Suicide and carpet question

[m&m's mom]

I am just curious what others would do (or think they would do).
My neighbor 2 blocks over shot herself in the head at home when the whole family was at home. This happened in March.
Just today I noticed new carpet being installed.
It initially struck me as odd that w/in a couple of hours after her suicide (body still in the house) that there were probably 20 cars of friends/family in front of their house. These cars/people coming and going went on for weeks/momths.
The house is about 3000-3300 sq feet. That means that the room of the bloody suicide was in the same house as all of these people while literally the blood was still fresh. She shot herslf in the head so I cannot imagine that was not a mess.
The family never moved out as much as for a day as the visitors were over day and night for at least a few months.
If it was money and they could not afford new carpet would the insurance company pay for "damage"? I swear I would charge on any credit card I possibly to get my house back to "normal". They have bought 2 new Mercedes since her death so I don't think $ is the issue for no new carpet.
There also are 1 elementary aged chilld, one Middle School and one in High School. I feel so bad these kids stayed in the house like that.

Just leads me to this question- would you stay in the house after your spouse killed themselves in it in an especially bloody way?

 

[Disney Doll]

Probably not.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

Lovely topic for a "family" board.

Anyway, how do you know so much?

How do you know it happened in a room with carpeting? It could have been in the basement.

How do you know all the cars were friends & family?

Honestly, I'm not even looking for answers. I'm just pointing out there may be a lot you don't know and don't need to know. I say give the family some privacy and stop worrying about what's going on in their house at a time of mourning.

Until someone dies in your house or a relative dies in their house, you may not understand.

 

[Stacerita]

They could have ripped out the carpet in that room, or it could have been taken as evidence. They just now might be getting around to replacing it.

 

[m&m's mom]

Lovely topic for a "family" board.

Anyway, how do you know so much?

How do you know it happened in a room with carpeting? It could have been in the basement.

How do you know all the cars were friends & family?

Honestly, I'm not even looking for answers. I'm just pointing out there may be a lot you don't know and don't need to know. I say give the family some privacy and stop worrying about what's going on in their house at a time of mourning.

Until someone dies in your house, you may not understand.

Thank you for not disappointing me! I knew this post was coming!
We are a small neighborhood and the womans extended family lives here too and they told me everything.
Texas so no basements here.
Umm.. this is not the "Family board". You should know that.

 

[HelenePA]

Dont most women kill themself in the bathroom when they do take their own life to make cleanup easier on the family? Maybe this was the case?

 

[Stacerita]

Dont most women kill themself in the bathroom when they do take their own life to make cleanup easier on the family? Maybe this was the case?

Thats what ive heard. Also, I believe statistically, its not common for women to use a gun to end their life. They tend to be tidy about it. Strange.

 

[aprilgail2]

Lovely topic for a "family" board.

Anyway, how do you know so much?

How do you know it happened in a room with carpeting? It could have been in the basement.

How do you know all the cars were friends & family?

Honestly, I'm not even looking for answers. I'm just pointing out there may be a lot you don't know and don't need to know. I say give the family some privacy and stop worrying about what's going on in their house at a time of mourning.

Until someone dies in your house or a relative dies in their house, you may not understand.

always has to be one..........

 

[m&m's mom]

Thats what ive heard. Also, I believe statistically, its not common for women to use a gun to end their life. They tend to be tidy about it. Strange.

Really? I did not know that. I thought women were afraid to mess their face up. This lady also took 2 "practice shots" out the window since she had never shot a gun before. She has a direct site line to my house so that was pretty scary for me.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well you could look at it in another way. It would be hard to change the carpeting because you are erasing that person from your life.

This is a suicide and not a murder so I do not view it in the same way.

 

[princess momma]

I wish I hadn't opened up this thread. OP I understand wondering about the situation, but some situations are best left alone.

It's kind of disturbing for some of us.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

edited.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I do think it's odd...but I can't believe that after something like that happens, that anyone is thinking clearly.

 

[Jillpie]

I wish I hadn't opened up this thread. OP I understand wondering about the situation, but some situations are best left alone.

It's kind of disturbing for some of us.

Not kind of disturbing, very disturbing and I think this whole thread should be removed. OP, I know you didn't mean anything by it, and were merely curious, but for those of us that have been affected by suicide, this hits a raw nerve.

Moderators, I have never asked this before, but can you remove this please?

 

[OctMtnWoods]

I wish I hadn't opened up this thread. OP I understand wondering about the situation, but some situations are best left alone.

It's kind of disturbing for some of us.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

Not kind of disturbing, very disturbing and I think this whole thread should be removed. OP, I know you didn't mean anything by it, and were merely curious, but for those of us that have been affected by suicide, this hits a raw nerve.

Moderators, I have never asked this before, but can you remove this please?

I agree.

 

[lulugirl]

....forget it...not worth the points

 

[karibritt01]

I'm sure that the carpet was cleaned as soon as possible after the incident. As for replacing it, if the house has been that busy with friends and family, then they were probably waiting for everything to calm down a bit.

People die at home everyday, and family comes and goes from the house. Suicide wouldn't be much different IMO. Once the mess is cleaned up, then a death is a death, and the mourning period is the same.

As for this topic being inappropriate... it is no different than the car accidents, murders, and sexual dreams discussed on this board on a daily basis. You knew the topic was suicide before ever opening the thread. If it offends you that much, you had the choice of skipping it and moving on.

 

[monsterkitty]

I had a reply and it isn't really worth points.

I do have to answer your question: My BIL suffered a head injury during an Air Force training session. He went home and died later that day from the injury. My then 13 y/o niece found him when she got home from school. My SIL and 3 nieces never stepped foot in the house again.

 

[KristaTX]

The title of this thread gave me a very big clue as to what the subject was going to be. It is a very sad, horrible subject, and I am very sorry for those of you who have lived through similar situations.

But as disturbing as it may be, it's not a subject that seems particularly unacceptable by DIS guidelines just because it stirs up strong emotions in people.

As the usual advice goes, just don't open the thread if it sounds too close to home and disturbing. There's all kinds of thread titles that make me think, "Hmmm. . .I don't think I'll open that one." But when I can tell that, I don't open it, read it, and then complain that it upset me. I might ask the thread starter to retitle or put a warning in it, but that's about it. This one seemed obvious.