Surprise Wedding!

[RockNEmily]

My mum and dad have always talked about getting married but never actually gone through with it. I came up with the idea that they should marry in disney because we all love it there so much and I said it'd fit ideally into our 3 week holiday next year. My dad agreed that he'd love to surprise my mum by planning it and arranging it all and telling her just before we go out there.
The only problem is do you actually have to stay in a disney resort to be married there? We were planning to stay in a villa because 3 weeks together in just a room sounds a bit daunting.
I suppose if you do we could always spend a week in a disney resort and 2 weeks in a villa.

 

[rosiejo]

Emily - that sounds like a lovely surprise for your mum.

When we got married last year it was a minimum 4 night stay on property for an intimate ceremony. You could always book the villa for three weeks and have your parents stay on site for the minimum amount of nights following the ceremony -might be nice for them to have some time on their own anyway.

 

[allisonswonderland]

When you say villa you could stay at the Beach Club Villa couldn't you? My fiance's parents are and they said that counts I am custom though

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

There's a book here in the US that kind of reminds me of this. It's the sequel to "The Notebook". "The Wedding" by Nicholas Sparks. It's about a man and woman who marry in a courthouse wedding. They then start planning the daughters wedding to coincide with their 50th wedding anniversary. I will leave it at that... don't want to ruin it in case you wanted to read it.

My only hesitation would be about a dress for your Mum. I am sure if she's going to (finally!) walk down the aisle, she would want one. And the things that go with it- the underwear, jewelry, etc. She may also want to be present for choosing her wedding ring. She may have also always had something in mind for her bouquet. Although I think a surprise would be lovely, the logistics on it may require that she know at least a little bit in advance. That way, they can share in the planning and she might be able to add voice to some of the things she would like to see happen. Also be sure if you're setting up a wedding to remember the little things like hair/make-up the day of, etc.

Just my two cents. Not trying to be a party pooper! I had a surprise event... although it was an incredible surprise, I had already planned to do a lot during that time. I had to totally reshift my thinking and when I was going to accomplish things. It was a bit overwhelming the day before the wedding. Something like this may not be best as a surprise. What about presenting the idea on Valentine's Day? It's coming up quickly.

 

[Laurafoster]

yeah i can see Jills point.

It would be a lovely suprise! prehaps you could plan it all and then let her choose the dress and ring maybe?

 

[rosiejo]

Hmm - good point - I did love planning my FTW as much as the day. Maybe you could book the date and then tell your mum - on Vanlentines as Laura suggests, or their anniversary maybe? Then you get to help your mum plan her wedding...

Of course you could tell her she's getting married... just not where... then the location - ie at WDW would be a surprise...

 

[RockNEmily]

Yes I think she would want input on the dress!
That's a really nice idea (telling her on valentines that is) and I like the surprise element of her not knowing it'll be in disney

Myself, my friend and my sister are in charge of creative control, my dad suggested the boardwalk and I think my mum would like that best.

 

[fun2bmomof3]

I think it is really sweet that you want to surprise your mom with something like this, but I have to say I don't agree with it. Your statement that you , your friend, and sister are in charge of creative control, I just have to disagree. If it was me in your mom's shoes, I would be so upset that someone else planned MY wedding; I wouldn't get married.
Surprise your mom by having your dad propose. Have all the Disney Fairytale wedding information on hand for your dad to present her with and ask her to marry him there on such and such date. Then you and your sister can help your mom plan HER special day. Don't take that away from her. Now if she turns creative control over to you then that is her choice, but let her make that choice.

I hope this doesn't sound harsh. I'm not very good with words, I know your heart is in the right place, but I want you to see how your mom could be more hurt than pleased with such a surprise.

crissy