They can, actually, both smell and taste in the womb. Google it, it’s pretty interesting.What?! My babies were just as close to my husband as they were to me. i don’t think babies can smell anything in the womb, but if so, I hope me on the outside doesn’t smell like me on the inside.
I have to agree, I think there are more complications than most people ever experience or hear about. Heck, if people could foresee what was going to happen they might not want to have babies at all! Better to think it’s all sunshine and roses. And truly glad for those it is.
What??? I (with many years experience under my belt at that point) actually raised my hand and said, “Oh no, I want an IV. Minutes count if something goes wrong”. She didn’t like that, and others were probably confused, but boy was I glad to have that IV in my arm when things were going south for me that day. 
They may have had real trouble getting one in with the amount of swelling I had after 8 liters of fluid. I needed three units of blood, too.
That's a big part of it for me. One of my biggest reasons for not wanting kids is that I don't want to be pregnant. I never say that to people IRL because I find that people take it as a personal attack against their pregnancy somehow. I don't get it.
Agreed. I also think many people are kind of in a willful denial about the impact pregnancy had on their body. Like, I imagine plenty of women would insist they had no lasting effects from pregnancy and then they pee when they sneeze.I have to agree, I think there are more complications than most people ever experience or hear about. Heck, if people could foresee what was going to happen they might not want to have babies at all! Better to think it’s all sunshine and roses. And truly glad for those it is.
I remember going to the class you go to before you have a baby. One of the first things the nurse (who had just five months of labor and delivery experience) teaching the class (they must’ve been desperate) said to us was, “If they try to put an IV in your arm when you get there, tell them No”.
I really wish people would be more honest with pregnancy. Yes there are some woman who really enjoy being pregnant but man it is insanely hard. and that is really not talked about enough. And I was last pregnant 6 years ago and still dealing with things related to it and that is not uncommon.
Agreed. I also think many people are kind of in a willful denial about the impact pregnancy had on their body. Like, I imagine plenty of women would insist they had no lasting effects from pregnancy and then they pee when they sneeze.
I really didn’t, either. Honestly, we put off having children for that reason. And when we finally decided to bite the bullet, we ran into trouble. We were the last of most of our friends and family to have kids. I guess I looked far into the future and saw that I really wanted to be a mother, and I knew my husband would make a great Dad - I just had to get past the pregnancy part. I think what infertility did for us was make us realize that we truly did want to become parents.
but I am being honest because I want you and others in the same boat to know that you’re not alone, and that your feelings are not uncommon. I have talked to so many women who felt the same way (in both my personal life and professional capacity). But you’re right, it’s not talked about much. Maybe Mother Nature designed it that way in order to continue to more readily propagate the species! 
Hey, shockingly with all the other stupid issues I had to deal with, stretch marks and peeing when I sneeze were two things I wasn’t afflicted with. Unbelievable. But, you should know it’s not normal and it’s very easy to fix. Look up some pelvic floor strengthening exercise videos on YouTube to get started and then see a pelvic floor physiotherapist if you need more advanced help.
I’m sure some of us here could talk about ’twin skin’, right ladies?
I’m afraid I don’t know what that is and I think I might want to keep it that way.I’m sure some of us here could talk about ’twin skin’, right ladies?
I look at this comment and all I can think is:
I know. I know. I just couldn’t help myself.
Don't give those people space in your head!
Your family is just as valid as anyone else's.
I'm very happy that you were able to have children despite initial issues. Like I said previously, I think every woman should be able to have that choice. For me, I know that being a parent is not what I want for my life and that's okay. I can fulfill my life in other ways. I think more and more women are being open about making that choice. I think for a lot of women, pregnancy and childbirth is something they are expected to do. For instance, I have a friend my age who recently had a baby and she is the only one in our friend group to be a parent. She absolutely loves her son and wouldn't trade him for the world, but she has admitted that she wishes she could skip pregnancy and go right to having him.I really didn’t, either. Honestly, we put off having children for that reason. And when we finally decided to bite the bullet, we ran into trouble. We were the last of most of our friends and family to have kids. I guess I looked far into the future and saw that I really wanted to be a mother, and I knew my husband would make a great Dad - I just had to get past the pregnancy part. I think what infertility did for us was make us realize that we truly did want to become parents.
I realize I am opening myself up for criticism here
One thing that did dawn on me after my children were born, though, was the thought that, had I not gone through that whole process, I wouldn’t have had the children I had, and to me, they were perfect for us, so it all made sense in the end. Good luck with your decisions.
I think it’s perfectly fine to choose not to have children, too. It’s not for everyone, and that’s ok.
