Team Focker Watch Chat - Good Grief We Talk A Lot! Part 5

[princessjv]

I wasn't going to complain to you all about this, but when the lying topic came up, I thought - why not. Plus I can complain to you instead of family and there won't be any drama. KWIM?

That would totally bother me. I hear you in not inviting them anymore...but if you decide too, I would be clear with them that their dd must follow the house rules whilst in your house. Anytime we have had guests stay that is a MUST! Granted some rules get bent a bit, just because of the fact that it is special having guests...

Also, what is he teaching his child by lying like that? That is absolutely horrible!

 

[jcc0621]

That would totally bother me. I hear you in not inviting them anymore...but if you decide too, I would be clear with them that their dd must follow the house rules whilst in your house. Anytime we have had guests stay that is a MUST! Granted some rules get bent a bit, just because of the fact that it is special having guests...

Same here Jen. When Jimmy has a sleepover the guests must follow out house rules, but hey bedtime may get pushjed back a little or there might be a little extra snack that he might not normally get.

Same for when he sleeps over somewhere else. I always tell him that he is to follow the rules of Mr & Mrs.........even better than he follows mommy and daddy's rules

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

This is what I was going to say. Wait until she is a teenager and lying to him all the time. Then he will realize his mistakes. I feel bad for your niece though. THat is the one thing that Jim and try and do. If one of us says no, the other backs us up!

Yup...united front.

That would totally bother me. I hear you in not inviting them anymore...but if you decide too, I would be clear with them that their dd must follow the house rules whilst in your house. Anytime we have had guests stay that is a MUST! Granted some rules get bent a bit, just because of the fact that it is special having guests...

And again, yup...my kids have to follow my house rules AND the house rules of wherever they are. Sometimes they can barely move!

 

[Goofyluver]

so, yes, i'm very happy that she's going, but feel little guilty cuz it wasn't my first reaction, kwim????? thanks for listening gals!!!

I'm glad that you have a relationship with your mom that will allow you to be happy to spend time with her. You guys have fun!!!

I've talked to my friend who lost his Dad and he gave his blessing for us to leave.

So the bags are packed and we will be leaving in about an hour.. UGH... ONLY HOUR OFF SCHEDULE.

Talk to you from WDW..

Katt.

Katt...have fun honey. Play. Laugh. Hard.

Jen,
We did a six week "move that never happened" and the stress was unbelievable. We were supposed to move to Maryland. We sold our house here, packed it all up, put it in storage and went. Got there and couldn't afford to live. It was one of those times in your life when you question everything. Me, DH, and 3 boys living in hotels and trying desperately to do the right thing. A great job presented itself right here in SC. We came back, rented a house while we had a new one built and returned feeling like this is where we were supposed to be. All this to say, I know your stress, I know your worry, and sometimes life has a crazy way of working itself out.

I"m glad someone else has done it too. I know I just "moved" a few weeks ago...but I've been job searching for 2 months. And nothing has panned out. So, I'm tucking my tail between my legs and going home. The first thing I'm doing when I get home...meeska and I are going for a tall strong drink.

Jen- Look at it this way... I am sure you purged a lot when you packed (most do) and when you go to unpack you can place things in different spots and make your old home feel like new! I am happy that everything will work out.

You guys don't think I"m crazy???

Wait...don't answer that.

I wasn't going to complain to you all about this, but when the lying topic came up, I thought - why not. Plus I can complain to you instead of family and there won't be any drama. KWIM?

OMG. And what does he think he's teaching his daughter? Wow. the one thing I can't stand is bad parenting...I don't have any tolerance for it.

Now let me ask you a question.

What if you had someone in your life...who you are very close to. Like family. And their child was out of control. But, telling them may make things bad between you. WWYD?

I think it's the right thing to do. It sounds like you've really thought it all out and it's best for your family.
That's great that you can just unpack! Awesome!

Did you tell motha?

Yes. And she really hurt my feelings when I told her.

I explained to her about Jon...and his friends...and how if Albuquerque wasn't going to be "better" for him that it would be better for us to go home.

She says this:

"Well, as he grows, his disabilities are going to become more obvious. And I hope you don't think those kids will be his friends forever. Because they won't."

Well, gee, mom, thanks for the support.

She has no class sometimes.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Dawn- How is the painting going? Are you close to done? Strips always ascre me.

He got the first coat of green up. He's mowing now and will probably do the second coat later today. I'm hoping A can sleep in there tonight, but he may not be able to. He can sleep in C's room again.

K is the best at stripes. Here's how he did B's wall...
He puts the tape up with his level that has a light thingy on it, then paints the color under the outside edge. So, if the left stripe will be brown, he'd paint the left edge of the tape the brown, the right egde of the tape coral. When that dries, it's "sealed" to leaks of the blue paint. Then he'd paint blue in the middle of the pieces of tape. Once that dries, you peel it off and it's a perfect stripe. I'll attach a picture of B's stripe wall. He's so good. I'm glad he's a perfectionist when it comes to this stuff. I hope that made sense.

Dawn- Good catch! I am a cruddy typer and sometimes don't take the time to correct my work. Bites me in the Butt sometimes.

Same here. I'm great with spelling and grammar, but my typing has me reversing letters all the time. My hands and head aren't going the same speed!

My TR is updated and I am off to get groceries for tomorrow. Remember my friends who the wife found the cancer tumor whilst pregnant and has ...a grim outlook...

They are baptizing their baby and I am catering the food for them. (gratis of course.) She just finished a round of Chemo and really can't handle any food preparing. Her awesome story can be seen at lemmondrops . blog spot . com


Another reminder of keeping your mind on what is important to you.


See ya all later!

Oh, I'm sory, Jen. That must be so hard.

Yeah Jen, didja?

Spill it, sister.

It will get done. No need to make yourself sick again missy

I know. I won't let myself get sick or hurt. I'll just boss everyone else around.
I just don't want A to be disappointed if K got busy and it took three weeks to finish. I can't stand things out of order, so hopefully we can put things back together this weekend. All this stuff in the school room is making me feel crowded!

I wasn't going to complain to you all about this, but when the lying topic came up, I thought - why not. Plus I can complain to you instead of family and there won't be any drama. KWIM?

My niece and her husband came to visit. We love them and have a lot of fun with them. Their dd6 is spoiled rotten and she is not very well behaved. We had them visit in December and they really stayed too long - we wished we had invited them for only about 3 nights because things were getting to us. Her dad never tells her no and does is best to make sure she is always happy - doesn't matter if it affects everyone else. We decided to invite them again, but this time only 3 nights. We figured any more and we would not be getting along. So they came and she was much better behaved this time - didn't do things that bothered me. I told dh her dad was the one annoying me this trip. Several things happened - I won't go into all the details, but the one thing that teed me off the most is this:

The little girl opened my fridge and got out a soda, without asking anyone. ( I did not care) Her mom (my neice) says, "What are you doing? Did you ask anyone? You don't just go into someone's fridge and help yourself."
Her dad says, "Yes. She asked me."
Her mom says, "No she didn't. Don't lie for her."
I said, "She doesn't have to ask. I would have said it was okay. But J, I can't believe you are going to lie for her. What is that teaching her?"

He didn't say anything.

Is that crazy or what? Like I said - I could give several examples of how the entire trip he wanted to make sure she got her way (it just doesn't seem normal to me), but this was ridiculous. It is my opinion he is teaching her that she should always get her way and is not accountable for anything and it is okay to lie.

I told dh, I don't think we'll invite them over any more. She never has to follow the same rules as my kids. You know - she is their child, so they can decide for her, but my kids end up complaining how it isn't fair that she gets to do stuff and they don't. Like she didn't have to go to bed when they did. I caught her upstairs looking into the bedroom they were sleeping in when they were trying to go to sleep. They were already mad that she wasn't going to bed. I went into the room and covered them back up and when I walked out, she is laying right in front of the doorway, in the hall. I told her she had to go downstairs.

I don't blame you for being annoyed. It's easy to say to the kids, "we can't play with them because they don't behave," but it's hard to do it when it's family. YKWIM?
It's so hard when they let her do something different. Would they get upset if you told them they can only come if their dd follows the same rules?

 

[Disneyland_Mama]

Good Morning Fockers

I can't possibly catch up... but here's what I remember:

G-luv - Congrats on the job!

Janet - sounds like a fun night!

Dawn - have to agree with whoever asked if you were painting!

Miz - J sounds like an ideal parent.

I'm so sorry if I missed anything important!

So Gramps funeral is Thursday (Evan's 4th birthday is Friday ), then the reception is here. So we're preparing for that. Last night Andy & I steamed cleaned the carpet in the great room and will finish the lower level today. I have to order all the food and get that all situated before Monday. Oh and TE and I aren't speaking.


I'll tell you all about it later - gotta get breakfast for the kids.

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

I"m glad someone else has done it too. I know I just "moved" a few weeks ago...but I've been job searching for 2 months. And nothing has panned out. So, I'm tucking my tail between my legs and going home. The first thing I'm doing when I get home...meeska and I are going for a tall strong drink.

We look back on it now and kind of snicker...not full out laugh, not yet. We call it our "six week homeless tour of the east coast". And there is NO tucking tail...take pride in the fact that you are looking out for you and Jon and doing what you have to do.

You guys don't think I"m crazy???

NOPE.

Yes. And she really hurt my feelings when I told her.

I explained to her about Jon...and his friends...and how if Albuquerque wasn't going to be "better" for him that it would be better for us to go home.

She says this:

"Well, as he grows, his disabilities are going to become more obvious. And I hope you don't think those kids will be his friends forever. Because they won't."

Well, gee, mom, thanks for the support.

She has no class sometimes.

Oh, man, Jen. That's a rough one. I'm sorry.

 

[jcc0621]

And again, yup...my kids have to follow my house rules AND the house rules of wherever they are. Sometimes they can barely move!

You guys don't think I"m crazy???

If you are crazy we all are...on second thought..no never mind

Yes. And she really hurt my feelings when I told her.

I explained to her about Jon...and his friends...and how if Albuquerque wasn't going to be "better" for him that it would be better for us to go home.

She says this:

"Well, as he grows, his disabilities are going to become more obvious. And I hope you don't think those kids will be his friends forever. Because they won't."

Well, gee, mom, thanks for the support.

She has no class sometimes.

It is sounding more and more like the right move is for you to move back home

I know. I won't let myself get sick or hurt. I'll just boss everyone else around.
I just don't want A to be disappointed if K got busy and it took three weeks to finish. I can't stand things out of order, so hopefully we can put things back together this weekend. All this stuff in the school room is making me feel crowded!

I understand

 

[jcc0621]

So Gramps funeral is Thursday (Evan's 4th birthday is Friday ), then the reception is here. So we're preparing for that. Last night Andy & I steamed cleaned the carpet in the great room and will finish the lower level today. I have to order all the food and get that all situated before Monday. Oh and TE and I aren't speaking.


I'll tell you all about it later - gotta get breakfast for the kids.

I am sure it is just the stress and things will work out T!

 

[Goofyluver]

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OMGoodness. That is beautiful. Do you hire him out??

So Gramps funeral is Thursday (Evan's 4th birthday is Friday ), then the reception is here. So we're preparing for that. Last night Andy & I steamed cleaned the carpet in the great room and will finish the lower level today. I have to order all the food and get that all situated before Monday. Oh and TE and I aren't speaking.


I'll tell you all about it later - gotta get breakfast for the kids.

Honey...take some time to breathe. Give hugs all around from all of us.

We look back on it now and kind of snicker...not full out laugh, not yet. We call it our "six week homeless tour of the east coast". And there is NO tucking tail...take pride in the fact that you are looking out for you and Jon and doing what you have to do.

Someday maybe I'll laugh. Right now, I just want to go home.

 

[Goofyluver]

Well, the motha just walked in...and get this:

"Jennifer, I think you need to think about moving back. By taking Jon back to where he is most comfortable you are actually making him more disabled. Because he needs to learn how to deal with new situations."



Jon has changes in his life all the time...and my kid deals with things better than anyone. He's in and out of the hospital. He has new things cropping up medically all the time. He has challenges in school, and we have several IEP meetings a year to change his goals to make him okay.

How dare she.

I just don't know what to say anymore. I think we may pack up and leave today.

 

[princessjv]

Dawn- Can your hubby come for a visit to the princessjv household? He does great work! I bet you are excited.



Jen- What I have to say is...

Buh Bye Motha!

 

[HomeschoolMama]

What if you had someone in your life...who you are very close to. Like family. And their child was out of control. But, telling them may make things bad between you. WWYD?

Did my brother call you?! J/K I just try to do the best I can with my nephew to help him behave when we're together. We can't ditch family, so I work harder at that then I would a friend.
now, I have a new friend who's DD is a monster. I've cut her off this summer. We'll see them at things, but we won't be doing lunch together or sleepovers like I thought we first would. It's too bad, but C's learned that that type of behavior is not okay and we don't want to be friends with people who treat us badly. This kid would yell at C and push her around. Uh, excuse me? That's my sweet angel child. No touchy!

Yes. And she really hurt my feelings when I told her.

I explained to her about Jon...and his friends...and how if Albuquerque wasn't going to be "better" for him that it would be better for us to go home.

She says this:

"Well, as he grows, his disabilities are going to become more obvious. And I hope you don't think those kids will be his friends forever. Because they won't."

Well, gee, mom, thanks for the support.

She has no class sometimes.

I can't believe she said that. I'd be moving home today.
Oh, I'm so sorry. She sounds like my mom. They don't seem to realize they are breaking down family ties when they say such stupid things. My mom just thinks she's being helpful and if I get offended, it's becuase I have a problem.

Dawn - have to agree with whoever asked if you were painting!

You guys always look out for me. I really wasn't doing hardly anything. i little rolling in the area I could reach on one wall. Poor guy's on his own now. That was too tiring just to do that.

So Gramps funeral is Thursday (Evan's 4th birthday is Friday ), then the reception is here. So we're preparing for that. Last night Andy & I steamed cleaned the carpet in the great room and will finish the lower level today. I have to order all the food and get that all situated before Monday. Oh and TE and I aren't speaking.


I'll tell you all about it later - gotta get breakfast for the kids.

I'm sorry you and TE aren't talking.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

OMGoodness. That is beautiful. Do you hire him out??

Thank you. He hates painting. Poor guy. But, he does love the way I've got the house decorated. I think it makes him feel more at home when he's had a long day. And that makes me happy.

Someday maybe I'll laugh. Right now, I just want to go home.

I don't blame you.

Well, the motha just walked in...and get this:

"Jennifer, I think you need to think about moving back. By taking Jon back to where he is most comfortable you are actually making him more disabled. Because he needs to learn how to deal with new situations."



Jon has changes in his life all the time...and my kid deals with things better than anyone. He's in and out of the hospital. He has new things cropping up medically all the time. He has challenges in school, and we have several IEP meetings a year to change his goals to make him okay.

How dare she.

I just don't know what to say anymore. I think we may pack up and leave today.

Turn the computer off, get in your car, and go home. Why should you sit and listen to that carp? Geez. I'm so sorry.

Dawn- Can your hubby come for a visit to the princessjv household? He does great work! I bet you are excited.

It'll be nice for A. He's very excited.
Hmmm... maybe I'll keep that in mind if he needs a job some day.

Jen- What I have to say is...

Buh Bye Motha!

I agree.

 

[jcc0621]

Well, the motha just walked in...and get this:

"Jennifer, I think you need to think about moving back. By taking Jon back to where he is most comfortable you are actually making him more disabled. Because he needs to learn how to deal with new situations."



Jon has changes in his life all the time...and my kid deals with things better than anyone. He's in and out of the hospital. He has new things cropping up medically all the time. He has challenges in school, and we have several IEP meetings a year to change his goals to make him okay.

How dare she.

I just don't know what to say anymore. I think we may pack up and leave today.

PAck up and get the heck out of there Jen. It is just going to get worse. If you already have a job at home and someplace to live. Go...go...go...NOW

 

[HomeschoolMama]

PAck up and get the heck out of there Jen. It is just going to get worse. If you already have a job at home and someplace to live. Go...go...go...NOW

That's exactly what I said.

 

[Goofyluver]

Did my brother call you?! J/K I just try to do the best I can with my nephew to help him behave when we're together. We can't ditch family, so I work harder at that then I would a friend.
now, I have a new friend who's DD is a monster. I've cut her off this summer. We'll see them at things, but we won't be doing lunch together or sleepovers like I thought we first would. It's too bad, but C's learned that that type of behavior is not okay and we don't want to be friends with people who treat us badly. This kid would yell at C and push her around. Uh, excuse me? That's my sweet angel child. No touchy!

What if it was someone that you couldn't get away from?? You can't just cut them off.

I can't believe she said that. I'd be moving home today.
Oh, I'm so sorry. She sounds like my mom. They don't seem to realize they are breaking down family ties when they say such stupid things. My mom just thinks she's being helpful and if I get offended, it's becuase I have a problem.

We are pretty much packed. Just have to shower and I'm going to lunch with a friend, and then I'm leaving.

Jen- What I have to say is...

Buh Bye Motha!

I can't believe she is saying these things. I have to calm down...before I say something very hateful back. Jon's in the shower, so I'm on here...before I explode.

I told her she crossed the line...and left it at that.

Turn the computer off, get in your car, and go home. Why should you sit and listen to that carp? Geez. I'm so sorry.

And she's right, in a way. Jon doesn't do big changes well. He has a hard time like most kids. I moved him from one elementary school to another when he was in 4th grade...and that was really tough. This move has been tough. Big changes are hard for all kids though.

But, to accuse me of harming my child.

Hell no.

PAck up and get the heck out of there Jen. It is just going to get worse. If you already have a job at home and someplace to live. Go...go...go...NOW

We're leaving...asap.

 

[cherbear]

Well I can't "catch up" per se but I scanned and found a couple things I wanted to comment on.

BTW my Friday sucked too. No ER visits or big ordeals but just a really crappy day at work that felt like it would never end.

Ok, well seems like I showed up just in time!

To add my misery to a crappy Focker Friday...Guess where I spent all afternoon today??

Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?? Bueller???

The Emergency Room.

Yep. That's right. The E-freakin'-R...

I was sitting in my office having lunch and about 12:15 Tony comes flying into the trailer and mumbled something...all I heard were two words...

Michael

and


AMBULANCE...

Turns out Michael's daycare called and said that he fell off the monkeybars and broke his arm. They were getting in the ambulance on the way to the hospital.

Well, the building that we're building is...yep - right there at the hospital so we went around the corner to the ER to wait...

Man, I don't know what's worse...hearing that your child is on his way to the hospital in an ambulance...or having to wait 15 minutes for the ambulance to arrive at the hospital...

My brave little man...he didn't start to cry until he saw mama start to cry. And even then, his biggest worry...they'll never let me go on a field trip again!

The director of the daycare showed up and she was freaking out...she felt terrible, PLUS the ambulance left before she did and she got here first...

PLUS...and this is what started to really aggravate me as the day wore on...their scheduled field trip today was supposed to be to the city pool...apparently they had an issue and someone didn't want to go to the pool so they went to the park instead.

I hate when people DEVIATE FROM THE PLAN!!

And this was my first time to an ER where I had to empty my pockets and go through a metal detector... AND had a crackhead begging me for a dollar in the ladies' room. ATTENTION crackheads...the whole "I'm trying to get home and have no money" thing....DOESN'T WORK. IT's OLD AND TIRED. GET A NEW LINE!!

So anywhooo...we had x-rays and then they were concerned with what they saw...he broke 2 bones in his right arm that go down to his wrist...something that sounded like "radius" and "something else"...but they're concerned about the way the "something else" bone broke so they wanted an orthopaedic surgeon to look at his x-rays. 5 hours...ICK...in the end they ended up putting some kind of a sugar wrap/temporary cast on it and we have to go see the ortho guy on Monday morning...

I WILL be having a little chat with some of the executives from the hospital next week about our visit...they were a horrible, dirty, disorganized mess there. It took an hour and 45 minutes for someone who was going to get Michael's ID bracelet and "come right back" and nearly 3 hours to get him some pain meds. THEN, and this is a beauty, they're discharging him around 4:30...AND no one had even LOOKED at his arm. It was still wrapped (and falling apart) from the ambulance EMT's. The nurse comes in and she's giving me his paperwork, going over the discharge information and I'm like Ummmm...is someone going to put anything on the BROKEN ARM???? So she said yes, someone will come and put the sugar tong or whatever she called it on and give him a sling - you need to keep it in a sling she says...it needs to stay elevated.

So this ditzy blonde comes in, wraps his arm, asks MICHAEL if he needs anything, he says no and she splits... Are you kidding me?

So I had to get someone else to get a sling - it took 3 people to look at it and see if it "looked ok"...

Sooooooo...in short, my fellow Fockers, BIG, HUGE group hug for all of you... What in the world was with our Karma today??

I'm going out to look at the moon...

Wow! What an ordeal that was...I'm sorry to hear about Michael, and sorry you had to go through that mess!

I can move back home. My house is not sold. I got an offer from a company back home that will be about double what I was making before.

I haven't been able to get a job here...and Jon has to have benefits. He has to. With all of his medical stuff.

Plus, I"m miserable.

I wasn't able to get him into the private school I wanted to...it was $12,000 per year. I just can't do that as a single mommy.

The main reason we were coming here was for that school. But, with him having to go back to public school, I would rather him be with his friends. He doesn't make friends easily...and he finally has friends. This year, he has actually been doing things with other kids for the first time.

We also wanted to be closer to his docs...but with the school off the table..

Plus, he is miserable. And so am I. My motha is driving me crazy.

And with no job to speak of...I didn't feel like I could start him in school here. What if I couldn't find a job and I had to move him after the beginning of the year?

Dawn...can't I send him to you?

The offer came today...and it's too good to pass up.

Since I don't have a job here...I don't feel like I have any choice.

It's with a local agency...doing speech at a clinic. They provide speech, OT, PT, and early intervention. I've worked there contract before...and the pay is insane.

The motha is staying put.

Really, what this boils down to is:

1. I don't have a job here and I'm getting really nervous.

2. School starts here in 2 weeks. And without a job here, I can't start Jon in a school and take a chance of not having money.

3. Jon can't go to the private school because it's just too much. so, if he's going to be in public school...why not put him in public school back "home" with friends...where he is comfortable. Jon don't do change well. All I could do, was picture him at a lunch table all alone. And I can't do that to him if I don't have to. The private school was small...only 30 kids. But the public schools here aren't great. so, why not make him more comfy???

Now...all my stuff is packed. But, still in my old house. I wasn't moving it until I had to. So, really, I just have to unpack.

Well, the motha just walked in...and get this:

"Jennifer, I think you need to think about moving back. By taking Jon back to where he is most comfortable you are actually making him more disabled. Because he needs to learn how to deal with new situations."



Jon has changes in his life all the time...and my kid deals with things better than anyone. He's in and out of the hospital. He has new things cropping up medically all the time. He has challenges in school, and we have several IEP meetings a year to change his goals to make him okay.

How dare she.

I just don't know what to say anymore. I think we may pack up and leave today.

Wow Jen....I say ignore the motha and do what you know is best for both you AND Jon...and move back.

Now I'm gonna go check out your latest update.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

What if it was someone that you couldn't get away from?? You can't just cut them off.

That's what I'm saying about my nephew. I just try and be a good influence when I see him and expect him to behave when he's with me. Of course, when my Bro & SIL are here too, I just have to ignore it all. SIL would go off on me and cut me off, so I just try to limit how much interaction we have with them.
It stinks to be close to someone and not be able to tell them the truth in love for fear of losing them. I'm sorry you're going through so much right now.

We are pretty much packed. Just have to shower and I'm going to lunch with a friend, and then I'm leaving.

I hope you have a nice lunch withyour friend.

I can't believe she is saying these things. I have to calm down...before I say something very hateful back. Jon's in the shower, so I'm on here...before I explode.

I told her she crossed the line...and left it at that.

And she's right, in a way. Jon doesn't do big changes well. He has a hard time like most kids. I moved him from one elementary school to another when he was in 4th grade...and that was really tough. This move has been tough. Big changes are hard for all kids though.

But, to accuse me of harming my child.

Hell no.


We're leaving...asap.

It's tough for anyone that age to move. We moved when B was in 4th grade and it was a good year before she was happy to live where we are now. It's a bad age for changes. Their self-esteem is so tied in to their friends and activites that it's devastating to uproot them.

I get accused of being too protective (to a fault) of my kids too. You just have to let it roll off of you. No one knows your kids the way you do. If you make a decsion that's best for him, then that's the way it is no matter what someone else says. It's so hateful for her to say you're not doing what's best for him.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

Ladies just got back from my moms and have not caught up yet. I just needed to post as I am so upset I am in tears. I can't even hardly type it I am so upset and angry and mad. My family just makes me want to scream. My brother is so self centered at times and I am a bad sister and Aunt any time I want to say no to watching my niece. I have had my niece since last night at Chuck E Cheese. I thought my brother and wife would be there but they basically dropped her off and went and had some fun. My mom kept an eye on her until her and her friend left and I had to teens with me who were a life saver when the keys were locked in the car, a 3 year old and a 4 year old. Now I still have her today because when I planned on taking her home this morning my mom said wait and see what my brother had planned. Well he is now headed to Lansing and will pick her up later. I then told mom that if he has plans of leaving her with us at the beach tomorrow to say no if she is not going to be the one watching her. I am now a bad Aunt and because I do not want to have her one more day. He and his wife come down to my moms and always leave her while they shop and I am just expected to help. Yet I manage to take my son with me and her when I shop. This probably doesn't make sense as I am upset and just typing.