support

[minnie mum]

Changing the title will just make people curious.

Yep, it made me take a peek.

OP if you want a mod to close a thread, then hit that little red triangle thingy to report a post and make your request to close the thread that way.

 

[emer95]

Yep, it made me take a peek.

OP if you want a mod to close a thread, then hit that little red triangle thingy to report a post and make your request to close the thread that way.

Agreed. I would not have even opened this post except for the fact that it said "Please Lock."

However, I do wish the best for you, OP!

 

[mrsmomo]

Thank you I read in another thread that is how you close it apparently not!

 

[Robinrs]

Why does everyone do this???

STOP judging thing you know nothing about!

Leave us alone, we're BUSY!!!!!

 

[Jex]

The last parts answers what I was asking, thank you. If she finds him to get support, he can then possibly get visitation? Ok, then I understand why you wouldn't.

I do feel for you, but you are entitled child support no matter what the circumstances are. Im not in Fla but left NC after 4 months and went back to MD and filed immediately for child support.

But it didnt accumulate from there. My ex-DH moved back to MD from NC which pushed things back and child support didnt accumulate until the courts recognized it officially so at least a year later after we were separated. So once official I think it was 850 a month for 2 kids (he was hiding income) NC stated 1150 at a court ruling, never figured out how that didnt get on record. But I never saw a penny of any of it.

My opinion is let it go if things are going how you want it, I.E he's not in the kids life and your not getting child support and its A OK.

If you want child support then expect him to want visitation, hope all goes well.

 

[sbtrfly74]

The last parts answers what I was asking, thank you. If she finds him to get support, he can then possibly get visitation? Ok, then I understand why you wouldn't.

That could happen, but I will say even if she is not getting any support he could at any time ask for visitation without paying child support. Sad part is even with a court order if he wasnt to pay child support and he had visitation he would still be entitled regardless. Some things are left alone in my book.

Nothing to do with this case but thats why I dont understand these "teen mom" shows where the moms demand the father be involved... they dont know how lucky they are at times that it is what it is and the father isnt involved. (not to say it isnt the same vise versa)

 

[Colleen27]

The last parts answers what I was asking, thank you. If she finds him to get support, he can then possibly get visitation? Ok, then I understand why you wouldn't.

Technically he could get visitation either way, but yes, a support case is often the catalyst for visitation demands because most states take into account the division of parenting time when establishing the amount of ordered support. So if the father isn't likely to be a positive influence in the child's life it can be better to let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak. Otherwise you might end up fighting an uninvolved deadbeat who suddenly wants a 50/50 custody arrangement, not for the good of the child but because he doesn't want to pay support.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Good luck

 

[mrsmomo]

Technically he could get visitation either way, but yes, a support case is often the catalyst for visitation demands because most states take into account the division of parenting time when establishing the amount of ordered support. So if the father isn't likely to be a positive influence in the child's life it can be better to let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak. Otherwise you might end up fighting an uninvolved deadbeat who suddenly wants a 50/50 custody arrangement, not for the good of the child but because he doesn't want to pay support.

And this is what I'm afraid of...

 

[Belle0101]

And this is what I'm afraid of...

Has it been a very long time since he had any time with her? I think you may have posted it's been years?

Even if his upcoming court date is regarding child support for your daughter likely that is all that would be addressed. There would need to be another hearing for visitation so that you could be in attendance, with representation.

Even then, if visitation was ordered I would expect it to be phased in, perhaps a few hours of supervised visitation at first. I don't think a judge would order overnights, weekends, holidays and the like straight away. They're strangers at this point it time.

 

[sbtrfly74]

And this is what I'm afraid of...

And that is usually what happens.... Oh I need to pay $500 a month? But what if I take him/her 3 days a week? Then wouldnt that be 50/50 and I wouldnt have to pay child support?

I use to get along with my ex-DH until it came to child support and then all hell broke loose. My answer was always it isnt for us to agree on its what the court decides.

Personally I would leave it alone unless your were majorly struggling to take care of the kids financially.

 

[mrsmomo]

Has it been a very long time since he had any time with her? I think you may have posted it's been years?

Even if his upcoming court date is regarding child support for your daughter likely that is all that would be addressed. There would need to be another hearing for visitation so that you could be in attendance, with representation.

Even then, if visitation was ordered I would expect it to be phased in, perhaps a few hours of supervised visitation at first. I don't think a judge would order overnights, weekends, holidays and the like straight away. They're strangers at this point it time.

Its been years