Tacky or not?

[threecrazykids]

Ok, I am going to type out VERBATIM what was written on the Bachelorette invitation I received the other day. It is a combined bach. party for 2 girls. I am not going to put ANY of my opinions on what I think other than tell you 2 things just as a *note* which is this: There have been 5 wedding showers thrown for one bride and 4 showers for the other. We ALL live in the town that we are going out in.

Ok here we go:

All right ladies it's time to put on your cocktail dress and join us on Saturday May 1st for Katie and Carrie's (not real names) Bachelorette Party. The fun will begin at *insert restaurant name" for dinner, drinks, and OF COURSE GIFTS! We will then head out for a tour of the downtown bars. The night will then end at the *insert hotel name here*. Please plan on staying the night at the hotel to alleviate the cost of the rooms.

When buying gifts you are only required to buy for the person who's wedding you were invited to (Sorry if you were invited to both). They request nothing naughty and absolutely no lingerie.

And remember ladies, a cocktail dress is a MUST! Hope to see you there.

What do you think...any opinions?

 

[lil mermaid]

I don't even know where to start.

 

[Pakey]

Tacky.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I don't even know where to begin... there are several degrees of tackiness in one invitation!

...and since when do you give gifts at a bachelorette party!?!! Especially after multiple showers?!! My head is going to explode.

LOL, who are these chicks? Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton?

 

[Mickey's Minion]

Ok, I am going to type out VERBATIM what was written on the Bachelorette invitation I received the other day. It is a combined bach. party for 2 girls. I am not going to put ANY of my opinions on what I think other than tell you 2 things just as a *note* which is this: There have been 5 wedding showers thrown for one bride and 4 showers for the other. We ALL live in the town that we are going out in.

Ok here we go:

All right ladies it's time to put on your cocktail dress and join us on Saturday May 1st for Katie and Carrie's (not real names) Bachelorette Party. The fun will begin at *insert restaurant name" for dinner, drinks, and OF COURSE GIFTS! We will then head out for a tour of the downtown bars. The night will then end at the *insert hotel name here*. Please plan on staying the night at the hotel to alleviate the cost of the rooms.

When buying gifts you are only required to buy for the person who's wedding you were invited to (Sorry if you were invited to both). They request nothing naughty and absolutely no lingerie.

And remember ladies, a cocktail dress is a MUST! Hope to see you there.

What do you think...any opinions?

Tacky or not?

Definitely, without a doubt, tacky.

 

[MIGrandma]

Telling people what to wear, that they must buy a gift (s), and that they must spend the night at the hotel...pretty nervy IMHO. I would have to be extremely close to the bride (s) to even think about going. And if I didn't want to spend the night at the hotel, I wouldn't.

 

[taylor3297]

A little presumptuous I would say. Now why do you need to bring gifts? I have never went to a bach. party where people brought gifts. Now I would buy the bride to be a drink, but that is about it. Also, requiring you to stay at the hotel is a bit much. They should get a head count before hand and then split the cost.

So, I guess in a wordy way I am saying it is tacky.

 

[madcam]

Ok...here is what I would do:

1) Go get a pen.
2) Write down the day and time of this party on your calendar.
3) Come down with the stomach flu 12-24 hours before the time you are supposed to be at the restaurant. Tell them that staying near the toilet is a "MUST".

Good luck!!

 

[JessicaR]

Soooooooo tacky! I bet you think the same.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Ignoring the poor grammar (okay, I can't - but I won't indicate it)...

Tacky tacky tacky. You're absolutely right. I would have said that even if you hadn't used the word in your thread title.

1) Gifts for a bachelorette party? Since when? The first time they're mentioned, I took it to mean the guests would be receiving gifts - either from the hostesses or from the brides. You know, like those swag bags given away at awards ceremonies? Of course, the next time 'gifts' are mentioned, it's clear I'm wrong. Tackier still is to provide any suggestion of what is and is not 'acceptable' for a gift one didn't expect to have to give!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2) "...plan on staying the night at the hotel to alleviate the cost of the rooms"?????????? Huh??? Huh??? Yes, this part of the 'invitation' deserves a double-huh. No option? No advance notice? No choice? No PRICING? Alleviate for WHOM???? If nobody stays at the hotel overnight, nobody has to pay anything for any room or portion of a room. This one has be 100%
3) The hostesses are "sorry for" guests invited to both weddings who are innocently suckered into the concept of having to bring gifts for bachelorette parties? No. They're not. If they were, they'd have left out gifts COMPLETELY. Again, I've NEVER heard of gifts for this. EVER. NEVER.
4) Cocktail dresses are a MUST? Really? Because....? They're afraid these mature, intelligent (enough to know NOT to bring gifts ) women don't know how to dress? They don't want to be embarrassed by someone dressed 'wrong'? They're going to send inappropriately-dressed attendees home to change (then make them guess where/how to catch up with the rest of the party)?????

 

[C.Ann]

What do you think...any opinions?

Greed..

 

[kaytieeldr]

threecrazykids: you discreetly omitted the names of the restaurant and hotel from your post.

You can see by the responses that there are DISers over a wide area of the country; in addition, I'm in Massachusetts. I'm sure any of us for whom it's convenient would LOVE to crash :rotfl3: if you think it wouldn't be too tacky. Admittedly, we wouldn't be bringing gifts, and we wouldn't be spending the night at the hotel...

 

[LuvLDM]

Beyond tacky.

 

[binny]

tacky, to the extreme

 

[karibritt01]

I have heard of gifts at a Bachlorette party before, but those gifts are always on the side of raunchy and lingerie. And NEVER mandatory!

I personally only buy 1 gift for bridal showers, baby showers, etc. If I go to multiple parties, I *might* bring something else small. I would not buy a bachlorette party gift if I had already gifted the brides.

And yes.... EXTREMELY TACKY!!!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Unbelievably tacky. Wild horses couldn't drag me to that "party".

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I've been to bachelorette parties where we did bring gifts, although we were never commanded to.

However, in my neck of the woods, the bachelorette gifts are far different from the wedding shower gifts in that they are often a bit risque, things that will make the wedding night a bit more, ummm....interesting.

However, the invite does specifically say "no lingerie". What fun is that?

OP, I would go, but not get the hotel room and bring a selection of gifts from your local Spencers. Edible undies aren't considered lingerie, are they?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm not sure what the strongest word for "tacky" is--but this is the example of it.

Are these Bridezillas or is someone else up to all of this. Multiple bridal showers AND gifts at a Bach party?

I think at this point, I'd be inclined to just be done with them and go on with my life.

 

[Scurvy]

Incredibly tacky. I hope the brides don't know how awful the invitations were. I would be beyond embarrassed if my friends had sent out invitations like that for an event they were organizing for me! As a guest, I think I would have a prior commitment that day.

So, OP - are you going to go to this lovely event? If so, will you please report back about it? It sounds like it has massive potential to be a total train wreck!

 

[figment52]

threecrazykids: you discreetly omitted the names of the restaurant and hotel from your post.

You can see by the responses that there are DISers over a wide area of the country; in addition, I'm in Massachusetts. I'm sure any of us for whom it's convenient would LOVE to crash :rotfl3: if you think it wouldn't be too tacky. Admittedly, we wouldn't be bringing gifts, and we wouldn't be spending the night at the hotel...

and don't forget to dress in something other than a cocktail dress.

now the invitation --- UNBELIEVABLE!!!!