The DIS Support Group

[Dax]

It seems we all have problems once in a while. Some marriage, some kids, some job. Its all different for some of us. We have a great group of people here on the DIS. Sometimes your ask for advice post can get lost in the shuffle of trivia, song posts and other such post types. Granted I have nothing agains those posts, but I think it would be nice to have a goto thread that we can just vent out our issues, and always know where to go and hopefully wont get lost in the shuffle of messages. People can feel free to post anything in here, all we ask is be supportive in the advice, or just offer a hug or two...

Let me know if this is a good idea or not...if it is, start posting away!!

 

[Helopoh]

I think its a wonderful Idea. Since I last posted about my DH wanting a Seperation most people don't even know that on the 4th of July he decided to finally come clean about having an affair. He told me that he and this woman had a "little sex" Umm is that the same as a "little" Pregnant? To tell the truth I have no idea which way I am going. I did get in touch with a lawyer and I started Therapy which I had planned on doing anyway. I just am having it so rough right now I just want to spend some time having a pity party..Without the FOOD!!! ((((BIG HUGS TO YOU DAX))))

 

[chell]

Sounds like a wonderful idea to me!

{{{HUGS}}} to both of you!!!!

 

[Dax]

Cool, nice to see that we can all support each other...even if just ends up being a few of us...we all need stick together in tought times...my issue can be seen in the post titles, do you ever wonder...

 

[Pop Daddy]

no, people would get carried away and start with a bunch of long post

 

[Dax]

Sorry Pop Daddy...then just ignore the thread..LOL You always make me smile..

 

[jamsmom]

Does Pop Daddy ever have problems?



I know that the DIS has been a life saver for me more than once. And no, I am not exaggerating

 

[tigercat]

{{{{{{Hugs }}}}}} to both of you. Sometimes things just get too much. It's nice to have support from someone. I know I need it sometimes.
tigercat

 

[Helopoh]

Ok does anyone else have a DH/SO who makes promises and then their friends come before you. Grrr he makes me so mad....

 

[ltldeb]

Dax, I think that's a wonderful idea. People come here for the good times and the bad. We should be able to comfort them in the bad times.

 

[Serena]

Helopoh, that was a major problem with me too. It was something we argued about for years.

 

[snoopy]

Ok does anyone else have a DH/SO who makes promises and then their friends come before you.

No, can't say that I do. You deserve better.

I like the idea that a thread is devoted to people who need support. Nice idea.

{{{hugs}}} to all who are hurting right now.

 

[Serena]

Snoopy, that's what I've figured out since he left. I deserve better.

 

[tigercat]

Actually for me it's not his friends but work. Unfortunatly work is also my family. The part of the family that is abusive and sort of runs things (because one bil will not support the other brother) is the one my dh will do anything for. He says I am #1 in his life but boy you wouldn't know that by his actions.
tigercat

 

[rasnlms]

Sounds like a great idea to me!

Hugs to all that need!!!

 

[Helopoh]

I know we are getting seperated but I really needed him last night for a bit and he said he would be home and he walked in at Midnight and went straight to sleep. I gave up and went to bed. I can't believe how selfish he is being. I pretty much refuse to ask him for anything at this point and I told him this morning that He hurt my feelings because he makes a promise and no longer wants to keep it. I can't believe this is getting so bad. I want to remain friendly because of Dorian but needless to say I can't help being mad at him right now.

 

[Helopoh]

I guess it just isn't going to be as easy as I thought to let go. I can't help but just want to scream AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

 

[Rajah]

Sounds like a *wonderful* idea to me, Dax.

Helopooh -- pick up that pillow, place it over your mouth, and SCREAM AS LOUD AS YOU CAN. It'll help. At least that sometimes helps me when I need to scream. And you sure have reason to. *HUGS*

To answer your question, yes, my DH does that all the time. He's constantly promising to be home at a certain time, then something comes up at work and he's late. I'd say he misses the time he promised to be home about 60-70% of the time. It used to bother me, still upsets me a bit. But when I started attending classes in his department at the university and saw that he *really was* as busy as he was claiming to be, it made it easier to take. Still disappointing, still upseting, especially since it frequently makes me feel that I come last. But easier to take. And, when the chips are down -- when I'm sick or truly having a problem and really, honestly NEED him to be home, he's home. He'll drop everything and come running. He proved that once with kitties and once when I was having an allergic reaction to something and had to take two benadryl then couldn't be left alone. So he is a good person, it just gets so frustrating and upsetting to almost always feel like you come second to work.

 

[Pembo]

I think we need a DIS Support Board! A sub-board of the CB. Then the threads wouldn't get buried as fast they do on the CB.

 

[s&k'smom]

Oh yes I want in. I use the Dis as my therepy and planning our trips to WDW as a way to let me escape for a while. I'm actually going to see a thereapist next week. But to have a place to come I'm all for it.

Helopoh I wish you all the luck in the world.

Now let's see I can post on alcoholism
special needs
family
job

Pick one anyone I'm an expert!