That's exactly it - bombing people IS what we're doing now. And you're right. It isn't working.
I don't believe we can make them stop attacking Westerners in the short term. It takes time to change hearts and minds. In the long term, I believe we can do that, but only if we're willing to live the values we claim rather than setting them aside every time we're scared by something happening in the world.
I have an acquaintance who immigrated to the US from Iraq. He is a charming young man who embraces his heritage and his country (the US), and I'm sure he's bound for great things. He has a cousin who was recently killed in the conflict in Syria. On reflecting on that cousin, he was very aware that it could have been him. His parents came here when he was a child and raised him in an Arab-American community in the US. He went to decent public schools, graduated from college, and is launching a career. His cousin's parents stayed behind. They fled sectarian violence with little more than the clothes on their backs and tried unsuccessfully to make it to Europe after spending years moving from place to place living in refugee camps and other temporary settings. It was in that situation that his cousin grew up hearing Islamist propaganda about the US/the West. Is it any wonder that after seeing his home destroyed, his neighbors killed, and his family unwelcome anywhere, he was controlled by his anger?
If we want peace, we have to be peacemakers, builders, homemakers. Not an invading force sending planes and drones to rain destruction down on people who are just as damaged by our help as they are by the problem we're trying to fight.
Not at all. Like I said, he was a cruel and brutal dictator. But I'm not sure that justified our action to eliminate him, especially since we did so without a solid plan to restore/maintain stability in the region. He wasn't Hitler, invading our allies and committing mass murder on their soil. He was a terrible human being and treated his own people deplorably, but there are a lot of terrible human beings in power all over the world and we don't take it upon ourselves to eliminate them all. But even if you do believe we did the right thing in eliminating Saddam, it is impossible to deny that doing so destabilized Iraq and sowed the seeds of the current civil war.