Teenagers

[SandraC]

AAAAAAUUUUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH

 

[disneyvacationmom]

You've only just begun Sandra--wait till 15, they are such a joy at 15!!!!! It does get better if that helps--mine is 20 now(I think it's your daughter you're speaking of) and some days I have to remind myself that she survived teenagehood. Truthfully, I found girls to be more difficult than boys. Good luck.

 

[damo]

Teenagers can be great! Don't be scared.

 

[Diamondintheruff]

Funny when I was a teenager my favorite manta was

Parents.

UGHHHHHHHHH

Hang in there Sandra. Here's a hug.

 

[SandraC]

Thanks all!

She is a great person and I love her. It's the Scarlet O'Hara attitude that both drives me crazy and makes me proud. Most of the time she is "fiddle-dee-dee" Scarlet....the pre-war one.

I love her! But TEENAGERS! AAAUUUUUGGGGHHHHH

 

[BitsnBearsMom]

Ahhh yes they do have their days don't they - can be so loving but so frustrating too!!

A funny...... My 'teenager' ds tried to help out yesterday by washing his fleece bedding. He chose not to listen though when I told him he only needed a Tbs of the white bottle of HE detergent.... he used the old regular stuff and FILLED the soap dispenser with it.... got back from our walk to lots of suds in the laundry room.

Not much I could say either b/c he was trying to help out!!

 

[cdnmickeylover]

Sandra,

You will survive although I can guarantee there are moments when you are convinced that either they or you will not survive.

Mine is now 21 but at one point I was convinced he wasn't going to make it to 15/16/17.



Fiona

 

[LoveDopey]

I'm with you. DD is also 15. Some days I just go to my room and shut the door.

I'll never forget my mom shaking her finger at me when I was about this age and saying "I hope you have a daughter just like you some day". Gees, thanks mom.

 

[SandraC]

LOL! My mum said the same thing.....but I don't let on the my dd IS EXACTLY like I was! LOL!

DD is a great person and has a level head.....but her diction makes me crazy. It's not so much WHAT she says to me as much as HOW she says it......Although I could live without her "I hate you's"......I always reply, "No you don't and I love you." It's true. But I can't wait until she is 30! LOL! S

 

[LoveDopey]

I agree. I could live without the HATE YOU's too. Even though you know they don't mean it, it pricks a little. Mine's a good kid as well, it's just a combination of the hormones, etc. that drive me nuts. Some days we can carry on a conversation like normal people and others I'm scared to say anything in case I say the wrong thing. Oh, well, this too shall pass.

My husband is finding it harder to deal with--that's his little Princess with the moods that swing from one extreme to the other.

We're going to Disneyland on Thursday for 10 days. Wish us luck. I'm scared to be stuck in a hotel room with her

 

[peigirl]

I hear ya. I just came back from chaperoning a school trip to Quebec City with 93 students, 59 of them girls. 14 and 15 year olds. They are so dramatic (including my own 15 year old) compared to the boys who are so carefree.

Tears, tempers, smiles and giggles can all occur within one minute.

Paula

 

[pkitty]

Oh I am hearing you all loud and clear....Love my DD but she can be a handful. My Dh is going thru the same stresses....as I sit her my DD has got her boyfriend over and they are kanoodling in the basement ( with frequent interruptions from the parental units).....stttttrrrressssffffuuuul! Looking forward to WDW on March 6.....no boyfriends, no school drama, no MSN (thank gawd)....just a much needed vacation! HELLZYAH

 

[BitsnBearsMom]

I hear ya. I just came back from chaperoning a school trip to Quebec City with 93 students, 59 of them girls. 14 and 15 year olds. They are so dramatic (including my own 15 year old) compared to the boys who are so carefree.

Tears, tempers, smiles and giggles can all occur within one minute.

Paula

Ahhhhh the boys.... they come with their own set of issues..... they are carefree on the outside but get them home and watch those mood swings!!
Some days I feel like I'm living with jekyl and hyde!! Heaven forbid they show emotion in front of other guys... mine saves it all for me!

And eat.. oh my goodness.... I need to get a 2nd job just to be able to afford the groceries.

 

[SandraC]

ds8 looks up to his sister dd14.....she "says" she hates him too.....but I see the love. ds is starting to talk like dd....dh and I HAVE to put a stop to that!

The sense of entitlement dd has is frightening. She loves to argue.....she calls it debating. Somehow I know this will serve her as an adult.....but practising on me sucks.

Sandra

 

[cdnmickeylover]

I have to agree that boys have their own drama. They also say "I hate you" which I admit was hard to take. It does change though (thankfully for everyone).

The 'debating' was a lot of fun too.

Fiona

 

[SandraC]

I am finding comfort in the fact that other kids tell good parents they hate them too. Thanks all.

I know dd doesn't really hate me and I tell her that all the time to give her a sense of security. But I also take away privledges when her disrespect gets out of hand. I do let her find her own way.....but not at the cost of rudeness and inappropriate behavior. She is a great person....just lately she has been very demanding and closed-minded. That's really funny, because at dd's age I thought my mother was demanding and closed-minded. lol

 

[LoveDopey]

Funny how teenagers are a universal topic. We were just at a nutrition seminar through work and one of the speakers asked who had teenagers. When we put up our hands he said "get rid of them". At first I wondered what teenagers and nutrition had to do with each other but it became clear -- teenagers = stress = overeating or poor nutritional choices.

Oh, well, it's just a phase and we shall overcome and survive. I hope.