Taking a newborn out for Thanksgiving

[okeydokey]

This year YOU get to decide. You have a 10 day old, you should be able to stay home if you want without your husband giving you a hard time about it. I think he sounds like an unreasonable jerk.

 

[alldiz]

Sorry anyone who just gave birth 10 days ago IS THE BOSS.

I say stay home with baby and bond....let them go and bring you a plate. You shouldn't be cooking and serving on T day when your already not feeling good.
Stay home and rest with baby by yourself
Kerri

 

[TheAnswer]

What if you just let DH and baby go? Then since you and the kids are sick, you call can stay home and have dinner and be comfy in your pj's.

 

[monkeybug]

What if you just let DH and baby go? Then since you and the kids are sick, you call can stay home and have dinner and be comfy in your pj's.

LOL, my baby is 10 weeks old and he goes no where with out the mama! I cant imagine sending a 10 day old baby off for the day! Maybe I'm weird though...

 

[Mouse House Mama]

What I would say to my DH is not Dis approved. So I will let you imagine what it might be. Thankfully he would never suggest something so ridiculous. I think your DH is being a Butt. If he wants to go then send HIM. I would not take my newborn out like that. I also doubt the rest of the family wants to be around people that are sick. You are right and I would stick to my guns.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

My twins were born in August. And at thier October vist. My pedi who is so easy so nonchalant. Said in no uncertain terms. Babies stay home now till the end of March. No shopping malls, no Big family gatherings. Consider them on House arrest.
I did cheat and went to A family christmas Left babies asleep in carriers near the fireplace. Allowed noone near them or to touch them. But I did break his rules and go..
Don't know how long RSV's incubation period is. but Both babies got RSV. around the 9th of january and were sick well over 2 weeks. it was not a pretty sight.
As far a shubby a simple no thanks and a glare would be the only explanation needed here.

 

[Carnie]

I'd tell Jerky McJerkerson that sure, you'll go, provided he carries the turkey from your home to their house up in his man part then shoots it out into the roasting pan to be cooked. While everyone stands around him yelling "PUSH!!!".

Honestly. You had a BABY 10 DAYS AGO.

Sure, you have a "sickness". It's called COMMON SENSE.

He can take his jolly old self if he's that heckbent on going.

 

[FergieTCat]

I'd tell Jerky McJerkerson that sure, you'll go, provided he carries the turkey from your home to their house up in his man part then shoots it out into the roasting pan to be cooked. While everyone stands around him yelling "PUSH!!!".

Honestly. You had a BABY 10 DAYS AGO.

Sure, you have a "sickness". It's called COMMON SENSE.

He can take his jolly old self if he's that heckbent on going.

What she said!!!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

Totally stay home! You're so not being unreasonable. You have multiple valid reasons... and you just gave birth 10 days ago!! Ten days! 10! You need a break. Can you buy a pre-made dinner at your grocery store? If you can, do that!

 

[MerMom60_94]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

Beyond the health of your baby, you have to watch out for your own health. I had a baby three weeks before Christmas and was expected to do the usual running around to everybody's house. That night I ended up sick as a dog with mastitis. If you are nursing, you have to be careful to not go too long between feeding sessions and if you are visiting people's houses that may be a bit too disruptive / difficult. I think getting run down doesn't help either. I am on your side on this one. There will be plenty of other holidays. For this one, I would go low key.

 

[minkydog]

I'd tell Jerky McJerkerson that sure, you'll go, provided he carries the turkey from your home to their house up in his man part then shoots it out into the roasting pan to be cooked. While everyone stands around him yelling "PUSH!!!".

Oh, heck yeah! I'd pay to see this!

 

[scottishduffy]

So, I am pregnant and just asked my DH his opinion on this matter. Before I could even finish the whole scenario he says "Wait.... I thought they couldn't be around big crowds until they were at least 6 weeks old?" Good Man.

After I finished your scenario My DH's response was "That man is a dead man.. I mean she has already killed him for this suggestion and we are discussing her alibi, right?"

Stay Home. Too Many at TG will want to touch/hold baby. All of you are already sick and it just isn't worth it. Even if DH doesn't understand I am sure the other relatives will.

 

[ols386]

Honestly, the baby has already been exposed to your colds, etc. and if she is going to get sick, she will get sick. I would be MORE concerned about you passing your colds on to others at the dinner personally. I wouldn't be happy if your family showed up at my place sick on Thanksgiving. I don't want to get sick, thanks.

This.

 

[Robindianne]

I'd tell Jerky McJerkerson that sure, you'll go, provided he carries the turkey from your home to their house up in his man part then shoots it out into the roasting pan to be cooked. While everyone stands around him yelling "PUSH!!!".

OMG I cannot stop chuckling at this.

OP, I vote for this. Quote Carnie to your DH.

 

[Minnie]

I'd tell Jerky McJerkerson that sure, you'll go, provided he carries the turkey from your home to their house up in his man part then shoots it out into the roasting pan to be cooked. While everyone stands around him yelling "PUSH!!!".

Honestly. You had a BABY 10 DAYS AGO.

Sure, you have a "sickness". It's called COMMON SENSE.

He can take his jolly old self if he's that heckbent on going.

 

[Spinning]

my daughter was born Nov10th. we were with a bunch of family for thanksgiving.my mom was living with us at the time and she did all the cooking and everyone came here. It was great! I never worried about germs and colds. and both of our kids are very very healthly, DD is now 15 son is almost 13.
I think the most important part is how you feel. If you don't feel up to it then absolutely your husband should understand. Plus if other members in your family are sick then it might be best to get together at another time!

 

[GJM]

If you are sick that is one thing - I wouldn't go.

I took my DS out when he was born, he was 5 days old and I took him to see Santa, it was going to be his lst. Christmas I had to have a picture with Santa, plus everyone came to our house on Christmas Eve, I did alot of the shopping and cooking. I also took my DS to work to see everyone - I have to say my DS has always been pretty healthy.

Some people thought I was nuts - but I felt fine and the Pedi never said anything about it.

 

[cm8]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

If you are too tired, let him take the other 2 and go enjoy themselves. I would stay home and rest.

 

[ckmommy]

Can't believe how many people stay home with their babies for so long--cooped up in the house! I would have gone stir crazy. I have 5 kids and they were all out of the house by the first week they were home. I was always excited to show off my babies too. I had 3 c-sections and would have gladly gone to someone's house with my kids and baby 10 days post birth. To have someone cook for me, talk with me (and it being an adult-not one of the kids or my DH), etc would have been really nice.

I guess I am the odd one out--I just never thought twice about taking my kids out or really felt the need to rest tons after I had my babies. I guess that has to do with the fact I had to care for the other kiddos pretty much as soon as I got home from the hospital. The joy of having 5 kids in 5 years.

 

[kidzmom3]

I took my kids everywhere. For the mother who was told the babies had to stay in the house from Oct - March, thats crazy, unless they had an underlying health problem. If I felt ill then I would stay home. My youngest was born Dec 18th I had a c-section, she was my third. 3 kids under the age of 4 and we went to church, family events, santa clause. Everything!