strange best man/maid of honor combo

[DansBride2009]

i was just informed by my fiance that he is having one of his female family friends standing up next to his best man.

i have NO problem with this whatsoever, because if i were to have more than just a maid of honor, i'd have a girl and a guy stand up for me(my best friends in college were a girl and a guy, and my cousin is standing up for me now).

BUT, my question is this: i am just having a maid of honor stand up for me, and he is having two stand up for him. is that odd? i guess it can be whatever i want, but is that weird?

thanks for advice !

 

[Cosi Bella]

I personally didn't want an uneven bridal party, but if unevenness doesn't bother you than I think that's fine!

 

[DansBride2009]

hmmm.

i just can't afford to buy dresses for girls is part of the problem, and i also can't handle all the drama that goes along with it all. i would have plenty of people i would feel wonderful about being a bridesmaid, but i just want to keep it simple.

i didn't know he was going to ask her, lol. i'm fine with it, i just hope she wears something from alfred angelo like i've picked out for my maid of honor or something dressy with my colors; that's what i'm most nervous about. i've never met this chick in my life but she and my fiance have been friends for years so it's important to him ...

sigh. i guess i'll have to think about it a little. i don't want to ask anyone just to make a wedding party even, i want to ask them because i want them to be there ... why is wedding planning no fun sometimes? lol.

 

[lpizzuro123]

At our wedding in Disney last month I had my 3 friends from high school stand up for me. We have know each other since 1973 (the year we were all freshmen) and there is no way I could decide. One is married, one is single and one is divorced. In the program I called them Matron of Honor, Maid of Honor and Maid of Dishonor (only kidding on that one) - she was Maid of Honor. They all wore a different dress in the same color from the Alfred Angelo line and nothing could have been better - although only one signed the license. My DH, who was married before had his 20 year old son as his Best Man and then had two groomsmen.

Linda

 

[DansBride2009]

aww thanks. i love the pic you posted, really pretty colors. :-D

 

[lurkyloo]

Don't worry about symmetry - just have who you want to have up there with you. Besides, sometimes asymmetry looks much more interesting!

 

[DansBride2009]

thanks lurkyloo!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

because my stepson couldn't go..I had only girls..

 

[Lizby]

I had one MOH & DH had his two brothers as his Best Men. I actually like how our pictures came out with the odd amount.

 

[Cosi Bella]

hmmm.

i just can't afford to buy dresses for girls is part of the problem, and i also can't handle all the drama that goes along with it all. i would have plenty of people i would feel wonderful about being a bridesmaid, but i just want to keep it simple.

i didn't know he was going to ask her, lol. i'm fine with it, i just hope she wears something from alfred angelo like i've picked out for my maid of honor or something dressy with my colors; that's what i'm most nervous about. i've never met this chick in my life but she and my fiance have been friends for years so it's important to him ...

sigh. i guess i'll have to think about it a little. i don't want to ask anyone just to make a wedding party even, i want to ask them because i want them to be there ... why is wedding planning no fun sometimes? lol.

Well you are right with that! Drama oh lordy! lol.

On a serious note, definitely dont ask someone b/c you feel you have to!
Also, can you talk to your DF and tell him that you'd like it if she wore the same dress as your MOH, or a similar dress i.e. from the same designer... or at least the same color? Typically the guys coordinate with the girls, so I see no reason she can't match your MOH.

 

[Swmhc]

We each had a best friend and then my daughter, so we had two girls and one guy. For entrance the guys are already there, and when they left, the best man had a girl on each side. Looked fine and he seemed to be enjoying it too ! Just a little snug getting between the bushes on the exit.

 

[CoP Luv]

My two sisters were my MOH and DH's brother was his BM. It didn't look weird at all.

 

[disprincessatheart]

I don't think it'll look funny at all. Another idea for what she should wear - waht about a black dress to match the tuxes?

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

hmmm.

i just can't afford to buy dresses for girls is part of the problem, and i also can't handle all the drama that goes along with it all. i would have plenty of people i would feel wonderful about being a bridesmaid, but i just want to keep it simple.

i didn't know he was going to ask her, lol. i'm fine with it, i just hope she wears something from alfred angelo like i've picked out for my maid of honor or something dressy with my colors; that's what i'm most nervous about. i've never met this chick in my life but she and my fiance have been friends for years so it's important to him ...

sigh. i guess i'll have to think about it a little. i don't want to ask anyone just to make a wedding party even, i want to ask them because i want them to be there ... why is wedding planning no fun sometimes? lol.

Do you have to pay for the dresses? My MOH bought her own dress. If I had more girls I wouldn't pay for their dresses.

 

[lpizzuro123]

In all the weddings I have been in, I have always purchased my own dress, shoes, bag and hair things. I did not purchase the dresses for my girls - or their shoes or bags. I did get them matching necklaces (Mickey Swarovski ones) and matching watches (personalized Mickey watches from the Disney Shopping website) but those were their gifts for being in my wedding.

Linda

 

[wendy46001]

I don't think it'll look funny at all. Another idea for what she should wear - waht about a black dress to match the tuxes?

Thats what i did when i was a "Best Man" for my friend
i had the same dress as the bridesmaids but in black instead of the purple she put her girls in...

also i dont worry about the numbers being uneven
i looks fine i pictures

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

DF and I decided on no attendants. Our guest list is immediate family only and we decided that we would have the moms witness the paperwork...Besides-if no one else shows up...we know our moms will!!!