The Collective Dis Consciousness on Friending

[surfcruiser]

I'm in a room full of people whose names I recognise from reading the Dis, some have 'dis' in their signatures, some don't, but I want to add them to my list, being the virtually sociable little VMK dude that I am. I enjoy friending others and getting to know them, and I enjoy the camaraderie generated by said fun-ness as do most of us... and for many of us, friends are the reason we play VMK!

So, to promote the fun of being able to hang out with all our like minded Disney Junkies here on this board and friends and family, this thread is about protocol for such situations... and soliciting the collective Dis brain for ideas!

I assume that some people prefer to be asked in general chat if you may friend them. I personally don't mind being sent a friend request without a 'may I' first, but I have done that to others and many times get no response. I'm wondering...

What does most of the Dis think? Ask first? Send the request and hope? Is it "if you're on Dis and I'm on Dis, by all means friend me?" Or do most of us want to chat first, and be asked in general conversation, perhaps after building a bit of a relationship first?

 

[Peacefully]

I, personally, prefer to be asked first. But that's a personal preference.

 

[Dashzap]

I don't know the etiquette because I am too shy to ask to be friends. So if you see me and want to be friends, just go ahead and ask!

 

[Funniebunny]

I don't mind either way but I do love getting to know new dissers.
It was great chatting to you again last night surf!

 

[DaraAllen]

I prefer to be asked first. I don't like to mention DIS on VMK, though, since VMK doesn't like us talking about "knowing" each other outside of VMK, which I understand perfectly.

My problem is how to let someone on VMK know that I am a DISer without saying, "Hey I know you from the DIS." or "I know you outside."

Any suggestions that won't get us into trouble?

 

[surfcruiser]

I prefer to be asked first. I don't like to mention DIS on VMK, though, since VMK doesn't like us talking about "knowing" each other outside of VMK, which I understand perfectly.

My problem is how to let someone on VMK know that I am a DISer without saying, "Hey I know you from the DIS." or "I know you outside."

Any suggestions that won't get us into trouble?

I can't concieve how VMK would be able to stop or even police us from saying something simple like "I heart Dis."

Which is a true enough statement for almost all us, whether we are talking about Dis-ney in general, or this our beloved Dis-cussion board!

 

[qruthie]

I try to accommodate any request that isn't from a someone with a guest account. My friends list is full so I had to add that restriction. It doesn't matter to me whether or not the person asks first. It does seem to be more polite to ask first though. When people do ask, I tell them my list is full but to send a request anyway and I will try to get them on my list.

qruthie (the 'q' is silent)

 

[DemonLlama]

We need a secret code, like saying

Hey __________ (insert Dis-er's name here)
Do
I
See
a
Friend?

 

[Saxsoon]

I have noticed the ones that just ask, I have never gone and hung out with them. Same with the ones I have done.