Teenager Wetting The Bed.. Mini update.. Dr says..

[Pagan Moon]

Hi, I don't know exactly what I should do and I'm hoping that you can all be serious here and Help me. IF you are going to make a joke PLEASE make it elsewhere, you are NOT needed here. Please be respectable enough to keep you silly comments to yourself. Too many times I have read serious threads and some jerk has to add his worthless 2 cents in.


My male cousin is 15, almost 16 and he just informed me in a Deep "Please Help Me" conversation that he wets his bed. Now I am a girl and 18 so I'm not too much older then him and we have always been close so I am glad he feels comfortable enough to talk to me.. But I didn't really know what to say without getting the help of a Doctor or his parents or even my parents.

He says he even went out to the store while his parents were out and bought Depends. He says they work well and keep his bed dry but he is scared that something is wrong with him. He is close with his Mom but not real close with his Step Dad and never talks to his Real Dad. He told me he wets alot not just small amounts and it could be 2-3 times a week. He said it just started after Christmas. The only things I could think of is, too many drinks before bed, or maybe a bladder problem.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what or how to tell his Mom ? Any suggestions on what may cause this, he is more upset because he is almost 16 years old. Has anyone else had this happen to them or their relatives? If so can you please PM me?

Thank You

 

[vivilasvegas]

Why doesn't he just go to the doctor with you? They don't have to tell his parents.

This is a problem that needs to involve a doctor. It may be something as simple as a bladder infection.

He should tell his mom, I'm sure she won't think differently of him.

 

[Kae]

He should talk to his mother. And if he is to embrassed he should call his doctor. He is old enough that they will talk to him alone about this.

Kae

 

[Maleficent13]

If it is just a recent occurence as you state, he definitely needs to go to a doctor ASAP. It could be a lot of things. I think maybe he's just going to have to bite the bullet and tell his mom so she can take him to the MD. I know it's agonizing for a guy to have to tell his MOM something like this at that age, but I don't see another alternative.

 

[jfulcer]

I know it's hard for him, but I think his best bet is to try to talk with his Mom about it - she can get him into a Doctor to try to figure it out. I would tend to think that it's more common than what he may think. My first guess is some sort of bladder problem, but don't have much advice beyond that.

I'm glad he's comfortable enough to talk with you. Maybe you can sit down with him and his Mom???

 

[Pagan Moon]

Why doesn't he just go to the doctor? They don't have to tell his parents.

Doesn't the Doctor have to tell his parents? He is under 18 and I am not a legal guardian of him or anything.

 

[Maleficent13]

May I ask, why doesn't he want his mom to know? This isn't something I would think she would be mad or upset about.

 

[MsSpinShady]

I agree he needs to tell his mom. There are many things it could be that are easily treated. If he is too embarrassed to talk with her, have him write it down in a note and then give that to her so she can make an appointment to see his doctor.

Reassure him that the sooner he gets it taken care of the better he will feel. While I can certainly understand his embarrassment, please let him know it is a fairly common occurence among teens (one article I read said 1 in 100 teens experience this problem) and he has nothing to be ashamed of!

 

[vivilasvegas]

Doesn't the Doctor have to tell his parents? He is under 18 and I am not a legal guardian of him or anything.

You know, I really don't know. I thought that was the case, but I'll have to find out.

 

[transparant]

May I ask, why doesn't he want his mom to know? This isn't something I would think she would be mad or upset about.

My guess is he will be embarrassed. Pagan Moon - I'd encourage him to see his Dr. There pretty much isn't anything that Dr.s haven't dealt with before. Also...if it has just started happening - maybe a UTI/bladder infection? Either way...he really should see his Doc.

 

[goofy!]

.....

 

[Pagan Moon]

WOW!!! That was a really fast response !! Thank You all so much.

I do like the idea of me and him and his Mom talking, he may feel a little more comfy if I am there. His Mom is really cool, I even talk to her when I feel like I can't talk to my own parents about things.

I know he is affraid to involve his Step Dad because he doesn't have children of his own and never seems to be the type to have any problems ever. He has known my cousin for 7 years now but my cousin still doesn't want to tell him, at least not yet.

 

[barkley]

Doesn't the Doctor have to tell his parents? He is under 18 and I am not a legal guardian of him or anything.

in most states he does have to have parental permission for medical treatment, and he likely needs mom for insurance purposes.

i can't imagine mom being upset over the problem, he can just say "mom, i think you need to schedual an appointment with our doctor-i'm having a problem controling my bladder".

if there is no medical cause for it there are medications to help him get through the night and start to train his body/mind to wake him when needed.

 

[Dreamer04]

Is he drinking alot of fluids? My nephew starting wetting the bed suddenly-1 week later he was diagnosed with Type I.

He has got to get to a doctor!

 

[Pagan Moon]

In my opinion, I din't ask him, but, I don't think other then for just plain embarassment that he can't tell his Mom. And I know she would never get mad at him over this, especially if this is an infection or something uncontrolable.

He first emailed me a note and said he needed to talk to me, but was nervous, so maybe if I tell his Mom that he needs to speak with her or maybe I can ask his Mom to call the DR and I will take him if he feels better with me there and not her. I'm guessing the DR would call her with results and treatment if needed to be done so she wouldn't worry either.

Thanks Again SOOOOOOO very Much

 

[phillybeth]

Has he shared with you if it is actually urine? A 15 going on 16 year old young man would be subject to frequent nocturnal emissions

That was my first thought as well- it is urine, or is he having 'wet dreams'?

 

[Pagan Moon]

sorry I did think of another question.

If this only happens at night, would you still think it is a medical problem like bladder infection or something? He didn't say if he goes more during the day or not then usual.

I am going to talk to him today after school, he should be home soon and I know his Mom asked if I could take him to the store, he needs supplies for a school project and she is at work.

thanks again

 

[AmazingGrace]

Okay, sorry if this sounds bad, but I think the kid needs to go to the Dr ASAP. He also needs to journal when this happens so that maybe a pattern can be established. Now this is the bad part. The reason I would run this kid to the Dr is, that albeit small, there might be a possibilty he's having petite mal seizures. When Benji was having seizures, the dr made us watch a video. In the video, they explained the different kinds of seizures, and the symptoms. And one of the symptoms of the smaller seizures is imcopresis(sp) The person will either lose control of bladder or bowel or they'll vomit. Again, not to be scary, but this is something that should be checked out.

 

[Pagan Moon]

That was my first thought as well- it is urine, or is he having 'wet dreams'?

He told me urine, because it's alot, like a normal bathroom trip. Not just a small accident and he doesn't wake up. He says he doesn't even feel it until he gets up in the morning.

 

[floridafam]

Another vote for going to the Dr. ASAP!

I'm glad he felt confident enough to confide in you. Maybe you can help him approach his Mother.

I really think she needs to know. If the only way he will go to the Dr. is by himself, then so be it.

Please keep us posted. I'm sure the Dr. will be able to find out what is causing the problem.