Team Goddess - Volume 11. Rocking 2012 Goddess Style!

[SeptemberGirl]

Thank you, ladies.

I wrote the obit - of course. And her eulogy. The wake was yesterday, then a gathering at my dad's house. Funeral today, then repast brunch and back to my dad's. Lots of friends came. Four of my guy friends were pallbearers and then her friends filled it out. She will be cremated.

Hard days but the worst days are ahead. Going through her things, and missing her every day.

 

[DisneyGalUK]

Thank you, ladies.

I wrote the obit - of course. And her eulogy. The wake was yesterday, then a gathering at my dad's house. Funeral today, then repast brunch and back to my dad's. Lots of friends came. Four of my guy friends were pallbearers and then her friends filled it out. She will be cremated.

Hard days but the worst days are ahead. Going through her things, and missing her every day.

Liz - I'm not good with words like Lisa, but I'm thinking of you and your family and friends and sending love and hugs

 

[lisaviolet]

Thank you, ladies.

I wrote the obit - of course. And her eulogy. The wake was yesterday, then a gathering at my dad's house. Funeral today, then repast brunch and back to my dad's. Lots of friends came. Four of my guy friends were pallbearers and then her friends filled it out. She will be cremated.

Hard days but the worst days are ahead. Going through her things, and missing her every day.

Love sent Liz. Thank you for sharing her with us. And loving and trusting us enough to be vulnerable.

Liz - I'm not good with words like Lisa, but I'm thinking of you and your family and friends and sending love and hugs

Most of the beauty is in simplicity anyway Kelly. So

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And there are many - MANY - times when I say too much Kelly. Often, I type and flow and don't consider the full impact on others - wait I do consider but afterward I feel I haven't enough - or even my own fragile vulnerability of putting myself out there in feeling.

 

[lisaviolet]

Kelly - are you weighing in at all? Thoughts on doing that with me. I'm Thursday.

I will do it alone BUT I don't want to - smiling.

 

[DisneyGalUK]

Lisa!!

Yes - I thought I had replied to you, but it turns out I'd just replied in my head

Give me the goods. So what is up? You're still doing WW - online/meetings? Goods MCK. GOODS. Every single time I talk to you now I get that annoying little man's face in my head. He better not touch my closet. I'll drop kick him. Stronger, faster....

You should see me when I'm drinking out of my mug

Kelly, I had no one with me last time and that just sucked. So I'll go back on with you and do Thursdays. Do you have day? Or maybe I should ask first! Laughing, do you even want a day here to weigh in. Maybe not.

I'm doing online in a fashion, so Thursday is a perfect weigh in day for me - I'm in!

I'm feeling great mentally - around all this I mean. I've accepted me a lot more. I've kept off all the weight I lost over YEARS and YEARS - and now I actually give myself credit for that - but still bouncing that weight around back and forth that I lost here. And in the past I would have concentrated on any gain and got down mentally. BUT and here's the but - I'm fine if I don't lose a pound ( I want to though). When I was in NYC I was getting a lot of hmmm action. And normally I don't see that b/c my head's down but what I'm trying to say is if I take out healthy (which I am IMO) it's women and women and women. Me included I mean. This is not a man's perspective AT ALL. And yes I am a feminist and make my own choices and not based on men. However, it's been eye opening lately to have a different one.

I shouldn't say lately it's always been there I'm just now - at friggin' 45 - accepting it.

You rock!

Most of the beauty is in simplicity anyway Kelly. So

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And there are many - MANY - times when I say too much Kelly. Often, I type and flow and don't consider the full impact on others - wait I do consider but afterward I feel I haven't enough - or even my own fragile vulnerability of putting myself out there in feeling.

I do very often say more than I should, but I do try to take a step back first mostly I rage in anger

So I had my second gym session today. Its going well, but thats probably because I haven't had my 'free 40 minute personal trainer session'. Side note - I really thought that going to the gym with my 'degree in fitness, former gym instructor and personal trainer' husband meant that he would show me how to use the machines, make sure I don't fall off, then leave me to it so I didn't have to talk to anyone or be made to do weird exercises in front of people - oh no. No. He is making have the session. I ask you, why do I bother

I've 'pre-registered' for the race next year, and also signed up with the Alzheimers Society so I can fundraise for them. Someone at work asked me what I was running for, I told them and they said 'oh, thats nice. Have you thought about raising money for the RSPCA?' Yes, yes I have, but at the minute I DON'T have a pet but I DO have a Grandad with Alzheimers Some people....

Anyway, I think thats plenty of rambling for tonight.

Lisa - I will do my weigh in tomorrow!

Hope you are all well

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Kelly - you don;t need to say a word.

Lisa - you can type as many as you want. Always.


Fundraising. It's true we often think another's charity is lame, right? Like look at the poor poster I scared off over Komen. Well, that charity IS lame!

I think, once I can wake up without crying, that I will start a fund in my mom's name to raise money for metastatic research.

 

[poppinspal]

Lisa- Since I know you were going to ask me next I'll let you know... I'll weigh in with you on Thursdays!!! While I'm more focused on lowering my 5k time and my fitness level, weight is still part of my training. I'm looking to loose weight then I need to be accountable for maintaining. So I'm totally in!! (Isn't that sweet of me?)

Kelly- I'm very excited for you on the race. I raised money while running a race for Crohn's disease. (My brother got his Crohn's disease diagnosis five years ago this Christmas Eve.) I think that if the charity is important to you then you need to just ignore those who question it. I will say it made me so proud to wear my jersey with the charity's name on it and to stand with my brother at the finish. I also will say the charity I raised money for helped find the medicine that my brother now takes to let him live a "normal" life. So stick to your charity because it means something and the race will mean more to you.

Liz- I think starting a charity would be a great idea and when you're ready to it'll be a good part of the healing process.

So me... I was going to talk about my sister's wedding but.... it'll wait and I'm very excited about some fitness breakthrough I've had recently. I've been in a pretty good place weight wise but I felt like I wanted more and I felt like I lost motivation. I met with my boot camp instructor about wanting to look more muscular and also about focusing on a faster 5k time. We reviewed what I eat and found my one weak spot in my healthy eating. I was eating luna bars and special k bars that were loaded up with sugar. Since that talk I've been doing amazing with cutting out products with added sugar. I love chocolate but I've really done fine so far with cutting it out. I've also finally forced myself to eat greek yogurt and get over the fact that I didn't like it. It's growing on me. She also set a goal for me to get down to at least a 24 minute 5k. From fall 2010 to fall 2011 I cut almost 2 minutes off my 5k time. I would have to cut a little over 2 minutes off this fall to reach this goal. She (and Brian) have said that I'm physically there, I'm not mentally there. Like my body is strong enough to do it I just need to learn to push myself to be faster. So life now includes 27 minutes of sprints three times a week. Since we had this talk I've noticed I've been able to refocus, I'm more motivated and determined. She told me to give it about 2 months and she says people will really start to notice my body changing. (2 months is also about when my sister's wedding is.)

So that's my long ramble about having a breakthrough and becoming determined to take my fitness level to a new level. Hopefully tomorrow I won't be as long winded.

 

[SeptemberGirl]

I love the long winded. Love it.

What a great, cool, fitness goal. Good for you.

And spot on about the charities. Like PERFECT spot on Amen sister.

Tell us more about the wedding!

 

[PlutoBaby]

Kelly - you don;t need to say a word.

Lisa - you can type as many as you want. Always.


Fundraising. It's true we often think another's charity is lame, right? Like look at the poor poster I scared off over Komen. Well, that charity IS lame!

I think, once I can wake up without crying, that I will start a fund in my mom's name to raise money for metastatic research.

Liz-No charity is lame if it's important to you! Look at me, I go from Labs (http://www.labradorrescue.net) to soldiers who don't get mail from home (www.americasmomsforsoldiers.com). I know, shameless plugs, but those critters and people are what's important to me and that's all that matters. And if the motivation to start a new non-profit drives you to try something new, as long as your heart is in it, who cares? At the worst, you'll at least have attempted something that's important to you and has helped you focus your emotions in a positive direction.

Knee update: went to a great ortho office in Boca last week and was evaluated by one of the best PA's I've ever met. Bad news is I have degeneration and the beginning of arthritis in my knee. Semi good news is I can still keep running (with a new fangled brace) but have to take it easy on the mileage. Not exactly what I wanted to hear at T minus 2 months until the W&D Half (and hitting my runDisney 11-17 miles training phase), but at least I don't have to give it up completely. I haven't hit the road since the 16th, so we'll see what happens when I get back out there as soon as my brace comes in. I've been hitting the elliptical hard and started back to yoga in an attempt to strengthen those pesky quads, so who knows? Maybe I'll still be able to scratch "finished full marathon" off my bucket list yet!

And since I'm still somewhat DIS and Facebook challenged, please PM me your FB stuff so I can try and find you guys! Gracias!

 

[cantwaitvaca09]

Hi my name is Jo, I use to be a good Dis friend but I lost my way.
My I come back??

Liz, Sending you lots of love and prayers and strength and patron shots!


Megan, who you have a hard core work out schedule.
I would love to hear about your sisters wedding.

Again, I am sorry for not being on the thread. Please forgive me.

I went Disney Crazy. I was very wrapped up in planning our family trip.
Its over now but it was wonderful!

 

[lisaviolet]

Lisa!!

Yes - I thought I had replied to you, but it turns out I'd just replied in my head

:

That's so funny Kelly.

Always brightening my day.

Idiot on the race talk. Sorry for idiots Kelly. But I have to say I had a laugh about Brian (again! - will forever make me laugh - what was his REAL name?) as I said smug faced tosspot to your co-worker.

I weighed in last week - will come on over tomorrow at some point.

Grey's starts here tomorrow and I simply don't care. Poor decisions and writing.

Kelly - you don;t need to say a word.

Lisa - you can type as many as you want. Always.


Fundraising. It's true we often think another's charity is lame, right? Like look at the poor poster I scared off over Komen. Well, that charity IS lame!

I think, once I can wake up without crying, that I will start a fund in my mom's name to raise money for metastatic research.

Liz - I know what the morning brings - the suffocating realization. Obviously not the same with your loss Liz - please know that. I just mean that often this summer I woke feeling pressure on my chest and couldn't catch a breath as I woke- cause I would wake up with the knowing that she was *gone* I somehow kept down other times. I know you understand - but please know I know not the same. Just the feeling.

Lisa- Since I know you were going to ask me next I'll let you know... I'll weigh in with you on Thursdays!!! While I'm more focused on lowering my 5k time and my fitness level, weight is still part of my training. I'm looking to loose weight then I need to be accountable for maintaining. So I'm totally in!! (Isn't that sweet of me?)

Kelly- I'm very excited for you on the race. I raised money while running a race for Crohn's disease. (My brother got his Crohn's disease diagnosis five years ago this Christmas Eve.) I think that if the charity is important to you then you need to just ignore those who question it. I will say it made me so proud to wear my jersey with the charity's name on it and to stand with my brother at the finish. I also will say the charity I raised money for helped find the medicine that my brother now takes to let him live a "normal" life. So stick to your charity because it means something and the race will mean more to you.

Liz- I think starting a charity would be a great idea and when you're ready to it'll be a good part of the healing process.

So me... I was going to talk about my sister's wedding but.... it'll wait and I'm very excited about some fitness breakthrough I've had recently. I've been in a pretty good place weight wise but I felt like I wanted more and I felt like I lost motivation. I met with my boot camp instructor about wanting to look more muscular and also about focusing on a faster 5k time. We reviewed what I eat and found my one weak spot in my healthy eating. I was eating luna bars and special k bars that were loaded up with sugar. Since that talk I've been doing amazing with cutting out products with added sugar. I love chocolate but I've really done fine so far with cutting it out. I've also finally forced myself to eat greek yogurt and get over the fact that I didn't like it. It's growing on me. She also set a goal for me to get down to at least a 24 minute 5k. From fall 2010 to fall 2011 I cut almost 2 minutes off my 5k time. I would have to cut a little over 2 minutes off this fall to reach this goal. She (and Brian) have said that I'm physically there, I'm not mentally there. Like my body is strong enough to do it I just need to learn to push myself to be faster. So life now includes 27 minutes of sprints three times a week. Since we had this talk I've noticed I've been able to refocus, I'm more motivated and determined. She told me to give it about 2 months and she says people will really start to notice my body changing. (2 months is also about when my sister's wedding is.)

So that's my long ramble about having a breakthrough and becoming determined to take my fitness level to a new level. Hopefully tomorrow I won't be as long winded.

No I wasn't going to ask you next (or anyone else) Have you looked at yourself in the mirror? (yes I know you have goals - I'm shutting up)

Same to Kelly.

I only bugged Kelly because she put her little proclamation out there for the picking and only because. And because I want her to stay at goal - for her and selfishly because it's inspiring (that's why I bugged you so much when you hit it!). Hey Kelly! Why aren't you doing the WW meetings with your lifetime. I'm simply curious - nothing more.

Megan! Loved your drive and fitness. LOVED it. Yeah you.

I hate buts - but I can't seem to shut my mouth. Please - for the love of God - do NOT eat anything that you don't LOVE. Please don't. Okay you can I don't rule the world!!! Laughing. I just hate it for everyone.

I love the long winded. Love it.

What a great, cool, fitness goal. Good for you.

And spot on about the charities. Like PERFECT spot on Amen sister.

Tell us more about the wedding!

Yes tell us about the wedding.

Liz LOVES it.

Me I don't. And that's why Liz will one day plan mine.

As she will beautifully decorate the wagon that will have to literally pull me up the aisle. I can NOT imagine that many eyes on me - loved ones or not! The horror.

I'm such a catch. Laughing.

Liz-No charity is lame if it's important to you! Look at me, I go from Labs (http://www.labradorrescue.net) to soldiers who don't get mail from home (www.americasmomsforsoldiers.com). I know, shameless plugs, but those critters and people are what's important to me and that's all that matters. And if the motivation to start a new non-profit drives you to try something new, as long as your heart is in it, who cares? At the worst, you'll at least have attempted something that's important to you and has helped you focus your emotions in a positive direction.

Knee update: went to a great ortho office in Boca last week and was evaluated by one of the best PA's I've ever met. Bad news is I have degeneration and the beginning of arthritis in my knee. Semi good news is I can still keep running (with a new fangled brace) but have to take it easy on the mileage. Not exactly what I wanted to hear at T minus 2 months until the W&D Half (and hitting my runDisney 11-17 miles training phase), but at least I don't have to give it up completely. I haven't hit the road since the 16th, so we'll see what happens when I get back out there as soon as my brace comes in. I've been hitting the elliptical hard and started back to yoga in an attempt to strengthen those pesky quads, so who knows? Maybe I'll still be able to scratch "finished full marathon" off my bucket list yet!

And since I'm still somewhat DIS and Facebook challenged, please PM me your FB stuff so I can try and find you guys! Gracias!

Kimberley - sorry about the knee but happy you're getting some great help and answers. But frustrating nonetheless. Great that you don't have to give it up completely. Knees are something in females - we're so unbalanced in our muscles. Wait! Kimberley I believe it's often that woman carry too much quad and not enough hamstring - so ??? - thinking out loud about the quads.

AND I think you totally misunderstood Liz's post in general terms.

And her Komen afterthought is because it has simply frustrated/angered her on a very personal level.

 

[lisaviolet]

Hi my name is Jo, I use to be a good Dis friend but I lost my way.
My I come back??

Liz, Sending you lots of love and prayers and strength and patron shots!


Megan, who you have a hard core work out schedule.
I would love to hear about your sisters wedding.

Again, I am sorry for not being on the thread. Please forgive me.

I went Disney Crazy. I was very wrapped up in planning our family trip.
Its over now but it was wonderful!

OMG, how the eff did I miss this?

Oh wait - could it be that I take two years to write a post? Why yes it is.

May I come back? Disney must have done something to my bright JO's brain!

Jo, tell us about the trip! Everything.

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And Kelly I was going back a page just to make sure I had your WW choice correct and then I thought "Kelly - oh Kelly - you're not showing up in any sex tapes, are you?".

Please tell me what you see in him. I'm struggling even more than Dirty Dog. So you must tell me straight up. Is it a je ne sais quoi that can only be seen in person? Is it?

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Can I claim thread amnesty? Please? I've read everything and am all caught up now

Liz- love, hugs, prayers of peace


So much to say to everyone about races, goals, revelations. I, too, need to get back here for accountability. Between the hip arthritis and working for my SIL this summer, my whole exercise routine that I've had for 25 years was shot to he!!. I need to get back on track with both the working out and the food.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Of COURSE I'm taking the bait, Lisa...you KNEW I would!

I heart you!

xoxo

 

[poppinspal]

No I wasn't going to ask you next (or anyone else) Have you looked at yourself in the mirror? (yes I know you have goals - I'm shutting up)

Same to Kelly.

I only bugged Kelly because she put her little proclamation out there for the picking and only because. And because I want her to stay at goal - for her and selfishly because it's inspiring (that's why I bugged you so much when you hit it!). Hey Kelly! Why aren't you doing the WW meetings with your lifetime. I'm simply curious - nothing more.

Megan! Loved your drive and fitness. LOVED it. Yeah you.

I hate buts - but I can't seem to shut my mouth. Please - for the love of God - do NOT eat anything that you don't LOVE. Please don't. Okay you can I don't rule the world!!! Laughing. I just hate it for everyone.

I love you. Yes I know I have done a lot of great work, I fully own this is a body I worked hard to get. I'm just not done yet. I have the oddest relationship with that scale now, I need it to give me some measure that I'm on track but at the same time it doesn't paint the whole picture. I'm not at my ideal number but I'm stronger then before. Random number generator, that's what my trainer calls it.

Getting off track here, either way I keep pretty close tabs on my weight loss and plan to keep up a slow crawl to my ideal while aiming for these goals.

Here's the thing there are foods I will never eat, ever. (Certain fish, cottage cheese.) I have a thing about foods with weird textures. What I hated about greek yogurt was the texture but the taste was fine. So it's worth it to suck it up and make myself adjust to the texture because I do like the taste. Apparently I feel fish and cottage cheese aren't worth the effort. I make no sense I know. I guess I really believe I will come to enjoy greek yogurt.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Ok, so I totally plead thread bankruptcy! Sorry...it is what it is!

First...to all of you...

KELLY--I adore you on FB! (Well, I adore you period! But I always laugh my a$$ off at your FB comments!) So I feel somewhat caught up with you.

LISA--Well, I would say that I adore you, too, but since you blew off coming to Maine last month, *sigh*, I'm afraid I must write you off. (Seriously, though, check your mailbox in a few days. )

MEGAN--wait...WHAT?!? KATIE is getting married? How did I miss that? I follow you on FB (and the baby, of course! Too cute!) but I didn't realize she was getting married. When I saw you posting about a wedding, I was like, oh! yeah! Cause we all know it's coming, right? Like, just move to Vermont already! Thought of you at the beach 5k this year.

LIZ--well, we have talked a ton--at 3am no less, so no need to catch up here. Other than to say that I have started my push-ups! Ha!

NANCY--speaking of push-ups... Word.

JO--I'm back, too! Would love to see more pics of the trip, though. Text them to me if you don't post them here. OR! Oh, even better! Since I KNOW you are going to make a photobook of the trip (duh!), just send me the link to the book and I can see all of your pics that way. And it will give me ideas for my next book since you are WAY more crafty and creative than I am.

AMY/EE/KAT--I'm back, so you have to come back, too! Yeah, I'm bossy like that. But we all know that already.

As for me--well. I broke my foot in the middle of the summer. Stress fracture of the meta tarsal. Hurts like a mofo. And I haven't done a stitch of exercise in 3+ months. So I'm as fat as a mofo. Sad but true. But, my foot is FINALLY getting better. This has been the hardest rehab ever. Ok, so I am not rehabbing...just waiting for it to heal. But you know what I mean. So freaking slow. Maddening. But like I said, I am finally at about 80-ish percent. So a few more weeks and I am going to SLOWLY hit the road and see how it goes. But I am finally ready to do some basic floor work. Squats, lunges, and push-ups (Ahem...Nancy...just sayin')

Other stuff in life continues on. My summer suckedass for a variety of reasons, but it is over now. I am coaching soccer, cause you know, it's fall. And I live for soccer in the fall. And between the 3 kids, we are currently participating on 7 sports teams this season (5 soccer teams, cross country, and gymnastics). So it is totally cray cray around here. Have I mentioned that is is soccer season??

Jeff has been in Sweden all month, but returns tomorrow. Home for 3 weeks then back again. Thank GOD I work full time from home now (no more going up on campus to be on the JumboTron!) otherwise I wouldn't have a chance in hell of making this work.

xoxox to all! I've really missed being here, so I am going to really try to be more present.

 

[3DisneyKids]

MEGAN--talk to me more about getting a faster 5k time and specifically what you are doing. AMY and I both have the same goal of lowering our times. And although right now I am way out of shape, I know that when I was at my peak, everyone was telling me the same thing...I was totally capable of going faster, I was the only one who didn't know it.

So tell me about the sprint work-outs and anything else you are doing to decrease your time. I would K.I.L.L. for a 24 minute 5k. Really. I would kill someone for it. Not someone I liked, of course. But some random asswipe? Sure. Kill him dead for a 24 minute 5k!

 

[lisaviolet]

I came on to edit something and there's a friggin party!

Oh no - not a banana party.

 

[3DisneyKids]

I came on to edit something and there's a friggin party!

Oh no - not a banana party.

You DID NOT just break out the banana!!! What the f*ck has been going on around here in my absence? Have we forgotten ALL of the rules??

 

[SeptemberGirl]

I came on to edit something and there's a friggin party!

Oh no - not a banana party.

Oh My WORD no dancing banana of death!!!!

Lisa, you were right on re charities. And for the record, Komen=Lame. New rule. They don't support what she DIED of. Oct 13, Metastatic Day. I'll rant then.

I think of you and your mom all the time. I wish I had good words or advice or anything. Anything.