Suggestions on how to incorporate my late mother's memory

[dawrobin]

Hi guys,
My mom passed away 2 1/2 years ago form cancer, and I am doing some small thing in my escape wedding to honor her. I miss her so much and it is bittersweet right now When my dad walks me down the aisle I am having him carry a single yellow rose (her fav) and then he will place it on the empty chair next to him as a placeholder in her honor. I am also having us walk down the aisle to her fav Disney song. And the flower girl has yellow rose petals.

I saw some charms that you add to your bouquet where you can have a picture so I was going to maybe do that as well.

I am not a creative person at all so I wanted to get some ideas form you guys. We are having dinner with everyone at V&A after getting married at SBP.

TIA!!

dawn

 

[lurkyloo]

Hi! I had a similar situation, and I remembered my mom in the wedding two ways.

I had pictures of her in a locket that was attached to the back of my necklace. You can see it in this pic:

Also, during the processional I had them play a song from her favorite movie in her memory while no one walked down the aisle. I mentioned this in the program so people would know what was going on. It worked really nicely

 

[PixyDusted]

At one of my good friend's weddings she had a locket tied onto her bouquet with a photo of one of her grandparents in it. It was really beautiful.

 

[figmentfan814]

We did several things to incorporate family members too. In my bouquet. I had the charms with the photos for my grandparents. I also placed flowers on an empty chair in their honor.

My DH's dad passed away less than 3 months before our wedding. We put a white rose with a red ribbon (he was Polish and loved everything red and white) in the front row in the empty seat where he would have sat. We put a picture of Kris and his dad together on the seat next to the flower. We also mentioned him in the program and had the pastor mention how we wanted to honor the people who weren't there with us that day. Kris didn't want anything specific mentioned about his dad during the ceremony because he was afraid he would break down.

 

[dawrobin]

Thank you guys so much for your ideas!!! I have a great start and loved all the ideas Thank you for sharing.
lurkyloo- your locket looked beautiful, as did you even form the back!

It is such a hard time because while I am so excited about the wedding, I know my mom would have loved to have met Jason and participate. Every big moment, like when we bought our house a year ago, is bittersweet.

We are also thinking of making a donation to ACS in her honor as our favor too.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

Before I completely read your post I was going to suggest the charms for your bouquet. I was at a wedding where this was done and it was really sweet.

 

[irisbud]

Thank you guys so much for your ideas!!! I have a great start and loved all the ideas Thank you for sharing.
lurkyloo- your locket looked beautiful, as did you even form the back!

It is such a hard time because while I am so excited about the wedding, I know my mom would have loved to have met Jason and participate. Every big moment, like when we bought our house a year ago, is bittersweet.

We are also thinking of making a donation to ACS in her honor as our favor too.

I think that the donation is a wonderful idea!

 

[Tink n Poohbear]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my step dad from cancer, and I know it's heartwrenching. I love your idea to donate to the ACS. I am active in the ACS Relay for Life and will be walking in June. If you'd like to PM me (or just post) your mom's name, I will walk a lap in her honor.

At my cousin's wedding, they had roses represent each loved one that was not present (either because they had passed on or they were unable to make it to the wedding). They had an empty vase on table near the alter. Before the ceremony they gave the flowers to someone close to the person they represented. For example, I carried my step-dad's, one of the bride's sisters carried their grandmother's, etc. Then during the ceremony, the officiant acknowledged the people who were unable to attend but were present in spirit and we all carried our roses to the alter and placed them in the vase. It was absolutely beautiful.

I LOVE the idea of the photos in the lockets; especially the one on the back. It's like mom is always "watching your back." I've also seen a wedding picture where the bride had a framed picture of her late dad placed on her train for one of the portraits. That way she was still able to have a picture taken with her dad.

Best wishes to you and your fiance!