Strapless Dresses in weddings-Inspired by Snoopy

[CajunDixie]

I'll never forget my mom telling DH that her "topless" wedding dress was in the attic one day. DH and I were She didnt even realize what she had said....when we told her she was a bit embarassed.

Personally the strapless dresses are ok if you can lean over and not "fall out" of it. I attended a wedding several years ago and those poor brides maids were constantly "holding" themselves when the bent down to talk to people at the reception.

 

[Kallison]

I think it depends, if you have push up bras and a lot of cleavage showing then no I don't think it is appropriate. I really don't like strapless brides dresses that are all about the sex appeal in church. I think the bride should wear a jacket and then let it all hang out at the reception. I'm 42ish.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

I didn't wear a strapless for my wedding. I couldn't carry it off.

but here's the dress my daughter wore for her bat mitzvah. (when she bought the dress, other customers in the shop thought she was picking a dress to ewear as a bridesmaid.) inside the synagogue she wore a tallit, a prayer shawl, over her shoulders.

many of her friends wore similar dresses for their bat mitzvah celebrations. obviously I don't think it was inappropriate.

 

[Kermit]

I'm 28, and I think that you should definitely find out if it's okay at your church before you get one. I'm sure there are conservative strapless dresses out there, but I've also seen ones that I would never wear in front of anyone other than my DH, much less my pastor. Since the pastor has to stand there and look right at you the whole time, I think it's respectful to wear something that won't embarrass him. I know when I was trying on wedding gowns, I tried one on that ended up being lower in the front than I thought it would be. The lady at the shop said that they could add a piece of material right there that would make it more modest. I think that something like that, or a jacket, is a good thing to add if the dress is too revealing for a religious ceremony.

 

[grinningghost]

I'm all for a nice strapless dress, but they kind of make me mad. I'm waaayyy to small busted to hold one of those suckers up.

 

[Aurora63]

I'm falling in the "they're okay but..." category.

If the bride likes it and the church doesn't mind, then fine.

Personally, though, I don't care for strapless bridal gowns. They all look the same to me, as though they are cookie cutter gowns. I would think that a bride would want to look a little unique on her wedding day, not like everyone else for the past two years.

But I think it is just the popular style now, other styles are out there, but strapless is everywhere.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I wore a strapless, and found it was more conservative that many of the other gowns I tried on... I tried on a halter top in which my cleavage would poke someones eye out! I am SUPER modest, and didn't feel uncomfortable at all. But it totally depends on the gown as to how modest it is.

A strapless that fits right doesn't need ****s to hold it up =)

 

[disykat]

I am not against strapless dresses but I find "the bride should do whatever she wants" sentiments offensive. If the bride chooses a religious ceremony, then her ceremony choices... music, wardrobe, etc. should all be subject to the rules of the church she has chosen. I have never heard of wardrobe issues, but as a singer I have run into people wanting secular music (usually it is not allowed, nor am I comfortable singing it in a religious ceremony) many times. If she wants something that isn't deemed appropriate at her church, she should rent a hall.

Personally I wouldn't be bothered by strapless (unless there is a big cleavage problem), but I'm surprised by the idea of halter tops in church. The bride could cover her back with a veil during the service, but the bridesmaids would be a little too exposed IMO.

 

[Nutsy]

Personally I don't like to see a Bride wearing strapless, halter, or shoestrings.

I don't know what it is, but to me a Bride is something more than a fashion statement.

I like Brides in long sleeves & a decent neckline & Bridesmaids wearing something decent too, not strapless or halter. I don't mind bridesmaids wearing off the shoulder, but not the Bride.

That's just me & how I've always perceived a Bride to look.

Oh & I'm close to 46.

 

[Aimeedyan]

LOL!

I just noticed a word in my post got bleeped out!!!! I PROMISE it wasn't a curse word!!!!!!!! ROFL!!!!!!!

 

[pluto's fan]

I was dead set against a strapless gown but that's what the majority of the dresses are right now. the ones that did have sleeves were not very pretty..I tried on one and fell in love with it.
So if the dress covers you in the right places...its ok.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by Aimeedyan
A strapless that fits right doesn't need ****s to hold it up =)

heheh - I totally agree!

I don't have the ****s (I intentionally put *'s there - heheh) to hold up a strapbless - but I had some padding built in (just a wee bit) and my gown didn't budge all night.

of course - I was married outside, on a cliff, by a JP and I wore flip-flops (white with rhinestones) during my reception. nothing about me is traditional.

I didn't even have a train - most of them felt like I was dragging a 3 year old behind me! heheh

 

[Davids-Coco]

I wore one, and it was perfect... custom made so nothing was too revealing and nothing fell out. Pictures at www.CoreyAndDavid.com if you would like.

However, my thought is that if the church or shul (in my case) has rules against it... you should go with them. We were married outside under our own beautiful chuppah (wedding canopy), but if we had decided to have a shul wedding I would have been expected to have a little jacket of some sort. I would never go to services without a cardigan or a shirt that covers my shoulders.

I can't understand people who find a new church for their wedding just because they don't want to abide by the rules of the one they belong to. If the church really means something to you, you should be willing to compromise... especially since a seamstress can easily make a little jacket to wear over a strapless dress for the ceremony only!