Thank you notes via e-mail?

[TimeforMe]

I'd like to see the Post Office stay in business..

Me too since DH works for them.

 

[ZachnElli]

I'd like to see the Post Office stay in business..

For the record, I never said I wanted them to go out of business. Of course I realize that some of you will twist anything, but we keep hearing how badly they are doing, someday, they may no longer exist. Rules will have to change with the changing times.

 

[ilovejack02]

DS8 is in 3rd grade. His teachers send out a generic thank you note on colored copy paper in the kids folders the first Monday we are back. I don't mind, I know they have prob at least 50 children giving them gifts. My DS has 3 teachers and they switch classes. I wouldn't mind an email either.


When he was in preschool , we did receive a hand written note but it was only 10 children in a class . Much easier to keep up with what gifts were given to the teachers.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Email is fine for a thank you.

And if someone chooses to get their panties in a twist about an email thank you, they won't be receiving any more thank you's.

Likely because they wouldn't be sending you any more gifts. Stands to reason, eh?

Okay, so the only authority you are citing is the one in your own world. I'm glad I'm not violating any authority recognized beyond that world.

Writing/typing/chiselling in stone a note is what matters, not the medium with which it is delivered. If someone doesn't have email, then a handwritten note is sent. I would agree that a text w/all it's b*****dized English is not acceptable.

The issue at the heart of the matter is the showing of appreciation for the gift, and yes, that is becoming threatened. However, you can continue to think sending a handwritten thank you note makes you better than everyone else; the rest of us in the real world know the opposite is true.

You're wrong on both counts (see below), and I consider what you said to me to be offensive and a personal attack, although I have no idea why you're attacking me or why what I've been writing has been taken so personally by you.

Um, no:

Emily and Peggy Post
Amy Vanderbilt
Letitia Baldridge
Judith Martin
Marjabelle Young Stewart

Etiquette: the rules and conventions governing correct or polite behavior in society in general or in a specific social or professional group or situation

According to buzzle.com http://www.buzzle.com/articles/thank-you-note-etiquette.html, among other things "•A thank you note is not a thank you note unless it is handwritten. Sending a typed or printed piece of text as a gesture of thanks, is extremely impersonal and impolite. A handwritten thank you note always has a bit of personal touch to it along with a sense of genuineness."

Thank you.

First, if you re-read what I posted, I was quoting that specific poster, who was establishing her/himself as the authority by which the practice is judged.

No I was not. I was agreeing with the other 50% of the posters here who believe that an email is not considered a proper means of appreciation for someone who spent time to give a gift.

What you were doing was singling me out for whatever reason and telling me that I live in some fantasy world where I make the rules and saying that everyone else is glad that they don't have to live in "my" (your words) world. When someone else called you on that, you defended yourself by continuing to attack me by saying I was establishing myself as some authority, which I clearly was not.

I have no idea why you've got some kind grudge against me, plutotek, but I'm going to suggest that if my input in a discussion with a group of people bothers you to the point where you have to resort to offensive personal attacks, then please use the ignore feature.

Thank you.

 

[bicker]

I think the critical aspect of the issue, here, is the assertion that either way is right and that the other way is wrong. Reasonable people disagree. Judge others by the standards that they set for themselves, rather than those you set for yourself - because would you like to be judged by someone else's standards, standards that you disagree with? I doubt it.

 

[Rora]

I'd write them.

 

[taximomfor4]

I think the critical aspect of the issue, here, is the assertion that either way is right and that the other way is wrong. Reasonable people disagree. Judge others by the standards that they set for themselves, rather than those you set for yourself - because would you like to be judged by someone else's standards, standards that you disagree with? I doubt it.

Well put, definitely something to think about, and I might splash that all over my life right now. Lots of people judging lots of people. Especially among my family, you'd think everyone would be more aware of what is actually important considering all the people we will now miss every Christmas Eve. SIGH.