Tearjerkers - Do you avoid them??

[KristaTX]

Does anyone else avoid a movie if you have heard it's a tearjerker? Or even songs that people say make them cry? I don't like to cry for "pleasure". For instance, I've heard about the movie The Notebook. I have no desire to watch it and blubber till my eyes swell shut .

I've just noticed a few threads about such things lately, and I wondered if I'm the only oddball who will avoid tearjerkers like the plague .

But if you do like them, then I have no problem with you watching and weeping . But please - warn me about the movie so I won't go see it .

 

[LuvOrlando]

If you don't like tearjerkers you'll want to avoid the newer releases called "The Notebook" (like you already said) and "Without Her", both very sad and about losing a loved one to Alzheimer's. "Two Weeks" was equally sad and about cancer. I am currently going through a Chick Flick stage so I watch anything that looks like a love story, both comedies and dramas. I prefer happy like Bridget Jones Diary but will sit through sad too.

 

[Pop Daddy]

there isnt nothing I hate more then to leave a movie and my eyes are watery, it makes me so mad, I got way to much testosterone to be letting that happen.

 

[Scornelius]

I love a good tearjerker! I find crying at movies surprisingly cathartic!

 

[tchrrx]

I don't actually like crying during movies. However, about once every few months, DH & DD know to leave me alone b/c I need to release some stress. Then, I sit in my room, watch Lifetime & cry.

(Of course, right before I posted this, I was bawling over an episode of Deal or No Deal! Sometimes you just can't plan the tears!)

 

[darlak]

I should probably post this anonymously since it makes me sound like such a horrible mother.

My DD (now 20) refused to watch anything sad when she was younger. When she was about 15, she started watching some of my videos that she considered 'old'. These were mostly movies from the late 80’s or early 90’s. Anyway, she had already watched several of them when she came to me one day holding one of my favorite movies of all time. She asked if it was sad and I hesitated only briefly before saying “Oh no, not at all”. So she heads off to her bedroom to watch and after about an hour, she comes back to me and says “Mom, Hilary is really sick” I told her “Yeah I know, but don’t worry, she gets better.” If you still don’t know what the movie was……………



Beaches

It was one of my all-time favorites and I knew she would never watch it if I told her it was sad. Poor kid, she was so gullible that I was able to get her to watch Thelma and Louise a few months later by telling her no one died in that one.

Before you flame me, please know that of my 4 kids, this DD and I are the closest and we joke about this now. She also got me back years later by tricking me into watching SAW by telling me it wasn't really scary.

 

[pppiglet]

I avoid the sad ones. Screws up my sinus's and my contacts when I cry! I prefer action or comedy. Oh yeah...and I did see Beaches when I was away with my boss for computer school. I was trying so hard not to cry in front of her.

 

[Octoberbeauty]

Absolutely, positively YES! I avoid them at all costs. I can find plenty to cry about on my own. However, lots of times simple scenes make me teary eyed and that's okay.

 

[KristaTX]

I can find plenty to cry about on my own.

 

[Darcy03231]

If you don't want to watch sad movies make sure you don't see A Walk to Remember. I don't usually cry through movies but this one really got me.

 

[JunieJay]

I usually do avoid tearjerkers. That said, I didn't cry at all watching The Notebook. It was touching, but not heart wrenching. Terms of Endearment, Steel Magnolias, Beaches, Brian's Song - those kind of movies I think of as tear jerkers, and if I know ahead of time, I do avoid them (but somehow managed to be tricked into all 4 of those I named! ).

 

[Tazicket]

I don't actively seek out tear jerkers, but I won't refuse to watch a movie if it is one either. Does that make sense? I didn't vote b/c I wasn't really sure where I fall on it.

On that note, DH and I watched We Are Marshall the other day for the first time. I haven't cried so much in a movie since we watched The Notebook! I thought it was really good, it was just emotionally exhausting. There was one scene I had to leave the room for b/c I couldn't handle it. Like I said, it was really very good and very well done (and I got excited that Bobby Bowden was a character in it) - I just won't be watching it again for a few months.

There's several "guy" movies that I cry in, too: Glory, Enemy at the Gates, Braveheart, We Were Soldiers, etc... I tend to get emotionally sucked into whatever I'm watching.

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

My DH is a burly mans man...and he ALWAYS cries!! Whenever a movie gets to a sad part, I just look at him, and it makes me laugh. (That way I don't embarrass myself by crying.)

So if you're ever in a theater watching a sad movie and hear someone laughing, it's me, busting a gut @ hubby!

 

[NMAmy]

I do like a tear jerker every once in awhile. My 17 yo dd LOVES them. She tricked me into seeing The Notebook, which is one of her favorites.

I remember coming home from seeing Little Women in the movie theater. My eyes were red from sobbing. My ex burst into laughter and said, "Seriously? As many times as you've read Little Women, it was a big surprise to you that one of them dies in the movie version?"

Oddly, the one where I was all out sobbing in the movie theater was My Dog Skip. DD actually moved a few seats down from me because I just lost it. I'm a sucker for dogs.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I don't avoid them but in general I just am not attacked to them. I love a good comedy.

 

[Camicar]

I avoid them.

First of all, I HATE feeling emotionally manipulated into crying.

Second of all, I have never understood the idea of a ‘good cry’ or crying as catharsis. I understand other people find value in a ‘good cry’ but I just don’t get it.

Third of all, I look to entertainment as an escape from the difficulties of real life that make me want to cry, so why would I want to pay to experience what I’m actually trying to avoid?

My all time least favorite tearjerker? Steel Magnolias. I just wanted to slap Julia Roberts' character whupside the head. I actually turned that movie off it irritated me so much that I was supposed to cry bec the suicidal idiot made a choice that would kill her.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

I don't actively seek out tear jerkers, but I won't refuse to watch a movie if it is one either. Does that make sense? I didn't vote b/c I wasn't really sure where I fall on it.

There's several "guy" movies that I cry in, too: Glory, Enemy at the Gates, Braveheart, We Were Soldiers, etc... I tend to get emotionally sucked into whatever I'm watching.

This is me. I can cry over movies that most people would never think of.
So, I don't actively seek them out, but I don't totally avoid them. But, if I know one is, I will not go to a theater and watch it.

It also depends on my mood and what's going on in my life. For a couple years after my mom died, I completely avoided anything where I knew someone died. I also tried to avoid anything with a love story after breaking up with my fiance.

BTW, Beaches and Boys on the Side are 2 of my fave movies.

 

[spima3]

When I was younger I enjoyed them, but has I've gotten older I have found that there is enough sorrow in real life that I feel absolutely no need to want to watch it as a form of entertainment.

I like comedies and SciFi and even a good Zombie movie, which often has a lot of death in it, but not what I would consider a tearjerker!

lori