Teenagers!!!!!Does it ever get easier??

[wdwnutze]

My son is a freshman in college. He lives in the dorms and is about 2 hours away from home. Being away from home has been an adjustment for him. He has ADHD and is immature for his age. He informed me last night that he will be transferring to a school closer to home(1/2 hr away) or he will quit all together. He doesn't understand that you can't just "go" to another school. You have to apply and wait just like everyone else. He says if he can't go in Sept he will take the semester off. Trouble is, I know if he takes time off, he won't go back. He has a bad group of friends at home that I don't want him with. I told him if he moves back home, there will be some very strict rules for him to follow. He said fine but time will tell. Does it ever get any easier? Sorry to go on and on but this is so discouraging.

 

[oldkicker]

We are going through a similar experience with my son. He is a bit immature for his age and he's a very stubborn individual.

We finally determined that he won't learn life's lessons unless he learns them himself. It was a very, very difficult decision. We let him go pursue life his own way. He has moved back home now after going through some very tough times on his own. He has a new appreciate for the life he had/has here.

This is not to say that everything is fine and dandy. We still have some challenging times ahead, but he does recognize that his choices (in his actions, who he hangs out with, what he does with his time) will have a direct impact on his day-to-day existence and in what he can expect his life to become.

I wish there were an easier answer for you.

Hang in there and keep the love flowing while he makes his way.

 

[Kitty 34]

My sister is going thru a similar problem with her DD. She was a Freshmen this year but just informed her mother that she got some bad grades this semester (she was already on Academic probation) and that she is wanting out of college all together. She actually wants to go into the military which personally I see as a good choice for her.

So {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you, WDWnutze (and you, too Oldkicker)..........I know how you guys are feeling as I have been a sounding board for my sister for the last few weeks!!!


And on that note........I'm not even going into the frustrated feelings I have towards my 23 yr old son and his career at college!!!! He thinks he knows what he's doing so I pray to GOD, he does!!!

 

[Regina]

I know that I've been blessed. My oldest is graduating from college next month and one daughter is a college junior who's doing very well. My youngest will be starting college in the Fall.

With each child, I've seen classmates who go away to college and end up coming home. Some of them do transfer to a local college and finish their education.

I also have seen those who return because they can't break away from the "crowd" back home. I understand your heartbreak. For the most part, these are the ones who have no ambition and go from one minimum wage job to another. It's not the life that we want for our children.

Perhaps over the summer he'll find that he misses the school and wants to return in the Fall. I hope so.

And no, it's never easy. {{{{HUGS}}}}