The first step is asking for help....

[Kelsie]

I need your help As you have noticed (and thank you for all of the wonderful PM’s), I have been missing in action for over a month. On August 1st, I retired from my job after 30 years. It was not something I was ready to do but circumstances with my company that jeopardized my medical benefits and other issues made it necessary. Since I have been home, I have done nothing but eat. The isolation and adjustment to this new lifestyle after 30 years along with a deep hurt from someone I believed in has taken its toll on me physically and emotionally.

I am not moving; I sit most of the day working my in home job. I am terrified I will start watching Jerry Springer if I don't get off my fanny and do something.

Adjustment is difficult but it has been 6 weeks and I need your encouragement. I had lost 34 pounds, gained 10 back and as of this morning, I am at a 28-pound loss. That may not sound bad but, if I keep this up, all of my weight will be back by Christmas.

Please help me feel good about myself again because right now, I am pretty defeated and sad.

 

[anniet]

Awwwww (((((((((Kelsie))))))))))))

First I don't mean to make light of your situation. I was once laid off from a job I LOVED and I know the hurt that can go along with losing a position you are proud of and love, but whenever one door closes another one opens!

Try not to focus on the things you have lost and look at the opportunities that are in front of you right now.

You have fallen into a behaviour of using food to comfort yourself, but you know that it's not going to change one thing about the situation you are in and if you continue the course you may gain more weight back and STILL be in the same situation.

You have the freedom to find what you love to do and to be able to go and do it. That is a gift. Take advantage of it!!!! Life holds a lot of surprises for all of us and they will become whatever we make of them. You can get back on track! I know you can!!!

 

[binny]

((((Kelsie)))))

You know that we all have "down times" and have to get adjusted to things.

You have had a major stress in your life. According the Dr Phil book ( sorry if I sound like a broken record) Job Change after the age of 45 ranks a 75 on a scale of 1-95 for amount of stress. 95 being paralyzing stress.
he says that "a score above 65 indicates that you are undergoing significant stress and this may initiate bouts of overeating as well as disease changes in your biochemistry. you need support and must work toward aquiring some very specific tools of stress management."


So first of all, GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!
Youre doing fine! You need to get back in the saddle but thats OK!

I have found tremendous support here in just the few days Ive been back. Its a wonderful bunch!

Were here for you!

You arent a bad person, you are NOT a failure, youre a beautiful, wonderful being who deserves the very best of everything!

YOU CAN DO THIS!!! I have faith in you!

If you want to chat feel free to email me, we can all get through this!

 

[zurgswife]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}.....I didn't leave a job but I got bogged down with family crisis all summer and gained back 8 of the 15 i lost....I decided last week that I would restart after labor day.....It worked...I wouldn't have believe it was such a simple mind of matter...(never has been before) I started atkins again 1 week ago and have lost about 4lbs...was hoping for 5 but not so lucky...

Kelsie...I know you can do it....We are here to support you.....Go for it girl..set a start date and mini goal if you need to and lets go...

 

[nativetxn]

My friend I'm so sorry that you are feeling so sad. I have missed seeing you here on WISH and I have been worried about you.

I wish I had some magic words to make you realize what an inspiration you are for all of us and how much we love you.

You are so intelligent and intuitive, it breaks my heart to see you so sorrowful

<b>{{{HUGS}}}</b>

Katholyn

 

[Pooh93]

You've had alot of changes in your life. No wonder you've felt out of control. Take it one day at a time and start to regain that control. You can do it!

 

[WDWLVR]

Kelsie,

This is my first day on WISH, but I understand where you are coming from. I've been laid off twice and I think both contributed (along with other things with my weight gain).

So as I'm starting you can restart and we can do it together!
After all isn't that what WISH is all about!

 

[Kelsie]

Thank you everyone! I know my post sounds like a whine I almost deleted it as soon as I posted. I guess it is just my way of opening up to everyone and hoping it will help me gain control again and come back here for support.

Thanks again!

 

[snoopy]

Kels, I did the same thing, gained back the 15 I lost and another 10 on top of that. Its discouraging. Of course, I had no excuse other then I just got lazy.

You just get back on that horse, my friend. You can do it, you've proven that before, and you've overcome so many other obstacles in your life. Here's to a fresh new start.

 

[wovenwonder]

Oh Kelsie --- I am so PROUD OF YOU! You've made the first step! I am here for you if there is anything I can do. Now, don't try to accomplish a life change all at once. It is okay to take it one step at a time. Just coming back to WISH was enough for right now. I hope it makes you feel just a little bit better about yourself and your life. Think about what might be a good second step for you to take. Maybe just agree to walk around the block once a day for the next week. Take it one step at a time and you will MAKE IT!

I'm so glad you are back --- I REALLY missed you!

 

[Jiminy102]

Kelsie, I wish I had a magic phrase or even a "PILL" to make everything better for you. I do not. I do hear the sadness in your post and I hurt right along with you. That's what friends and family do!! That is what your are FAMILY!!!! the only thing I can really say is that you have made a wonderful first step in coming to the board and posting. You can Take control of this!!!! I to have periods where I just seem to eat everything and not care then i regain control!! You can do this if it is what you want. I know that deep down this is what you want. Hang in there my friend it will get better!!! We are all here for you. {HUGS}

 

[Beanie]

Kelsie, I am so sorry you are feeling down! I wish I could make it all better for you! You know we are all here to help and support you and you are a wonderful person, this I know! Please come back and start posting again, I miss you!! You can do it, I know you can!!

Hugs!!

 

[KathyTX]

Kelsie,

I was so glad to see your name on this thread- I've really been missing your voice here!

I'm so sorry- it sounds like life dealt you a one-two punch this summer. Sometimes it takes a lot of time and effort to shake that off and feel like your normal strong, sassy self again.

I know I've been blue a lot lately, too, and just reading the strong and happy energy here does help.

You could always come visit a friend in Texas for a weekend and we could act silly, do our nails, watch old movies all night and just feel like little girls again. My guest room's ready and waiting if you ever get a chance to wander this way for a quick change of scenery!

 

[PartyofSix]

I just wanted to offer encouragment to you. I'm not good with this kinds of thread i never know what to say and it always sounds so silly when i try hard to be helpful. I was just thinking if you had the extra time you could volunteer maybe at the local hospital as a candy striper or something similar you would meet new friends and get to get in your exercise all while helping others. Just a silly thought but thought i'd offer it up. I hope your feeling better and find your path of your new lifestyle soon. I did'nt know you where facing all of this when i was pestering your for those clippees. I'm sorry. Thanks for all you do here at wish we love you and hope you find happiness with your retiremtent. Only the best of wishes to you Kelsie.

 

[perfectmatch300]

Kelsie, I'm so glad to see that you have taken that big 1st step & come back here!
Welcome back! That action alone should help you to get feeling better about yourself. Now just keep moving in the right direction. You will be right back on track in no time!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Kelsie, I am so sorry you are hurting right now. When I was down, I posted on the WISH and received so much strength from everyone here. Lean on us, let us pray for you, come and stay and together we can get healthy. You made that first step and asked for help, I am so glad that you did. We LOVE you here, and miss you very much. As others have said, take it one day at a time, and one thing at a time. We are here for you!

 

[LisaTx]

{{{{{Hugs}}}}} Kelsie.

I'm so sorry that you've been feeling so sad. Now that you've taken the first step though, it going to be uphill from here on out. We're all here to help and encourage you.

It's wonderful to see you back here.

 

[DoeWDW]

Kelsie, {{ warm hugs }} from a relatively new WISHer! If you need a circle of support - people who truly care about you and want only the best for you, you have re-discovered that place. We're here for you through the highs and the lows. I have never seen a more caring group of people in all my life!!!

Kelsie, just try to be good to you. Recognize that you are going through the normal process of adjusting to a major life change. Look for those opportunities to do something you always wished you had time to do. You can make your life into something wonderful and truly fulfilling.

Most importantly, remember that baby steps can take you far - you don't have to make lots of changes at once. Take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other. We're all here to help.

 

[plutosmyfav]

Hi Kelsie,

I'm so sorry to hear of your major life change that has gotten you down. I can relate to weight gain during change. I have been through a divorce and serious trouble with my teen age daughter this year and gained 60 lbs. I got so down on myself for being so out of control. I finally went for therapy and my therapists suggested I see a pscych and take an anti-depressant for a while to get my baseline back up. I started taking Zoloft last April and it has really helped me get back on track. Major life changes can upset your biochemistry temporarily and sometimes an anti-depressant will ease the transition.

Just something to keep in mind if you don't see yourself bouncing back. We should never underestimate the stress that comes from major change (good or bad).

I really hope you get your spirits back and can enjoy your new retirement.

Sundie

 

[tlgoblue]

Kelsie,
How are you feeling today? Did you find any motivation after visiting yesterday? It seems there are quite a few of us that went astray, and we are all begging eachother to get us back in the groove! Thanks for asking. It helps us all see that we need, and have, support. So tell us what you did yeasterday, as a result of your recognition that you need to get going again. It will show you positive things you can do and give us all the boost we need, should we feel a bit unmotivated. Nice to have you back! I'm off to throw some fertilizer on my lawn, then do the laundry. (Blech) First I must visit fitday!

Keep the Faith!
Tracy