Ignoring the poor grammar

(okay, I can't - but I won't indicate it)...
Tacky tacky tacky. You're absolutely right. I would have said that even if you hadn't used the word in your thread title.
1) Gifts for a bachelorette party? Since when? The first time they're mentioned, I took it to mean the guests would be
receiving gifts - either from the hostesses or from the brides. You know, like those swag bags given away at awards ceremonies? Of course, the next time 'gifts' are mentioned, it's clear I'm wrong. Tackier still is to provide
any suggestion of what is and is not 'acceptable' for a gift one didn't expect to have to give!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2) "...plan on staying the night at the hotel
to alleviate the cost of the rooms"?????????? Huh??? Huh??? Yes, this part of the 'invitation' deserves a double-huh. No option? No advance notice? No choice? No PRICING? Alleviate for WHOM???? If nobody stays at the hotel overnight, nobody has to pay anything for any room or portion of a room. This one has be 100%

3) The hostesses are "sorry for" guests invited to both weddings who are innocently suckered into the concept of having to bring gifts for bachelorette parties? No. They're not. If they were, they'd have left out gifts COMPLETELY. Again, I've NEVER heard of gifts for this. EVER. NEVER.
4) Cocktail dresses are a MUST? Really? Because....? They're afraid these mature, intelligent (enough to know NOT to bring gifts

) women don't know how to dress? They don't want to be embarrassed by someone dressed 'wrong'? They're going to send inappropriately-dressed attendees home to change (then make them guess where/how to catch up with the rest of the party)?????