keep us busy before our trip to WDW so the time will pass quickly.

 

[disgram]

Thank you for posting about your survival and congratulations! I went to the cancer center today and I am now through with the weekly blood tests and in one week I go for the scan to make sure that all the cancer is gone! I was so scared until the nurse told me that the letters are really good and that she was pretty certain that the scan will be perfect too. Here is praying for both of us!!
I have started making plans for a trip to WDW with my daughter, my 3 granddaughters and my grandson! We will be going the end of August until the 3rd of Sept. This is my celebration. We will be staying at the ALSMu suites. Thank you Tinkerbelle's Mom, for making my day even better than it was!

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Thank you for posting about your survival and congratulations! I went to the cancer center today and I am now through with the weekly blood tests and in one week I go for the scan to make sure that all the cancer is gone! I was so scared until the nurse told me that the letters are really good and that she was pretty certain that the scan will be perfect too. Here is praying for both of us!!
I have started making plans for a trip to WDW with my daughter, my 3 granddaughters and my grandson! We will be going the end of August until the 3rd of Sept. This is my celebration. We will be staying at the ALSMu suites. Thank you Tinkerbelle's Mom, for making my day even better than it was!

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that your scan comes out clean. Please let me know!

Wow - there are so many suvivors out there.

I hope you have a fantastic trip. DD and I love ASMu. They have so many wonderful acitivities going on. The CMs there are awesome.