Stupid comments about pregnancy

[Jenn Lynn]

When I told my Mom that I was having natural childbirth with no drugs (at a Midwives clinic no pain meds available) she said 'yeah ok..." with sarcasem in her voice. And after I did exactly what I said I was going to do she said "I didn't think you would do it." She just gave me more motivation to prove her wrong! LOL.

 

[luvmydogs]

Originally posted by KristiKelly
...I should have just let her see how huge I was & sat on her.

And I would've joined you!

 

[Ratpack]

When we tried really hard to have our second child (infertility problems), we were so excited that it finally happened- NO MATTER THE TIMING! When school began, I was about 3 months-so I explained to the parents at Open House that I would be stepping out in Feb. and returning in May for testing. I thought that was pretty considerate enough, to let them know that I would be returning to complete the year. However, I actually had a parent say-in front of the others- "Couldn't you have planned that to happen in the end of the school year or summer?????""

I was apalled! I didn't need their permission at all and frankly, it was NONE of their business. My response..."Teachers have a life outside of school hours and I am a wife and mother first!"
No apologies needed.

Enjoy your time- tell 'em off- claim it is hormones!!!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Congrats to you & your DH.

Some people just really don't THINK before they speak, do they?

 

[snoopy]

Way too many comments to discuss here, I'd need to write a novel, but some highlights:

-My good friend who told me everytime she saw me that I was the biggest pregnant person she had ever seen.

-My grandmother, who upon hearing that I was pregnant, suggested I get my cats put to sleep.

And then after the baby was born:

-My FIL, after walking in on me in my room nursing the baby, "how long are you going to continue with that nonsense?"

So yup, I've heard it all and then some. You probably will too, so just try and ignore the naysayers. Congratulations on your happy news!

 

[sandbar]

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!

I know I was more sensitive than usual when I was pregnant. I could cry at the drop of a hat. Hang in there and if it's possible....try to overlook those silly comments.

 

[ahutton]

When I was expecting my first DD someone I worked with said "That's what you get for having Man and Wife relations" only she didn't use those exact words. Apparently my DH and I conflicted with her lifestyle choice? I wasn't sure how to respond, all I could come up with was "I guess so".

When we told DH's parents #3 was coming (ultrasound this afternoon!!!!!) they asked us if we hadn't figured out yet how to prevent that from happening. Then a few months later, on DH birthday, they said so when is that kid due? Because they have a family reunion planned for Christmas and can I travel (I'm supposed to deliver 12/30 - so NO - it is over 1100 miles) and it is his GF 80th birthday. They asked DH if he and the kids would still come - leaving me home, alone, for Christmas and possibly the deliver of our child. And they are mad he said no!

 

[justhat]

First of all, congrats!! I worked parttime in a preschool when I was pregnant, so I'm sure you'll be fine with #3, as you were with the 1st 2. Any baby is a blessing, so don't ever feel like you shouldn't have had one.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, who will be 6 months old on Thursday, I must have heard more unwelcomed comments than congratulations. I also got the "Wow, you're not due for another 3 months, you look huge!" This was especially welcome from men, as though they have any idea how I should be at that time. What can I say, my daughter was big, 8 lbs, 4oz and she was 2 weeks early.

My favorite comments, however, were more unusual. My husband and I were engaged since 2002, but had to postpone our wedding until 2004 because my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. We had wanted to start our family soon for various reason, so our plan was to have our first baby in January or February of 2005. Well, she came about a year early, 14 weeks before our wedding. We didn't care as we were so excited to be blessed with a child, as we have several relatives who have been trying unsuccessfully for a long time so we knew what a miracle it was. When we told people I was pregnant we often heard "So are you still getting married?" Why wouldn't we!?!
Another great line we heard too frequently was "How are you ever going to finish graduate school now? You should just quit when the baby's born." To try and remain polite, which was difficult, I would thank people for their advice, but inform them I planned on finishing school. My MIL even asked my husband if he planned on dropping out of medical school! Why that would be a practical solution is beyond me.

In case you're wondering, we got married on June 5th and I was in class the day before my daughter was born. Those classes will be completed by this December and I'll be going back to finish my last year next May when she's 15 months.

 

[Alice28]

I am pregnant right now with #3. We havve two healthy, funny and gorgeous boys. My *favorite* comment is, "Oh, I bet you're trying for a girl this time.." It makes me think some people feel boys are second rate or something. I say, "No, we just wanted another child, no matter what the sex." And then they look at me funny.

 

[KristiKelly]

This wasn't while I was prgnangt, but after, when DS was about 3-4 weeks old. We were at a family dinner & my 93 y/o great-aunt was there, she look at me and said "you've put on a few pounds haven't you?" I looked at her and explained that I had just had a baby a few weeks ago & she said "I know, you haven't lost that baby weight yet?" I thought I was looking pretty darn good, I was down to about 130#, but she popped my little bubble

 

[disykat]

I was in the maternity section at a store and a woman struck up a conversation with me, asking me if it was my first baby. Then she said, "My friend's daughter had her first baby when she was old too." I was 30. Thinking about that day, I still wish I'd gone with my first instinct and hit her. I was so angry I left the mall.

 

[Cthia]

Congratulations!

Just ignore everyone's comments. Just enjoy your pregnancy and have a healthy baby.

If my age wasn't going against me I think I would have another one plus I have a 7 month old now so I would have to wait a few more years and I don't want to chance anything.

Congratulations to all the other Moms.

 

[ElizK]

When DH and I announced our pregnancy to DFIL and now ex-step-mother-in-law (got that...??? ), she asked if the pregnancy was planned or an accident. What the heck kind of question is that to ask? We'd been married for more than 3 years, for crying out loud!!!

All that aside, congratulations on your pregnancy! Prayers for an easy pregnancy, and a healthy baby.

 

[DisKim]

However, I actually had a parent say-in front of the others- "Couldn't you have planned that to happen in the end of the school year or summer?????""

I swear I have had that occur in my nightmares. I am so afraid that the students' parents will be mad at me. I'm only planning on taking the month of May. I hope to return for the month of June to give exam reviews and administer finals.

 

[DisKim]

I was away from the boards for a while and just got a chance to read all of the responses. First, thanks to everyone for all of the good wishes. I feel much better. I am also stunned at all of the things you have experienced. I guess the comments I got yesterday weren't so bad! I wonder why it is that people have to put their two cents in when they see a pregnant person.

 

[decker96]

When I got pregnant with our third one of our neighbors asked me, "Why are you having another, you have the perfect family?"
HUH!?
I guess because we already had a girl and a boy she thought we should be happy with one of each since that was "perfect". What a moron!!
We had another girl and as far as I'm concerned we NOW have the perfect family for us! Although now I get the comment from some people (never anyone from my family though), "Are you going to go for the fourth and try and even things out?" I guess some people are never satisfied!
Congrats to you!!

 

[DISshopkeeper]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

When I was pregnant with my first a man in an elevator said to me "Either you are pregnant or you've got one gigantic watermelon under there!" WHAT an IDIOT, huh??

And I was always EXTREMELY uncomfortable at people (STRANGERS EVEN!!!) wanting to touch my belly. uhhh.... NO!!!

 

[cats7494]

Congratulations and that is wonderful!
That is all...no stupid comments!!!!!!

 

[4greatboys]

When I was trying to conceive ds #3 my mom and grandma told me I didnt need anymore kids Now they never paid for them, gave us money for bills or whatever yet they felt it was okay to tell me what size my family should or shouldnt be.
One other thing that always bothered me when people were talking about labor and delivery is the fact the that some people unmedicated births "natural" and medicated births are then what?? unnatural?? I had 4 kids all the same way--two with drugs and 2 without but they were all for natural.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

When I was pregnant with my first a man in an elevator said to me "Either you are pregnant or you've got one gigantic watermelon under there!" WHAT an IDIOT, huh??

And I was always EXTREMELY uncomfortable at people (STRANGERS EVEN!!!) wanting to touch my belly. uhhh.... NO!!!