String's Atkin's Journal (Please Comment)

[toystoryduo]

Good morning, Beth,

You are in my thoughts and prayers this morning. Big are being sent to you from all of your WISH sisters. Take very good care of you sweetie.

Tracy

 

[sharoncity]

Beth-

Just wanted to add my thoughts and prayers to the rest! You are such a wonderful person. You don't deserve any of this. I will pray that PG also has some type of awakening and stops all this nonsense.

God bless you and your family Beth! fromm all of us!

TTFN-
Sharon

 

[Strings]

Comes back with head held in shame.

Thanks guys, you are the best. I have been avoiding this board because I definately haven't been leading the healthy life. I have been having a major pity fest, and I physically feel awful. I don't think I could have consumed more carbs if I tried. I am pulling myself up out of the pit, and starting over tomorrow. I did go workout today, but I know that I am not ready to tackle healthy eating until after tonight.

The repercussions of what PG did are huge. The hospital has had to report the accusation to the State board. I will probably be on probation for the next 2 years. I will have to take drug tests. Any narcotic/controlled substance I give, I need to have another RN cosign that I actually gave it. My charts will be reviewed to see if I give too many drugs. It is humiliating, and I am not sure how i will get through this. The ironic thing is that I have never even smoked a cigarrette, much less taken drugs. My coworkers are really supportive, but I am still embarrassed.

We are meeting with FIL tonight. He is coming over after Katie is in bed. Basically, we are going to blackmail him. We found out that he is up for elder at the church. He has worked a long time fo this and wants it BADLY. he either commits PB (sorry, she has graduated from psychogranny to something that would be filtered), or we go to the UPN news team with our story. Won has an old friend from high school who works there, and they aren't the most ethical station. Prominant local child pyschiatrist's wife stalking DIL. Assault, vandelism, blackmail, kidnapping. We have it all. This would impact his careeer and he wouldn't get elder. It is all about saving face. I am not proud that we are doing this, but it seems like the only option left to us.

At this point, I'm not sure that we will ever allow either of them near Katie again. Too much has happened. I don't know that PB can be helped, and right now, I don't care. I want her gone. I want her out of our lives for good. I don't care that she is mentally ill, she is a destructive vindictive force in my life and needs to be cut out. I gave her way too much power this last week. I let her affect how I am living my life, so no more. I will be back on induction, and I will continue to exercise. After tonight, I will have no more contact with either of my inlaws, and I will be moving on. I will be living my life on MY terms,and that includes healthy living.

I am now going to put up the Christmas tree. I am not sure I will make it to journals today, but I will definately get caught up tomorrow.
Take care,
Beth

 

[LAinSEA]

Beth:

I posted to your journal yesterday (well at least tried) as it did not show up. Be careful dealing with the media - as part of that group, I know that ratings are a good thing for the station but can wreck havoc on the individual's life.

You have had way to difficult a year and I am sending all the positive energy I have your direction. Not that positive energy is abundant in this household either - but you need this more than we do. You are in my prayers. You are an amazingly strong woman and I knew that you would find a way to deal with this problem and not let PB control your life, your health, your family.

Would your supervisor who took the phone call be willing to describe the voice she heard on the phone to the police or your lawyer? You really need to have a meeting with your HR, supervisor, anyone with authority and let your attorney explain the situation. Based upon the history and that the "facts" don't add up in your situation I think any rational organization would see that you are being harrassed. Can phone records be supeoned? The hospital would not want to be party to further victimization when the case has been explained to them in detail because slander and harrassment are very strong charges to be party to. Your attorney should file a complaint and bring it to the attention of the judge who originally ruled on the case. You have to keep building the file against PB if she is to be committed for treatment.

I would also think about bringing suit against your IL's for loss of income. If FIL was paying for the phone the call was made on (cell phone, calling card, etc.) he is liable for the problems the call has brought on you. I would think that going after someone where it really hurts - their wallet as well as their reputation, would make FIL take action.

Again, hang in there. Find comfort in your DH and daughter - they love you very much and appreciate you. I appreciate you too!

-Laurie

 

[DoeWDW]

Dear Beth, I'm so sorry about the PB situation and all the ramifications. The whole thing is just so sad and so maddening all at the same time. It sounds like you've got a plan of action. Best wishes for a good resolution.

I think we've all done the food-for-comfort thing and with all you've been through, it's perfectly understandable. Ease yourself back into the healthy living game. You know you'll physically feel better when you cut out those junky carbs.

I'm hoping today is a good day. Remember there are lots of friends here who will love you no matter what you're eating and no matter what kind of mood you're in. You don't have to avoid your journal, sweetie. Those times when you feel the worst are the times when you need all your WISH-sisters around you.

 

[geetey]

Okay, I am at a loss here, but one thing is very clear to me... someone is hurting my friend, Beth, and I don't like it!!

Hugs to you, Beth!! I am so sorry any of this is happening to you! You don't need to explain - just know that I am praying for you and pulling for you! Vent vent away. I know I am willing to help in any way I can.

 

[wilderness01]

Oh my god Beth I ache for you. I am so sorry you have been continually hurt. This is outrageous. I understand the policies of reporting this, but come on. There is no proof. You shouldn't be found guilty without proof. This woman is trying to ruin your life and your marriage. I don't care she is sick either. She is obviously well enough to be manipulative and seek out revenge. You have handled yourself with diginity and grace. I don't blame you that now you are resorting to your in law's level. Your back is up against a wall. Do not be humiliated. I would totally understand if you were my co-worker and I wouldn't think twice about it. Your friends support you Beth and don't look funny at you. That's not what a friend is. You my friend have nothing to hang your head for. So what you have eaten carbs! I would have eaten a whole bunch of pasta and then topped it off with a gallon of icecream. You have been so strong throughout all this torment that has been given to you that you should be proud of how you handle yourself. You are a shining example to your daughter, a good wife, daughter and friend to us all here. Hugs to you my friend and may you find peace soon and move on from this ugly mess.

 

[lulu201]

Just a hug. . .that's all I can really offer. I hope that today goes OK for you and Won and Katie. Hold tightly to one another.

Love,
Erin

 

[DoeWDW]

Dear Beth, I'm sending extra love and pixie dust your way today. I'm hoping that things are looking a bit brighter this morning for you. I wish I lived closer - I'd give you a hug and a shoulder for a good cry and then we'd go have some fun at the movies or the mall.

Hang in there!

 

[sharoncity]

Just checking in with you today Beth. I hope everything went okay last night (or as okay as it could go. )

I want to offer you my support and prayers. You will get through this awful mess - hopefully soon! Hang in there Beth and cling to your family. They are worth fighting this fight!

Gentle and many prayers coming you way!

TTFN-
Sharon

 

[Strings]

Wow, the boards are festive. I like it.

Yesterday was ugly. Our deal was that PB needed to be treated as an inpatient. FIL was to step back from the case, and let the other psychiatrist call all the shots. If he doesn't comply we have already contacted a lawyer and we will meeet with the media. He has until Friday to start proceedings. I think he is going to go for it. Koreans are as much about saving face as other asians. I think this has been the final straw for Won. He has disowned his parents. I don't see that changing ever.

It was very odd to go from that conversation to turning on the Christmas music and stringing the lights on the tree. It is a major undertaking I have a 10 foot tree that I string 1500 lights on. Today Katie will help with the ornaments.

I got on the scale today. 213.5. I am up 2 pounds. It could have been so much worse. I am back on induction. I actually managed to do induction yesterday too. I am not going to let the gain get me down. I have the tools to get back to where I was. It will just take a little time.

Plan for the day:
Dance class.
Grocery shopping.
Y for cardio.
Decorate the tree.

Meals:
B: Cheese and coffee-5 carbs.
L: Double cheeseburger from McDonald's. -3 carbs.
Dinner: Omelet and salad-9carbs.

I probably won't get to journals until tonight. I hope everyone has a good day.
Beth

 

[geetey]

Beth. My thoughts are with you today, as always.

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

Beth,
I don't know what to say. I can't believe what she did. As far as I'm concerned, you guys are doing the correct thing to get her committed. She is a danger to your family. We are all behind you in this. Hugs and prayers heading your way.
Jean

 

[deelam]

Hang in there! It's a shame because PG is driving you and your family away.
Phone systems can be pretty detailed. Most are able to print an inbound call log, showing the phone number. Go to your boss and see if he/she can get the print out for that day. Have your boss check into it and see if the number matches your MIL.
If it does, consult a lawyer. Find out what charges you can press against her. You have a right to defend yourself and your reputation.

Deneen

 

[Tera]

Hi Beth...

I'm sorry things are going so bad with your MIL. I will never complain about mine ever again

I hope things work out for you. Don't let all this stress you out too much or your MIL will have won. Don't worry about staying OP until you get things worked out or it will just stress you out more. Hang in there and remember you have friends.

 

[Princess Michelle]

Beth, I'm so sorry that this situation just keeps getting worse for you guys. You continue to be in my prayers.

I'm also sorry that you had a gain but with what you are going through it is certainly understandable. You have the right attitude though and I know you will have it off in no time.

I hope you and Katie have fun decorating the Christmas tree together!

 

[wilderness01]

I'm sorry the meeting didn't go better. Know that I will be keeping you in my thoughts while I am away. Take care.

 

[Strings]

Hi Guys,

Yesterday did not go as planned, but it turned out to be a good day. We were running late for dance class because Katie couldn't find her shoes. Then there is a huge accident with downed power lines in the intersection that the class is located at. I just lost it. I started crying. It is really stupid. I just felt like I couldn't handle having my plan interrupted at all. Katie was completely confused, and I realized I have been so obsessed with how much I have to do that I have forgotten to have fun. We threw the plan out the window. I took her to see the Polar Express and lunch at McDonald's. W went to Target and picked out toys for the Toys for Tots program, and did our grocery shopping. We came home and finished decorating the tree and danced to Christmas carols. Daddy brought home wings for dinner. Then we read all of Katie's Christmas books. It was a good day.

Last night/this morning, I am having some GI upset. I have to put it down to stress. I am not really happy with what we have done to FIL. I think we weren't ethical, but we were forced to do it. We still haven't heard from FIL. I just am internalizing everything. My system is protesting.

I am still going to the Y, but will just do light walking. I'm not up for anything else. After school, we are meeting Won for lunch and a visit to Santa. Other than that, noting is planned. I'm winging it baby.

I hope everyone is well. I'll be hitting journals throughout the day,
Beth

 

[toystoryduo]

Good morning friend,

I am glad to hear that you had a good day yesterday. Did you like the movie? It sounds like a good one.

Beth, I am so sorry that you and your family are in this situation. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Have a wonderful Wednesday!

Tracy

 

[DoeWDW]

Beth, sounds like you and I were cut from the same cloth. I tend to internalize everything too, and my body pays the price. You did a great thing by throwing out all the "shoulds" yesterday and doing what was fun for you and Katie. Bravo!! It sounds like it was a wonderful day!

I know you are a very moral and ethical person, Beth, and you're torn over the ultimatum that you and Won gave your FIL. The ends do not always justify the means BUT in this case, I think it is far more ethical to get PG the help she needs. What is the alternative? You've tried to just walk away from her but she keeps creating problems. Your family's safety and security are at risk. If PG were in her right mind, she would not hurt you or Katie but she's sick - the ethical thing is to get her help. Now if you were plotting revenge, I would feel differently, but all you're asking is that she be admitted to a place that can help her. I think you are doing the right thing.

I like your idea of taking it easy today - very wise! Kick back and take time to play with Katie. Watch the sparkle in her eyes when she smiles and laughs. THAT'S what it's all about!