Kristy, I can't imagine the pain you are facing - I lost a baby, much earlier in the pregnancy & I thought I "should" just "deal" with it - not be as upset as I was - After a week, I was basicaly immobilized from the depression - so my best friend came over & we lit some candles & said some prayers - having our own "service" - We cried together & afterwords, while I was still crushed, I was able to move on more easily - I hope your service helps you & your husband get thru this nightmare....
Sending you all the strength & wishes for healing love & peace to envelope you & your family....