Stressed out :(

[JoJo1980]

AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!

*Falls on floor kicking and screaming*


*Then goes into corner to sulk and cry*


OMG i am sooooo stressed out! It's just hit me that we fly 3 weeks tomorrow and I have got literally hundreds of things to do aswell as a full time job and part time job I'm already shattered and my eyes are burning because I'm that tired and I've got constant headaches because I'm spending that much time thinking

Whens it going to end

I think i've taken on way too much, to the point where I feel like I'm going to be physically sick because I'm getting that wound up

 

[Risnsun]

Take is some big deep breaths. Remember, this is a happy time. Remember why your getting married in the first place. It will all come together. Just have a little faith. Scream into a pillow if needed.

 

[IndyBride]

I think you need to delegate!!! Get others to help you out as much as you can. At work, at home, with the wedding. You're supposed to be enjoying this process, not worrying so much you hate it! Make a list and find out if anything can be cut. Keep in mind that a lot of the things brides stress over are not even noticed by guests. So a little detail here and there won't be missed by anyone but you. And, your sanity is more important!!

 

[irisbud]

first of all, to you!

Take a deep breath and relax. Everything will be fine. You know you will get everything done and it will be great! Even if something is forgotten, it will probably be trivial and when it is all over you will be married to your DF.

 

[kayleighnik]

Breaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaathe hunn

You *will* get it all done. Use your lists and take them one by one. When something pops into your head, write it down, so that it doesnt keep swimming around in your head.

What *exactly* have you got left to do? Maybe putting it down here will help.

Kayleigh x

 

[JoJo1980]

Take is some big deep breaths. Remember, this is a happy time. Remember why your getting married in the first place. It will all come together. Just have a little faith. Scream into a pillow if needed.

You're right, I was doing so well and have managed to get loads done over the weekend and today - but I've just got so tired tonight and then I started writing a list breaking down everything that still needs to be done over the next few weeks and it sent me over the edge I'm liking the scream into the pillow idea - think I shall go and do it now

I think you need to delegate!!! Get others to help you out as much as you can. At work, at home, with the wedding. You're supposed to be enjoying this process, not worrying so much you hate it! Make a list and find out if anything can be cut. Keep in mind that a lot of the things brides stress over are not even noticed by guests. So a little detail here and there won't be missed by anyone but you. And, your sanity is more important!!

I have so many little bits that I'm trying to do, and like you say - those are the details that no-one but me will probably notice, but I feel really protective of those bits - I've turned into some sort of devil when it comes to the little bits I think my sanity has officially gone out of the window now and will probably return the day after the wedding

first of all, to you!

Take a deep breath and relax. Everything will be fine. You know you will get everything done and it will be great! Even if something is forgotten, it will probably be trivial and when it is all over you will be married to your DF.

Thanks for the cuddle , I darent go to DF for a hug because I'll just turn into a mushy crying mess the mood I'm in now & then I'll get even worse. I've just got to keep at it and concentrate on the main bits I guess, its just hard trying to figure out what they are - I feel like my mind has decided to take a vacation and its left me with a confused donut for a brain

 

[JoJo1980]

Breaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaathe hunn

You *will* get it all done. Use your lists and take them one by one. When something pops into your head, write it down, so that it doesnt keep swimming around in your head.

What *exactly* have you got left to do? Maybe putting it down here will help.

Kayleigh x

Breathing? Whats that?? Dont think I do that anymore?

I hope I get it done, just got to plod on - havent got a choice

I've been writing lots of lists and have put them all into spreadsheets and given them codes in order of importance or when they need to be done by - I think thats whats scared me If I wrote everything on here I'd need my own message board to take the size of the lists

 

[*Valdez*]

Okay it sounds crazy, but take a night or quite a few hours for yourself. You will come back energized and ready to tackle it all.

Good luck!

 

[Lynn5700]

Girl I feel you! Try to stop stressing before you go...you don't want to end up like I did. I had caught a cold 2 days before we left..thank God the morning we left I was better. I still sounded like crap on my wedding day though and was popping motrin like everyday from headaches. I think it was a sinus infection.

I really think I caught it because I was doing too much and was stressing which does effect your immune system.

Stop stressing,it will all be ok

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

this time last month, I was like you!!!

I felt overwhelmed with everything that I needed to do..i sucked it up and asked for help!! You can't do it all and there are many people who would LOVE to help you do things..I had a friend who did my program for me..just took my vision and knocked it outta the park..you still have a final say about it!

enjoy the planning because now I have no wedding to plan and I am going thru "knot" withdrawal!!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

I had caught a cold 2 days before we left..thank God the morning we left I was better. I still sounded like crap on my wedding day though and was popping motrin like everyday from headaches. I think it was a sinus infection.

first, you post that ridiculous "before" photo where you look stunning..now you are saying in the "after" picture you were SICK!!

GO AWAY!! PEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE OLD PEOPLE LIKE ME WANT TO WEAR A BURKA!!!!











said with tongue FIRMLY planted in cheek!!

 

[October Bride]

I Agree with Lynn 100%

We leave in five weeks. I have had to plan 2 weddings on my own as well as setting up a new company for my boss in what can only be descibed as a hostile sector and coping with paying for everything with this darn credit crunch, the bridal shop lady going mad on me an threatening to not let me have my dress oh and keeping the house going as well as helping family get out fits, organising hen do's and a florida holiday for 38 people that keep changing their flipping minds

Now take it from me do not let things get to you....i am off to the docs today it would seem i have bronchitus!!!!
It all came to a head about 10 days ago when i think my mind and body could not take anymore. DO NOT GET TO THIS POINT!! I went 72hrs with only 6hrs sleep and have ended up having to take pills to help which i HATE doing, crying non stop (which i NEVER do)!!!

DF is now helping more (about time) he even mowed the lawn and cleared the guttering (which i dont think he has ever done) at the weekend
I have for the first time in my 30 years realised that i am not super woman and feel very silly for letting myself get so ill!!!

So honey, my advice is to just take one thing at a time and don't feel bad asking people to help you. We are only human after all and can only cope with so much. I have managed by doing one task at a time rather than ten at once. You are doing the right thing my making lists. I know they can seem scary but honest it feels so great when you start ticking lots of things off.

You will be fine, i know its easy to say but things always come together in the end.

from me and good luck

 

[Lynn5700]

first, you post that ridiculous "before" photo where you look stunning..now you are saying in the "after" picture you were SICK!!

GO AWAY!! PEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE OLD PEOPLE LIKE ME WANT TO WEAR A BURKA!!!!











said with tongue FIRMLY planted in cheek!!

HAHAHA LMAO!!!!! I was sick in th before pic too...that was the first day we got to Disney LOL.I was so worried that my nose was going to be bright red,thank God it wasn't. The day before we left I went through a whole box of tissues in a day! It was crazy!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

I was sick in th before pic too

ya know..i really don't like you!!

 

[keenercam]

Seriously, Joanne, you need to give yourself a break. May I suggest that you look at your priority list and JUST do right now the first thing on the must-do list that can be done now. You will feel better for having it done and it will give you a sense of accomplishment. IF you have energy when that one thing is done, look at the list and choose the next thing.

Other people in my life have the following approach and I often take this approach when I am overwhelmed. I write every single little to-do down on a numbered list. Then, I do every single little thing that is not too time-consuming, regardless of whether it is a priority. It allows me to cross a huge number of items off the list, thereby whittling the list and making myself feel better. Also -- if you are able to enlist the aid of others for any of those items, put that person's name next to that item, ask them to do it and give them a "deadline". When the deadline rolls around, check on the status and hopefully, you'll be in a position to cross something else off your list.

If you are stressing about packing, do what I do. Start a "drop zone". Everytime you come across something that will ultimately, have to be packed, drop it in a room or a corner. You'll know where it is when you need it, and you will take it out of your "space" so that your space is clearer AND you don't have to think about it every time you see it in your everyday life.

I hope something you've heard in everyone's responses helps. I can't imagine how stressed I will feel when I am at your point on the timeline. Will you promise to remind me of all these strategies when I start freaking out in December?

 

[JoJo1980]

Okay it sounds crazy, but take a night or quite a few hours for yourself. You will come back energized and ready to tackle it all.

Good luck!

Thats really what I feel like I need to do, but I just cant find time at the moment. I could do with spending a week in bed as my body is starting to feel weak now and I've never been like that before

Girl I feel you! Try to stop stressing before you go...you don't want to end up like I did. I had caught a cold 2 days before we left..thank God the morning we left I was better. I still sounded like crap on my wedding day though and was popping motrin like everyday from headaches. I think it was a sinus infection.

I really think I caught it because I was doing too much and was stressing which does effect your immune system.

Stop stressing,it will all be ok

I'm trying, but today just sent me over the edge. I woke up this morning abruptly as I was having nightmare and I started crying, and then I got to work and it was one of those days full of problems and people moaning and I felt so sick aswell. I went to the toilet and just cried I need a break, even if I stop the planning I'm still so worn out that just doing normal stuff & work is really getting me down too. I guess I've just got to carry on and stick it out

this time last month, I was like you!!!

I felt overwhelmed with everything that I needed to do..i sucked it up and asked for help!! You can't do it all and there are many people who would LOVE to help you do things..I had a friend who did my program for me..just took my vision and knocked it outta the park..you still have a final say about it!

enjoy the planning because now I have no wedding to plan and I am going thru "knot" withdrawal!!

I know what you mean, I really wanted to spend the last week leading up to the wedding just enjoying things and going for meals with my parents - but I just feel like I'm going to still be doing stuff the night before. Maybe I'll feel better in a week or so when I've got more things done on the list - the smaller they are, I guess the smaller my panic levels will be

I Agree with Lynn 100%

We leave in five weeks. I have had to plan 2 weddings on my own as well as setting up a new company for my boss in what can only be descibed as a hostile sector and coping with paying for everything with this darn credit crunch, the bridal shop lady going mad on me an threatening to not let me have my dress oh and keeping the house going as well as helping family get out fits, organising hen do's and a florida holiday for 38 people that keep changing their flipping minds

Now take it from me do not let things get to you....i am off to the docs today it would seem i have bronchitus!!!!
It all came to a head about 10 days ago when i think my mind and body could not take anymore. DO NOT GET TO THIS POINT!! I went 72hrs with only 6hrs sleep and have ended up having to take pills to help which i HATE doing, crying non stop (which i NEVER do)!!!

DF is now helping more (about time) he even mowed the lawn and cleared the guttering (which i dont think he has ever done) at the weekend
I have for the first time in my 30 years realised that i am not super woman and feel very silly for letting myself get so ill!!!

So honey, my advice is to just take one thing at a time and don't feel bad asking people to help you. We are only human after all and can only cope with so much. I have managed by doing one task at a time rather than ten at once. You are doing the right thing my making lists. I know they can seem scary but honest it feels so great when you start ticking lots of things off.

You will be fine, i know its easy to say but things always come together in the end.

from me and good luck

Awww honey I am sorry to hear that you are poorly, I'm sending pixie dust your way I'm trying to stop stressing, but its soooo hard - I am a REAL worrier and planner and those two things combined are lethal I am getting through the lists, and ticking bits off - they just seem so big that it really over whelmed me

Seriously, Joanne, you need to give yourself a break. May I suggest that you look at your priority list and JUST do right now the first thing on the must-do list that can be done now. You will feel better for having it done and it will give you a sense of accomplishment. IF you have energy when that one thing is done, look at the list and choose the next thing.

Other people in my life have the following approach and I often take this approach when I am overwhelmed. I write every single little to-do down on a numbered list. Then, I do every single little thing that is not too time-consuming, regardless of whether it is a priority. It allows me to cross a huge number of items off the list, thereby whittling the list and making myself feel better. Also -- if you are able to enlist the aid of others for any of those items, put that person's name next to that item, ask them to do it and give them a "deadline". When the deadline rolls around, check on the status and hopefully, you'll be in a position to cross something else off your list.

If you are stressing about packing, do what I do. Start a "drop zone". Everytime you come across something that will ultimately, have to be packed, drop it in a room or a corner. You'll know where it is when you need it, and you will take it out of your "space" so that your space is clearer AND you don't have to think about it every time you see it in your everyday life.

I hope something you've heard in everyone's responses helps. I can't imagine how stressed I will feel when I am at your point on the timeline. Will you promise to remind me of all these strategies when I start freaking out in December?

Thanks for the tips sweetie I've taken your advice and have started a wedding drop zone, so I know where all those bits are I've also numbered the things on the list and have split them into a deadline over the next 3 weeks. At least this way I know everything will be done if I stick to the plan So at least I'm not worrying that it wont be done or that I'll run out of time. I just wish there were more hours in the day!! I'll definately remind you of your advice come December but I'm sure you'll be fine, you seem alot calmer than me

THANKS EVERYONE FOR YOUR ADVICE

 

[keenercam]

Joanne -- If I could offer to help, I would, for sure! Instead, I'll offer you my best wishes and virtual support.

 

[Beep]

Awwww honey, try and chill. Everything will come together Just remember it's your wedding at the most fabulous place on earth and that's what counts.

You know, I reckon if you really sat and looked at what needed to be done you'd find that most of them are little things. It always seems to be those that we get hung up on.

Failing that, get hopelessly drunk