still wetting at night

[carmiedog]

My oldest stopped bedwetting at 8. We finally took him to the doctor to a)make sure there wasn't a physical problem, and b)to get a prescription for the nasal spray so he wouldn't be embarrassed having to wear the big kids' night pull-ups at sleepovers. Ironically, he last wet the bed a week or two after we got the prescription so we never even got it filled.


Good luck and lots of patience to you! I know how frustrating it can be, but it won't last forever.

 

[TheDizMom]

Thank you so much everyone. You have made me feel a lot better . I am the only one among my friends who has this problem so I was beginning to wonder . I am glad to know I am not alone and it really is pretty common. I think I am much more comfortable with just riding it out and waiting til she outgrows it. I have had issues with diaper rash like stuff with her (although fortunately no yeast infections) so I think I will take the advice of using the Good Nights instead. Do they make them with princesses too ? She will just have to be happy with her princess jammies. Thanks again.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Goodnights have fairies on them and we call the Tinkerbell Undies!

 

[ksloane]

My daughter is 6 1/2 and still has the occasional accident (usually none for a week and then several over the course of a week). Over the holidays I decided to work on it just a little. I know someone else mentioned not waking up as they may not go back to sleep, but here's what we do. First, very little to drink after 5. Second, she goes to the bathroom at bedtime (8:30). Then I wake her up to potty when I go to bed (usually about 10ish), and I have a second alarm that is set to go off at 2:30 and I wake her up then and she goes. It doesn't bother her much to be woke up though. She fusses just a little as she wakes up, but then falls back to sleep within a few seconds of her head hitting the pillow when she goes back to bed. *Knock on wood* We've not had an accident since we started this.

 

[Ladyw/theTramp]

We are in the very same situation as everyone else... My DS7 is still soaking wet EVERY morning!! We switched to GoodNights a year or so ago and they help, but he can even drench thru one of them.

We never make an issue of it at home... we have tried letting him sleep in regular underwear at different points for a week or two, thinking that he would feel the sensation of getting wet and it would wake him... No such luck. He would wake in the morning and realize he was wet... but he never woke up AS he was wetting.

He has uncles on both sides of the our family that have and still have bedwetting issues, though DH and I never had a problem.. I guess it can be hereditary in that way as well.

He is starting to ask about it though... He is starting to realize that other kids his age aren't wearing "sleeping underwear" and really wants to "fix" it. We tell him all the time that everyone's bodies are different and do things at different times.. Like he lost his first tooth really fast ( when he was 4) and his cousin still hasn't lost a tooth at 6! Things just happen when they are ready. He seems to accept that. I just hope that it doesn't take a toll on his self-esteem. Both uncles seem to have had some low self-esteem issues along with bedwetting.

We also are concerned that since our oldest has this "problem" maybe we don't really know how to train a child to be dry at night.. Our DD5 still wears Pull-ups... she's wet 50% of the time.. We just have never thought to really do anything other than just stick with Pull ups..

Maybe we should be doing something differently with her..? Anyone have one bed wetter and one child that trained earlier? What did you do differently? Or do they just start waking up dry???

Wow! This was a long post!! Sorry to ramble on.. it's just rare to have a group of people to talk to that are going thru the same thing! Thanks!

PS
OhioMinnie... we are pretty close... in Canal Winchester... my parents just moved from London a couple years ago! I'll have to check out your DH's podcast!

 

[texaslover]

DS could not stay dry at night until he turned 8, then boom, almost immediately he did and has never had an accident again. From about 5 on one of us would get up in the middle of the night and wake him up to go. If we did that he was fine. It was a pain but I couldn't bear to have him in a pull up and we really thought he would eventually wake up on his own. Uh...didn't happen but he did get used to going at night so now, even though he can make it through, he will get up if he feels the urge.

Doctor told us it was just a undeveloped bladder and it just had to mature. Of course we had doubts but he was right in the end.

I can't tell you how wonderful that first night of sleeping without getting up to take him to the bathroom was! It was like the first night your baby sleeps through!!!

 

[BrerMom]

Goodnights definitely hold more. When they didn't hold enough, we switched to pants that I bought from a cloth diaper website. They were white and he never soaked through them - and they had a plastic liner, too, so the bed didn't get wet, either. Tip: They are perfect for overnights at other's houses. We would put two (just in case, never needed the second one, but it made him feel better) in his sleeping bag. He was motivated enough to want to sleep over and not have anybody "know" that he made it work. He could change before sleeping and change again before getting up, all in the bag. He even went to camp for a week with only his counselor aware of his situation.

It didn't surprise me that he had a hard time being dry at night; it took him a long time to be dry during the day. He wanted so badly to be dry during the day, but he just didn't have the muscle control. It didn't bother us, but that's when he started stuttering - it DID bother him.

We tried the alarm, but it really didn't work for him. He slept so deeply, that the alarm would wake me up before him. Also, it interrupted his sleep enough that he was really tired the next day. We tried it for a week and decided that it just wasn't worth it for him. If he was that tired during the summer, he would have been exhausted during the school year.

He was one of the "lightswitch" kids- once he was dry at night, I don't think he was ever wet at night again.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Oh, you are not alone! My DD was daytime potty trained when she was 2 and could not stay dry at night until she was 6 1/2.

We had the dr check her out and he said she was fine. He told us to be patient and it would all take care of itself.......

It was hard waiting (and the laundry ritual every morning) but he was right. It just stopped happening.

I wish you all the patience in the world........

And we limited liquids.....got her up at 10:00 pm......again at 2:00....sometimes it was already too late.

 

[ut_dentist]

My oldest child had a bed wetting problem. We took her to a urologist and he gave her a nasal spray that he said would make her quit in about 3 days. After 3 months, we had no improvement. Then we tried a prescription medicine that decreased the amount of urine she produced. Medicine had horrible side effects like very dried out skin and produced hot flashes at the slightest bit of activity. At 7 years of age (almost 8), she just seemed to get it all of a sudden and has a few accidents since then. My now 8 year old son, still wets the bed almost nightly, but I have decided not to put him through the medical routine because of the side effects. Dad was a bedwetter until 4th grade so I know that it is only genetic. Thank God for pullups. It is a very frustrating thing to deal with.

 

[mom2grace]

Here is my situtation. DD is 4-1/2. She wakes up soaking wet every morning. She is a deep sleeper.
The problem is, that being in the wet pull-up is irritating her skin and privates. She has already had yeast infections. I am using the huggies night time pull-ups and she is still having the problem.

I am afraid to wake her up before we go to bed. I think she will be awake after that. I try to limit her fluids and she goes right before bed. If she didn't have the problems, I wouldn't be so concerned, but she hurts.

Any ideas?

Did you take her to the Dr. when she had the rash? Our nurse diagnosed DD's rash as yeast over the phone, when we finally took her into the Dr., it wasn't yeast at all, but skin breakdown due to the moisture. Moisture from swimming and sledding also affect this. He gave us an Rx lotion, and it works wonders.

Have the Dr. see it if you haven't already, it might not be yeast at all!

DD complains that it itches.

 

[Denine]

Did you take her to the Dr. when she had the rash? Our nurse diagnosed DD's rash as yeast over the phone, when we finally took her into the Dr., it wasn't yeast at all, but skin breakdown due to the moisture. Moisture from swimming and sledding also affect this. He gave us an Rx lotion, and it works wonders.

Have the Dr. see it if you haven't already, it might not be yeast at all!

DD complains that it itches.

The doctor is the one that diagnosed the yeast infection. I have the prescription antifungal that I put on her when she gets really red and irritated. I don't want another yeast infection.

We tried the Goodnights when I couldn't get the night time Huggies and they are a bit too big for her yet. DD is a little thing.

I had to change the sheets on her bed again this morning because she soaked through the pull up.

We may have to try waking her up when we go to bed for a potty trip.

 

[camreesmom]

DD7 has the same problem. We've talked to the doctor about it and the ped just says that she'll outgrow it. She has been getting better. She was waking up with a wet pullup (goodnight) every morning and now is only wet a few times a month. We finally took her out of the goodnights last month when she finished the package. Now I just have to do an extra load of laundry every couple of weeks. It does get better but I know how frustrating it can be. DD10 didn't have this problem....she was dry at night around age 3 1/2. Now DD4 still wakes up wet more often than not. I'm hoping we don't have the same problem with her.

 

[Grendalynn]

Does anyone else have issues with day squirts? I do with DS7 - he is almost 8 and just this winter started having pee squirts during the day. Honestly, I think he is just so worried about missing something that we waits til the ABSOLUTLY last minute, and its too late.

We took hime to the doctor and she said there was nothing wrong, more or less a personality issue. We bought him a watch and now he goes to the BR every 1/2 hour weather he needs to or not. Seems to be working well, but nights are still soggy....

 

[CampbellScot]

I don't know if anyone has already said this...but if you ARE still using pull ups, I would switch to Good Nights. Pull Ups aren't really meant for bigger kids emptying a night time bladder into them. Good Nights are made for bed wetting, so at least you wouldn't have as many leak issues.

My cousin had such a terrible time with the leaking and such before Good Nights came out. Pull Ups just were not meant for kids over the potty training age and they just didn't work. So she started putting her daughter in small adult diapers. Those things are absorb every drop let me tell you! She always said they were the original "good nights"!

I really think your little girl will grow out of this. It's a pain, but she seems to be following a family pattern. Just get her some Good Nights and keep your chin up!

Also, this may be random, but my cousin's little girl was bathed thoroughly every morning and my cousin found that her skin started to get dry after a night in the diapers and then the bath every morning. So make sure you have some moisturizing soap handy!!

 

[belle&beast]

Does anyone else have issues with day squirts? I do with DS7 - he is almost 8 and just this winter started having pee squirts during the day. Honestly, I think he is just so worried about missing something that we waits til the ABSOLUTLY last minute, and its too late.

We took hime to the doctor and she said there was nothing wrong, more or less a personality issue. We bought him a watch and now he goes to the BR every 1/2 hour weather he needs to or not. Seems to be working well, but nights are still soggy....

I would suggest going to a pediatric urologist. We were told nothing was worng and put up with accidents for 2 years. The pediatric urologist finally helped us. They put her on a 2 hour potty schedule and eliminated caffeine, red dye, citrus/citric acid from her diet. It was also really important to keep her regular and BMs needed to be soft. (Sorry if TMI) But it has really worked. Send me a PM if you have specific questions. Good luck!

 

[BRANDIRN]

My oldest son wet the bed until he was 6yrs and my 5 yo still does occasionally. I think they just kind of grow out of. I used good nights when they were doing it almost every night. A few things I did that seemed to help were: 1-Nofluids after dinner (usually around 6:30) 2-Go potty right before bed 3-And since I always get up around 2am to potty myself, I would carry them to the potty and they would potty--they're such deep sleepers they never really even woke up! And as some one else mentioned, a good bath 1st thing in the mmorning helped keep them from getting any skin irritation.

 

[ZanneMarie]

Does anyone else have issues with day squirts? I do with DS7 - he is almost 8 and just this winter started having pee squirts during the day. Honestly, I think he is just so worried about missing something that we waits til the ABSOLUTLY last minute, and its too late.

We took hime to the doctor and she said there was nothing wrong, more or less a personality issue. We bought him a watch and now he goes to the BR every 1/2 hour weather he needs to or not. Seems to be working well, but nights are still soggy....

My oldest son had issues with leaking during the day. He actually had a spastic bladder and it was bad enough that he was on Ditropan for a couple of years. It really was not his fault. To go along with that he also was diagnosed with Kidney reflux (his bladder would not completly empty and it would go back into the kidneys) that caused the occasional bladder infection. He also probably had some undiagnosed kidney infections when he was a infant/toddler because in the testing to figure out what was going on he showed some kidney scarring. He was also a nighttime wetter. This all started when he was almost 5 and was occasionally wetting during the day and I thought that he was being lazy and not stopping playing in time--I took him to the Dr so i could clear my mommy consciense and feel ok about giving some consequences if it was a result of being lazy. Come to find out he had an infection that was hard to cure that led to all the further testing and diagnosis. The day time stuff was controlled well with the meds...the night time stuff was still an issue and we were constantly reassured he would outgrow it and the Dr was definelty not in favor of the alarm system early on. Now that he is 11 the Dr said give it a go and I will say it has been working well. He was highly motivated for it to work as well and for the first week or two I did not see much difference and he was belligerent in the night about it but now a month into it his attitude has changed and he is dry almost every night. Whew long post...sorry...but i did want to share my experience. My middle child was dry from day one of potty training day and night. Now DD4 is day dry but not night dry and i am worried I am going to have 6 more years of goodnights and wet sheets until she is old enough to use the alarm on. The Dr had told us there was a 50% chance that a sibling would have similar issues.

 

[Dreaming of Disney]

You are definitly not alone. I had the problem and so did my brother until puberty. My twin DD's 8, have the problem every night. We actually switched to the generic brand of goodnites at Dollar General. My girls say they are more comfortable and they are plain white. They are also very absorbent not to mention cheaper. That really helps out when you are buying for 2 kids every night.

My doctor tells me it's normal esp. with a family history. They have not been invited to many sleepovers yet, but when that starts we'll probably get a prescription to use for just those times.

Hang in there. As a childhood bedwetter I know how hard it is on your child to wake up wet every day. Thank goodness we have goodnites these days!

 

[Soupermom]

I just wanted to say that my healthy son had to wear pull-ups to bed at night until he was 5+. I would even wake him during the night but he would still wet at some time. Drs. said not to worry. One night, it just stopped. Right before he entered 1st grade. Give it a little more time and if there are no other medical issues, don't worry yet...

Good luck!

 

[ohiominnie]

Does anyone else have issues with day squirts? I do with DS7 - he is almost 8 and just this winter started having pee squirts during the day. Honestly, I think he is just so worried about missing something that we waits til the ABSOLUTLY last minute, and its too late.

We took hime to the doctor and she said there was nothing wrong, more or less a personality issue. We bought him a watch and now he goes to the BR every 1/2 hour weather he needs to or not. Seems to be working well, but nights are still soggy....

Severe constipation can cause urinary problems. The hard brick of stool collects in the colon which then "bumps" the bladder. The bladder is very sensitive to that sort of thing and will spasm, causing accidents. My ds tends to get constipated easily and I can usually tell if it's getting bad b/c he'll go to the bathroom every 15 minutes, but only a very small amount comes out. Once we start him on Metamucil twice a day and he starts poopin' better, the urinary issues get better.

HTH.