AmazingGrace
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My ds, then seven years old was diagnosed with a brain tumor. A week and a half later, he went though surgery to remove the tumor and he's been cancer free ever since. He's now seventeen and a junior in high school. He's learning to drive and will get his license in June. He's snarky, wicked smart and extremely funny and his bathroom is a pig sty. He leaves traces of himself everywhere and getting him to clean his room is like pulling teeth. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Seriously, when his doctor told us that Benji had this tumor, my first feeling was sadness, that I was going to lose him, that his brother and sister would have to be without him, that this precious child would likely die in my presence and there wasn't anything I could do to stop it.
As many of you know, I'm a Christian. My faith in God has been my bedrock through many hardships in my life. This faith gave me peace and comfort through this time, but I'm not going to sugar coat it. There's no amount of anything that can make the possibility of losing a child bearable. I can't even describe the depth of my sadness during that time.
I'm sharing this with you because going through this with my family was like this huge wake up call. The things I used to lose sleep over, the rules I thought my kids needed to follow, the stresses of parenting. All of those things pale when confronted with losing a child. We parents need to sit back and enjoy our kids to the fullest while we have them. We're not promised another day beyond today. It's really okay if our kids don't get straight A's or if they don't make the team, or if their room is messy and you're having to walk over a land mine of Legos.
Just love and enjoy your kids. Feed them ice cream for dinner sometimes. Let them skip school on a random day to do something fun with them. Wake them up in the middle of a summer night and look at the stars. Enjoy your kids!
Seriously, when his doctor told us that Benji had this tumor, my first feeling was sadness, that I was going to lose him, that his brother and sister would have to be without him, that this precious child would likely die in my presence and there wasn't anything I could do to stop it.
As many of you know, I'm a Christian. My faith in God has been my bedrock through many hardships in my life. This faith gave me peace and comfort through this time, but I'm not going to sugar coat it. There's no amount of anything that can make the possibility of losing a child bearable. I can't even describe the depth of my sadness during that time.
I'm sharing this with you because going through this with my family was like this huge wake up call. The things I used to lose sleep over, the rules I thought my kids needed to follow, the stresses of parenting. All of those things pale when confronted with losing a child. We parents need to sit back and enjoy our kids to the fullest while we have them. We're not promised another day beyond today. It's really okay if our kids don't get straight A's or if they don't make the team, or if their room is messy and you're having to walk over a land mine of Legos.
Just love and enjoy your kids. Feed them ice cream for dinner sometimes. Let them skip school on a random day to do something fun with them. Wake them up in the middle of a summer night and look at the stars. Enjoy your kids!
but in a good way. 
What a great story and thanks for reminding us all to appreciate all we have.
and you have to enjoy it
