Sweet 16

[wenrob]

Maybe a trip to Disney !

I've offered my daughter a Disney trip or a quinceanera. She's chosen the party.

I gave my DD the choice of a Sweet 16 party or I'd pay to bring her BFF with us to Disneyland. She chose to bring her BFF.

 

[Hikergirl]

We gave our dd the choice of a sweet 16 party or a car. She chose the car, even though she wasn't going to get it until she was 18.

If you want to do something special for her, what about planning a day trip somewhere fun or to do something that she would love but has never done.

 

[Grmnshplvr]

Maybe a trip to Disney !

I've offered my daughter a Disney trip or a quinceanera. She's chosen the party.

a mother daughter trip would have been great but we have one planned already for August, for the whole family. can't really splurge on a second trip though.

 

[Grmnshplvr]

What about doing something special with her friend? Over night at Great Wolf Lodge, concert, Escape room, etc.

Escape room is a great idea!

 

[Grmnshplvr]

And off topic.... we love German Shepards too! LOL We have two big boys and they are our babies! <3

they are the best breed

 

[Grmnshplvr]

Just because YOU feel it should be something special because you didn't have one (and even if you did)she has said what she wanted, why not just let it be that?

I'm not trying to make it into something I would have wanted, I was asking for ideas to make it special that would pertain to her since she isn't too social....which I received some great ideas.. Thanks.

 

[hereyago]

I'm not trying to make it into something I would have wanted, I was asking for ideas to make it special that would pertain to her since she isn't too social....which I received some great ideas.. Thanks.

I wasn't trying to be snarky, so if it came across that way, I apologize, but in fairness I did write that even if you had a Sweet 16 thing yourself, your dd doesn't want the same thing.

Now, when she is 18, it maybe a whole different story,lol.

 

[prprincess]

Wonder if it's the age group? My neice will be 16 next month, and we were given the same response. My sister (her mother), my mother, and I are a bit disappointed. But she literally said she wants nothing but did agree to a family dinner at my house. She had initially wanted a party, but changed her mind because she's been to other Sweet 16s in the past year and said it would be a waste because no one dances. We also offered to take her on a mini-vacation, and she said no, but I personally am still looking for a way or ways to make it more special without upsetting her, as well.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I gave my DD the choice of a Sweet 16 party or I'd pay to bring her BFF with us to Disneyland. She chose to bring her BFF.

DD is only 11 but I doubt she'll change her mind. I'm pushing for a Disney wedding now.

 

[mjkacmom]

Escape room is a great idea!

Lol I wanted to do an escape room for my 50th, dd16 thought I should have a party instead, so she threw me one. For her 16th, hibachi with 14 friends.

 

[wenrob]

DD is only 11 but I doubt she'll change her mind. I'm pushing for a Disney wedding now.

Haha! I throw that out there all the time, lol.

 

[dreamin_disney]

plan her day the way she wants with you and grandparents. Then ask her if she'd like a special girls day with her friend....movies, nails or if they like amusment park or mini golf etc. My daughter is the same way. For her 18th bday I said a huge party with friends and family with food and dj. She said she just wanted a simple party with family, She's quiet so didn't want a bug party with friends her thought was what if no one shows up. I told her she could have a simple party or bonfire. She sked for 30 invites but only gave out 15-20 and all showed up but 3 who had to work or went out of town. She had a great time and videos were uploaded to snapchat and others from school said it looked like fun and thanks for the invite(they didn't get an invite) and they told her to invite them to the next one. Enven though she kept saying she didn't want anything deep down she did just was afraid of no one showing up. Give her different option and maybe there will be one she might like

 

[North of Mouse]

My daughter is turning 16 in April, since she was born I've thought about her sweet 16 party mostly because I never got one. I asked her what she'd like to do. Nothing. Just out to dinner with the 4 of us, maybe some cake and ice cream with the grand parents. She isn't very social. Only has 1 real friend so I can see why she doesn't want a party. I know she'd hate a surprise party so I dont want to do that to her. But I feel like I should do SOMETHING besides just cake and ice cream and a dinner. I did plan to give her $200 to spend as she wants but I just want to do something special.

Any other ideas on how to make it just a little more special than every other birthday? 16 is a big milestone I think!

You feel like she wouldn't like any extra special attention, and yet you want to pull something anyway?? I'd just listen to her and do what she has already told you she'd like.

I never felt like turning 16 was anything extra special, for myself, or for my daughter - haven't really noticed others doing anything extra either, but nothing wrong with it 'if' the b'day girl is on board with is also!!

 

[North of Mouse]

Maybe a trip to Disney !

I've offered my daughter a Disney trip or a quinceanera. She's chosen the party.

What is a a quinceanera? Never heard of it!!

 

[mi*vida*loca]

What is a a quinceanera? Never heard of it!!

It's like a sweet 16 but a lot of Latin cultures do it at 15.

 

[wenrob]

You feel like she wouldn't like any extra special attention, and yet you want to pull something anyway?? I'd just listen to her and do what she has already told you she'd like.

I never felt like turning 16 was anything extra special, for myself, or for my daughter - haven't really noticed others doing anything extra either, but nothing wrong with it 'if' the b'day girl is on board with is also!!

She doesn't want to "pull something," she wants to acknowledge what some of us consider a big milestone with something other than just a dinner out. There's nothing wrong with that.

 

[Tasha228]

For bdays, I let everyone pick something special they want to do or go. My dd is about to be 12. She has, without fail, for the past several years chosen to go to the Memphis Zoo. This year she has a best friend. So her best friend will be coming along. They are going to get their faces painted there, enjoy the zoo, have dinner at Red Robin in Germantown and sit at their own table nearby but separate from dh, ds, and myself. They are going to order by themselves (but somehow I am still expected to pay... ) and then her best friend is spending the night. This is the day dd wants so that's what we will do. DS turns 9 the month after and we are going to this place that has pizza, an arcade, laser tag, bowling, go karts, etc. That's what he picked. We haven't gotten to the big 16th bdays here yet, but I figure we will do something similar. Let the kids say what they want to do and go from there.

 

[DaisyJ]

Huh. I must be the only mother that never considered doing anything special for my DD's 16th birthday in 5 weeks.

 

[wilkeliza]

Huh. I must be the only mother that never considered doing anything special for my DD's 16th birthday in 5 weeks.

Nah don't feel that way. I know my niece will not be getting anything special for her 16 later this year (except maybe her car) because she had a Bat Mitzvah. She was offered to either have her big party at 13 as per tradition or just be bat mitzvahed but no party and then have a sweet 16. Her social circle doesn't really do sweet 16s because they are almost all Jewish so she would have been the odd man out if she chose sweet 16.

 

[DaisyJ]

Nah don't feel that way. I know my niece will not be getting anything special for her 16 later this year (except maybe her car) because she had a Bat Mitzvah. She was offered to either have her big party at 13 as per tradition or just be bat mitzvahed but no party and then have a sweet 16. Her social circle doesn't really do sweet 16s because they are almost all Jewish so she would have been the odd man out if she chose sweet 16.

She will be getting a car handed down from her brother, so I guess that counts.