Sungela's PJ & TR Merged! Finally an Update! Faux Disneymoon Time

[DecemberBride]

Love your dress! It is gorgeous! You guys look so happy at your party. Aren't friends and wine a great combo? Lol

 

[newyearsbride]

Your dress is gorgeous! You guys look so in love, I love it!

 

[lov2b@disney]

Beautiful dress, love the color! your shower looks like it was alot of fun!

 

[WithDisneySpirit]

The color of your dress is wonderful - I love it Your colors in the wedding are gonna be great -definitely very appealing

Can't wait to hear more !!!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

Your dress is BEAUTIFUL

 

[29apr00]

Wow that is a beautiful dress!! Your shower looks like it was a lot of fun! Congrats!

Jennifer

 

[keenercam]

Your dress is absolutely gorgeous on you! I love the color, too. Your party looks like a lot of fun! Very clever of you to incorporate your colors!

 

[jennifaerie]

Wow! I just love the dress! I get so excited when I see someone in pick-ups. It looks so soft and full. It's beautiful, beautiful! I also love the shade of it.

 

[sungela]

Wow! I just love the dress! I get so excited when I see someone in pick-ups. It looks so soft and full. It's beautiful, beautiful! I also love the shade of it.

Your dress is absolutely gorgeous on you! I love the color, too. Your party looks like a lot of fun! Very clever of you to incorporate your colors!

Wow that is a beautiful dress!! Your shower looks like it was a lot of fun! Congrats!

Jennifer

Your dress is BEAUTIFUL

The color of your dress is wonderful - I love it Your colors in the wedding are gonna be great -definitely very appealing

Can't wait to hear more !!!

Beautiful dress, love the color! your shower looks like it was alot of fun!

Your dress is gorgeous! You guys look so in love, I love it!

Love your dress! It is gorgeous! You guys look so happy at your party. Aren't friends and wine a great combo? Lol

Hooray! I can't wait to see how it turns out!

Haha! I just figured out how to multiquote. Took me long enough... Thank you all sooo much. I wanted to respond the other day, but I figured I'd let the whole craziness boil over without adding to the problem. Sometimes I really do think it would be better to ditch everyone I actually know and have a disbrides-only affair. You are all so sweet. I have to admit, I really like looking at the pics of me in the dress. I can't wait until I get the wedding photos.

I got a call from our assigned DJ, JR Silva. I searched him, and it seems a few people have had him on here. I'm happy with whomever; as long as he remembers the important songs (our first dance, the hora), my family is usually crazy enough to take care of the rest. What we lack in talent (in singing or dancing), we make up for in spirit!

Today's dilemma, which I would be happy if anyone had any suggestions on. We're looking to buy our ketubah, the Jewish wedding contract. We've found a number online that we like, around $200. However, the cantor at our temple is also a ketubah designer. He does lovely work, and we love him as a person, but it costs around $400, plus more if we get one in the colors we like. Is it worth that much extra just because we know the guy? And if we don't go with him (I like the cheaper designs better), how do we explain why we didn't (and we will have to explain)? Why does everything have to be such a drama? Oy vey! I keep thinking that we should have just done the escape option...

 

[IndyBride]

You could always fib and tell him Disney made you get one through them if he asks. I'm not familiar with Jewish wedding traditions, is it something in the actual ceremony?

 

[LilJen2001]

I would just let them know that a family member got it for you as a gift....we ordered our Ketubah online and it's beautiful... )

 

[sungela]

You could always fib and tell him Disney made you get one through them if he asks. I'm not familiar with Jewish wedding traditions, is it something in the actual ceremony?

The ketubah is a contract that is usually signed right before the ceremony, and often read aloud during it.

I would just let them know that a family member got it for you as a gift....we ordered our Ketubah online and it's beautiful... )

Thanks for both of your suggestions. In the end, I didn't want to lie (not least of all because our rabbi helped us pick the text and he's going to see it on the day of, so he could rat us out). I just told our cantor the truth--we found something that was closer to our price range. And it is lovely:

The text (in Hebrew and in English) is so perfect for us:
I promise to stand by you always; to be joy to your heart and food to your soul; to bring out the best in you always, and for you, to be the most that I can; to laugh with you in the good times and struggle with you through the bad. May we strive to bring to fruition both our shared and our individual hopes and dreams. Let us build our home on a foundation of trust, respect and generosity of spirit, guided by Torah values and traditions. May our lives be embraced by warmth, peace and love. And when we grow old may we walk together hand in hand, still feeling the sweetness of our devotion. I give myself without reservation to our union and welcome you as my partner in life.

Angela especially loves the "food to your soul" part.

I'm sorry that I've been a bad Disbride, but I'm very distracted. We have a new baby!

His name is Ari (short for Aristotle, to compliment our older cat, Jackie--as in Jackie and Ari Onassis. Yes, I'm a dork.), and he is the cutest kitty ever.

Despite the fact that I spend all my time with him, I have gotten a lot of wedding stuff accomplished. We finally picked our ceremony music (mostly Jewish tunes) and switched the guys' vests to Platinum (the peach didn't match the orange yarmulkes). Oh, and our guest count dropped by 25 Most of the people who we accounted for in that 25 originally said they were coming, but then gas prices (and flights) shot up, and now a short Disney vaca is out of budget. It's mostly families too--anyone with kids can't go to Disney without going to the parks, stay for a few days, and with 4 or 5 air plane tix to buy, that adds up. We also had a few more "objectors" than I figured (most of whom have not RSVP-ed, by the way; they've just informed other members of my family that they won't come). As my mother says, we're better off having only people who love and support us--I don't want to have to censor myself at my wedding because kissing makes my great-aunt and uncle upset.

At first, I was bummed that my 75 person wedding extravaganza was turning into a 50 person intimate affair. But then I thought about it and realized that at 75, I wanted to try and be classy, prove to the haters that a Disney commitment ceremony was every inch the respectable wedding that I would have had if I'd married a hypothetical guy in a New England wedding. Now, though, respectability be darned! We're having a Sungela wedding, baby!

What does that mean? Ping pong table at the reception (that's right!), open bar and mimosas, my candy buffet is back in, and Disney crayons and markers to sign our guest book. This will be a wedding to remember.

 

[29apr00]

Ping Pong and Mimosa's!! That sounds like my kind of reception!! I'm glad you're getting the kind of wedding that is going to make you happy!! It's going to be even more magical than before!! Congrats!!

Jennifer

 

[DecemberBride]

You've got the right attitude. Do it your way and have a blast. I'm all about the mimosas as well, but saving them for the farewell breakfast. You'll have a great time and I love the ping pong table and candy bar!

 

[lpizzuro123]

Sounds like a great amount of fun. Love your Ketubah. Not sure if my DF and I are going to do this or not. He is Jewish and I am Catholic and I am not sure of the rules of signing one. I believe Rev. Knox will be our officient (we are going to meet with him when go down for our planning session in May).

I have a question about the corking fee that I thought I had seen in your journal but can't seem to find it now. We are really trying to decide between open bar or BOC. I thought you had written something about bringing your own wine and being charged a corking fee. If so, if you don't mind, how much is this charge?

Thanks,
Linda

 

[sungela]

Ping Pong and Mimosa's!! That sounds like my kind of reception!! I'm glad you're getting the kind of wedding that is going to make you happy!! It's going to be even more magical than before!! Congrats!!

Jennifer

You've got the right attitude. Do it your way and have a blast. I'm all about the mimosas as well, but saving them for the farewell breakfast. You'll have a great time and I love the ping pong table and candy bar!

Thank you! I am so excited to get photos of me and Ange playing ping pong in our wedding dresses.

Sounds like a great amount of fun. Love your Ketubah. Not sure if my DF and I are going to do this or not. He is Jewish and I am Catholic and I am not sure of the rules of signing one. I believe Rev. Knox will be our officient (we are going to meet with him when go down for our planning session in May).

I have a question about the corking fee that I thought I had seen in your journal but can't seem to find it now. We are really trying to decide between open bar or BOC. I thought you had written something about bringing your own wine and being charged a corking fee. If so, if you don't mind, how much is this charge?

Thanks,
Linda

A lot of the ketubah websites offer interfaith ketubot. I think it's nice to have it as a reminder of our vows, although you could also just write down the actual vows you say to each other and have it framed.

If you bring your own wine, you have to pay gratuity on what Disney charges for the wine (plus tax), and the corkage fee is $15 (plus tax). For 12 bottles of Rosa Regale, we're paying $191.70 for corkage and $148.25 for gratuity. Because Disney charges $58 per bottle, though, and the wine retails for $16, we're saving almost $600!

 

[Goldeelox9]

OMG Disney charges that much for Rosa? Where can you get it for cheaper? What a great way to save. Your reception sounds wonderful. I can not wait to see the pictures! You two will be so pretty! Are you guys doing viels?

 

[sungela]

OMG Disney charges that much for Rosa? Where can you get it for cheaper? What a great way to save. Your reception sounds wonderful. I can not wait to see the pictures! You two will be so pretty! Are you guys doing viels?

Well, we were going to get it from a Florida seller, B21, but it looks like they sold out (I can understand that... it's so yummy!). Some of the online discounters have it for $18 a bottle, and I'll probably have Angela's parents look around to see if they can find it for that price so we don't have to pay for shipping.

And thanks for the lovely comments! I'll be wearing a veil, but Angela opted not to. No big objection to the symbolism; she's just too lazy to look for one. I'm lucky--when I bought my dress, they had the tiara, veil, fitting and undergarments all in one place.

 

[IndyBride]

I LOVE mismosas! You should try a mismosa float: put ice, oj, and champagne in a blender. Pour into glasses ( I use martini glasses for fun) and top with more champagne! Oh it's wonderful.

 

[Goldeelox9]

So it will be like this: