The 40 Year Old Virgin Movie made me think....

[DisneyAddict_M]

I apologize. Now can you please direct me to the thread where the people who have a sense of humor are hanging out?

 

[Bob Slydell]

Sounds like someone needs to get some





perspective. Lighten up, it was meant in a joking manner.

 

[gr8ful4Him]

No matter what the reason one may be a virgin, I'm sick of the attitude some take that there's something wrong with these people, and the insinuation that they are deprived individuals. There's more to living a fulfilled life than whether you've slept with someone or not.

I have to agree with you laura. I'm not sure about 40 yr olds, but I've known some 20 yr olds that have been made fun of because they've chosen to save themselves for their future spouses.
One gentleman in particular was called many names (esp. in college) because he was a virgin. He lost girlfriends over the issue as well, because the girls wanted to have sex and he wouldn't. I admire that he stuck to his morals.
A young lady I know went to the OB/GYN and told them she was still a virgin (@ 24 yo.) and they said 'no way!'. She had been very active in gymnastics, etc. so it appeared to them that she was sexually active and they wouldn't believe her!
and for those who think somebody needs to "get some" just because they defend morals they believe in....how rude!

 

[Bob Slydell]

and for those who think somebody needs to "get some" just because they defend morals they believe in....how rude!

Defending them from who? Nobody made any derogatory remarks on this thread towards anyone, so why was there a need to defend anyone's morals?

 

[RickinNYC]

Personally, I do find it rather sad that someone is 40 and a virgin when using Laurajetter's example. If you are 40 and are still waiting for the "right person" in order to marry him/her, then that means you haven't met the right person. I feel sad for those folks that haven't found the one person they can fall in love with. IMHO, there is an underlying loneliness.

That's not a judgement at all by the way. Just a thought.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Personally, I do find it rather sad that someone is 40 and a virgin when using Laurajetter's example. If you are 40 and are still waiting for the "right person" in order to marry him/her, then that means you haven't met the right person. I feel sad for those folks that haven't found the one person they can fall in love with. IMHO, there is an underlying loneliness.

That's not a judgement at all by the way. Just a thought.

It's a very good thought, and I have to agree with you.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

I have to agree with you laura. I'm not sure about 40 yr olds, but I've known some 20 yr olds that have been made fun of because they've chosen to save themselves for their future spouses.
One gentleman in particular was called many names (esp. in college) because he was a virgin. He lost girlfriends over the issue as well, because the girls wanted to have sex and he wouldn't. I admire that he stuck to his morals.
A young lady I know went to the OB/GYN and told them she was still a virgin (@ 24 yo.) and they said 'no way!'. She had been very active in gymnastics, etc. so it appeared to them that she was sexually active and they wouldn't believe her!
and for those who think somebody needs to "get some" just because they defend morals they believe in....how rude!

I just find it odd that all you sit around and speculate on others sexual habits/history. I really couldn't care less about the people I know. Thats a private matter between them, those they chose to share it with, and God. Yet here you sit tellling us stories of your "friends". I'm glad I'm not your friend. I would hate to think you'd be sitting around talking on the web about if you thought I was having sex or not.

 

[Castlebound]

Personally, I do find it rather sad that someone is 40 and a virgin when using Laurajetter's example. If you are 40 and are still waiting for the "right person" in order to marry him/her, then that means you haven't met the right person. I feel sad for those folks that haven't found the one person they can fall in love with. IMHO, there is an underlying loneliness.

That's not a judgement at all by the way. Just a thought.

Which is why I think most people think that being a 40 year old virgin is strange. Most (notice that I didn't say all) people find someone that they care about enough to share that special bond with by time they are 40. Peoples ideas for the "right person" will very greatly. For some their idea of right is breathing and willing. For others it means nothing less than their soulmate.

 

[Towncrier]

I think that, in the case of my 51yo virgin friend, he never looked for "the perfect person". He was content to spend money on his boy toys and eventually got to the point where he wasn't interested in sharing himself with anyone else. He goes on vacations with his 50yo divorced sister. He spends weekends at his parents' home (which is just a few blocks from where he lives). And he worries about saving enough money for retirement because there won't be anyone around to take care of him in his old age.

Setting the virgin thing aside for just a moment, I think that it is sad that he hasn't had someone to share life's journey with. I don't think that "getting some" would help him one bit.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I think that, in the case of my 51yo virgin friend, he never looked for "the perfect person". He was content to spend money on his boy toys and eventually got to the point where he wasn't interested in sharing himself with anyone else. He goes on vacations with his 50yo divorced sister. He spends weekends at his parents' home (which is just a few blocks from where he lives). And he worries about saving enough money for retirement because there won't be anyone around to take care of him in his old age.

Setting the virgin thing aside for just a moment, I think that it is sad that he hasn't had someone to share life's journey with. I don't think that "getting some" would help him one bit.

WOW. WOW. WOW. I think I know this guy! I would have said EXACTLY the same thing including the mom and sister thing!

 

[noseybuddy]

Sounds like someone needs to get some





perspective. Lighten up, it was meant in a joking manner.

 

[Planogirl]

I think that this whole subject is kind of sad. I feel sorry for those who are 40 and over who haven't found a special someone.

As for the twenty-something year olds, I couldn't care less what they do. The little joke wasn't so bad and I would never consider it making fun of them as mild as it was.

 

[L107ANGEL]

I apologize. Now can you please direct me to the thread where the people who have a sense of humor are hanging out?

I am pretty sure you know where to go sunshine Now back to the heated virgin debates people By the way perhaps I am still a virgin




Ok that even made me laugh

 

[Crankyshank]

Sure. My parents are both still virgins. All three of their kids were immaculately conceived

 

[Froggyswife]

wow

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

What a coincidence! My parents are virgins too!

 

[tmq2766]

There sure are alot uf uptight Dis'ers on this thread. Things that make you go Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

 

[pfishgirl]

I have an Aunt who is 53 and my mother's friend who was a nun for a long time is almost 60.... both virgins...

but I haven't seen the movie..and don't think I want to either

 

[laurajetter]

Hi everyone,

I just reread my original post since there were a bunch of responses to it (mostly negative). I think I was too harsh and too fired up in my response to a thread which was simply asking a basic question.

DisneyAddict_M, I know you were only kidding. I'm sorry for jumping all over you. The ONLY aspect I was fired up about was when people make a negatively joking comment about virgins being unfortunate, unlucky, etc. I probably shouldn't have reacted so much to your comment, but this has always been something that has bothered me, and I snapped a response to your post.

(stepping onto soap box for about 30 seconds)
I'm sure all of you (well, at least most of you) agree that there is nothing wrong with someone being a virgin if that is their choice, no matter their reason behind it. The problem I have is that derogatory comments (even if they are lighthearted and subtle) might really make someone feel bad who is saving themselves for their future spouse. Most people who make this decision are comfortable with it, but why make them feel like a freak? There is so much emphasis in our culture on s*x and that if you don't get any there is something wrong with you. It doesn't send a good message to the younger generation either... they should know that there is nothing wrong with waiting.

I am stepping off of my soap box now, because the OP's intent was probably not to get into a heated discussion, I just wanted to explain myself one last time. Besides, I don't say much controversial stuff, but when I do and there is a backlash, it's never a good feeling to read sarcastic or snide comments in response. So, I am apologizing on my end and hope that no one will continue to make fun at my expense.

Let's all go back to our regular merry Dis selves!

 

[gr8ful4Him]

I just find it odd that all you sit around and speculate on others sexual habits/history. I really couldn't care less about the people I know. Thats a private matter between them, those they chose to share it with, and God. Yet here you sit tellling us stories of your "friends". I'm glad I'm not your friend. I would hate to think you'd be sitting around talking on the web about if you thought I was having sex or not.

I find it interesting that you say you're glad that you're not my friend, when you don't even know me.
I have not "speculated" anything that I have put on here, it was something that was brought up by them....not by me. It's not like I go around asking people if they are virgins! LOL
I didn't mention any names, therefore my friends are in no danger of it coming back to them anyways. I wouldn't betray the trust they had when they came to me to talk about it.
My point was that there is a lot of peer pressure against those who remain virgins and even health care providers have a hard time believing that a 20-something could still be a virgin. It's kind of sad...