Hi! Just hopping on for a min. I have a terrible cold. Hopefully it stays a cold and doesn't become bronchitis like usual. I have 3 customer events in the next 2 weeks. I truly don't have time to be sick!! I slept all day today and sent DBF to a friend's to watch the Talladega NASCAR race on TV, which was then rained out, but they had a cookout and fun anyway.
So, I'm hopping on to ask everyone's opinion on if I need to get over this situation, or if I have a right to feel slightly put out. But I should probably still get over it and move on.
My stepmom is a lawyer. Love my stepmom. She looks like my mom, so when we go out people think I'm her daughter. She's not a typical stepmom, so I'm very lucky. But I digress.
So my stepmom hired a young woman to join her family law practice last summer. The young woman (call her Allison because this is getting complicated) is the daughter of some friends of my stepmom's friends. So when Allison moved to Dallas from Austin, she expressed interest in joining the Junior League, of which I am a member. My stepmom arranged for the three of us to go to lunch one day to talk about the League. Allison was still interested, so I said when I got the dates for the new member info meeting, I would let her know.
We get the dates for the new member meeting, and I email Allison to invite her to attend the meeting with me. We made arrangements in late Sept for a late Oct meeting. We went to dinner first and had a nice conversation, then went to the meeting. On the way home, I asked her if she was interested, because if so I need to get 2 other sponsors which could take some time since I transferred and don't know tons of people. She said she would let me know. This was late Oct. The sponsor forms are due mid January.
I didn't hear from her, and I didn't hear from her. Finally, in early January, I emailed her and asked if she wanted to join Junior League. She said yes. So I scrambled around to find 2 other sponsors. By then, most of the people I know were already sponsoring someone else. Fortunately, someone at my JL book club agreed to sign, and I got the sponsor form submitted in time.
But Allison never asked me if I got the sponsors or the form in on time. Granted, she was getting married mid Feb, so I let it slide. She was supposed to hear if she got in during Feb or March, and she would have to turn in some provisional papers (provisional = new member) by the end of March. Then she would need to attend a mandatory orientation meeting with her sponsor in May, then she would begin her provisional year in Sept.
I never heard from her in Feb or March if she got in. I never heard from her in April. Then last week I got a notice from the League saying my sponsoree was accepted and to please make sure she attended the meeting in May.
By now, I'm kinda PO'd. Because here I did her a favor by sponsoring her -- someone I don't really know -- and scrambling around to find other sponsors (no small task), and she never had the decency to tell me if she got in or to tell me which meeting she was attending so I could go with her.
I was going to email her about it in April to ask if she got in, but DBF was like "forget it, if she can't be bothered to reach out to you at all through this whole process -- including letting you know in the first place if she wants to join, then it must not be very important to her." So I let it slide. But when I got the notice last week, I kinda lost it.
So I called my stepmom to see if Allison said anything about getting in. Mind you, Allison never told my stepmom we went to the new member info meeting together. My stepmom bugged me about it in Nov, and I told her Allison and I already went and that I thought Allison would say something to her boss about it so I hadn't mentioned it. Anyway, so when I called my stepmom last week, she said she had no idea if Allison got in since she never mentioned it.
So I emailed Allison and basically said: did you get accepted into the League? did you submit your papers? are you signed up for a meeting in May? do you need me to go with you or do your papers indicate I need to do anything? She replied and said "good to hear from you, it's been a while" and that she was in, signed up and all set for a May meeting. And that she didn't need me to do anything else. (According to the notice I got last week, I don't have to go to the meeting with her, but I am encouraged to do so.)
Am I right to feel sort of put out? I mean, I'll totally get over it. But the whole thing seems sort of rude. Like how hard is it to send me an email along the way and let me know she got in, turned in her papers, etc. And her boss is my stepmom for heaven's sake. Sheesh.
Like I said, I'll get over it. But the whole thing bugged me enough to vent on it to you all, who can tell me if I should be quiet or if I'm right to feel put out.
Thanks for listening/reading.
Jennifer
We definitely need to meet up since we are staying there too!!!!!!!!!!! You can meet my MIL!
I know what you mean about the solitude driving you
. It is lonely to live so far away from family when you don't have any friends. DH was just mentioning moving to St. Louis area as we would only be 3 hours away from family (sure beats a 3 day drive) and they have an airport so he can fly out easily for his business trips. Of course, I'm like we don't know the area, there could be a lot of crime. I'm such a worryer and that moving to a new place is hard for me. Good luck with the job search.
Tia
are you crashing the DDA meet? If you are I am one jealous lady. 
I wont hold it against you, but I may not be able to reply to your posts for a few days, it might hurt too much knowing that you are going and I am not.
