Stuck in the middle

[Thumbs18]

Ok so for once this problem doesn't hafta do with me ! One of my friends has liked this guy since we were sophmores (2 yrs ago) but this guy happens to be her x's best friend . The guy says that he can't give the girl a straight up answer about if he likes her or not bc he says that it will get him in A LOT of trouble. Everyone is now coming out of the woodwork so to speak and telling them that they were never really that smooth about hiding that they liked each other . The guy told my friend that he can't be with her right now bc of loyalty to his best friend. . .but he really likes her . My question is what do I tell her? She is really confused and upset. She never made a move on him b4 bc he had a gf until recently. Should she try to talk to him and her x or should she just completely forget about him?

 

[Lizbon]

I think that he is a great guy for not dating her. (That sounds really mean, but here's why....)

Not many people whould put there friends first in this situation. I think it shows your friend that he is very loyal and he cares about his friends. If I was your friend that would make me like him even more.

I think she should just give it time if she really likes him. Her and the guy she likes are in a very tough situation.

A good friend (your friends crush) wouldn't date someone their friend didn't really want them to date.

A good friend (your friends ex) would also understand that they like eachother, and let them date.

 

[Thumbs18]

Thats kinda what I think 2. See my friend, her crush, her x, and I r ALL really good friends and used to hang out a lot . Well the crush admitted 2 my friend that he liked her when she and his friend were dating but he never made a move on her. My friends x had never had a gf b4 so he didn't really know how 2 act. . .his friend (the crush) was the one who pretty much told him what to do and say to my friend. The weird thing for my friend now is that she fell for all the sweet things that her x did 4 her but now it turns out that her x wasnt even the one that did them!!! They are stuck between a rock and a hard place and I just hope they get out of it with their friendship in tact. . .

 

[life of the party]

this guy sounds like he isnt ready for a stable relationship.

 

[Lizbon]

this guy sounds like he isnt ready for a stable relationship.

I don't think thats it at all. I think he just doesn't want to hurt his friend.

Maybe he isn't ready for a realtionship, I don't know him personally, but from the information we were given that doesn't seem to be the case.