still wetting at night

[TheDizMom]

OK I know this is COMPLETELY but I am at a loss as to how to get my DD (1 month from 6)to stay dry all night. I have tried the usual tricks, no drinking too close to bed, making sure she goes right before bed, waking her up before I go to bed to go and all the other stuff and nothing works. She still wakes up 99% of the time with a wet pull-up in the morning. I still use one because I would be up every night changing sheets if I didn't and she wouldn't be getting much sleep that way. I still have to do it occasionally because she will wet so much the pull-up leaks. I have spoken to the doctor and he says don't worry. My DH and I were both still wetting the bed at her age (Did I just admit that on a national forum ), so it could be partly heredity. Am I just being to much of a worrier ? Any advice from someone out there who has been there? I was hoping she would be past this for our trip at the end of next month, but I don't think I have time now, so I will have to pack all those pull-ups (call me selfish, I was hoping to avoid that this time). If you have some technique I haven't tried please let me know.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Honestly- if you and DH had the same problem it's probably something in the way her body is made up. I wouldn't worry to much especially with a family history. I know it is frustrating but you will get through it.

 

[jakoky]

I know exactly what u are going through...my kids are older now and have outgrown the problem....first, it is normal and most likely she is a very deep sleeper....my oldest dd wet the bed at night til around 5...not every night, but enough that we kept her in pull-ups /diapers(she was trained in the day by 2 1/2)...my youngest daughter was a piece of cake, night and day trained at 2 yrs 4 months... My son was the tough one, he is my middle child...he was "trained" at 2 1/2 but had day accidents til about 4...very frustrating...he finally outgrew that but continued having tons of night time accidents...at around 8 we took him to learn that his only problem was that he sleeps to deep...(this is so true, but so did my younger daughter)...if he went to bed on time and wasnt exhausted and we woke him at our bedtime, we would get through a few nights accident free....he continued having the odd accident until about 9 months ago, he is now 13 and he has fully outgrown it...if i think it was frustrating fro me, i used to feel so bad for my son....the biggest thing for us was waking him to go...my doctor said to try the rewards, and we did, but there was no way it was going to make a difference, my poor son did NOT want to wet the bed so anything i offered only reminded him he couldnt...just know that they will outgrow it, and if one of the parents was a bedwetter(which apparently i was )then the child is much more prone to it...nice what we can pass to our kids hehehe...i wish you well, as i know what you are both going thru...
sharon
WDW-Dec 04-first disney experience for my DH, DD, DS, DD and first time at WDW for us all
DL-MAY 06-first time at DL for DH and kids , and my 9th(but the first 8 were all by the time i was about 13) so it was all new to me

 

[Bibbidi]

My oldest will be 6 this summer. She's still in pullups. My husband was a bedwetter until he was older, so I guess it's the lot we're stuck with. I figure that she will just have to outgrow it, and for now, while she still fits in pullups we continue to use those. Every once in a while she will wake up with a dry pullup, but there's no rhyme or reason to it. She is a VERY deep sleeper. She was fully daytime trained at 2 1/2, but has continued with the nighttime wetting. You're not alone!

 

[belle&beast]

My DD5 sees a pediatric urologist for other issues, but she is still a bedwetter. We have learned that Goodnights hold much more than pull-ups and are designed for older kids. Also FWIW, we have eliminated caffeine, red dyes and citric acids from her diet because these things irritate the bladder and cause it to contract- it may help to limit or eliminate them for your DD, too. We just had an appointment and were told that 15-20% of 5yo still wet the bed regularly, so we are not alone!

 

[mareed]

My 2 DS's were dry at night at the same time - of course they're 3 years apart. One was 7 and the other was 4. My 7 year old had not had a dry night in his life, I think. We discussed it with him when he turned 7 and I think he also felt some pressure with his little brother being dry at night. He wanted to try something to fix the problem.

We purchased a bedwetting alarm by Malem (you can see it at http://www.bedwettingstore.com/category_alarms.htm). He was able to pretty much handle things by himself when the alarm woke him from being wet during the night. (Waking up, changing into dry clothes and hooking the alarm back up.) It's been several years, but I think what we did was put the alarm on his underwear and then place a GoodNites pull-up over that so that the bed wouldn't get wet. It was almost incredible how well and how quickly it worked! Within about a week, he was dry at night, and I can't recall an accident in the almost last 4 years since then.

I know it's not a guaranteed fix because I have a friend who tried the alarm, and it just didn't wake her son up. She would have to wake him up and help him change, and it just never worked. I think he's 10 now and still wet at night, so I think there's something more complicated going on with him. My son just seemed to be a pretty heavy sleeper and slept through his body cues. The alarm trained him. He slept with the alarm for a week or two after he was dry, and then we just stopped with the alarm, and he's had no trouble since then.

The alarm is sort of expensive - looks like it's currently around $80, but I figure it paid for itself pretty quickly in money saved on pull-ups. Good luck! I will say that the key was having DS fully on-board with wanting to do something about it. We never embarassed him about it, but he clearly didn't like being wet either and wanted to do something about it.

 

[In Luv with Disney]

Gosh,I could have written the SAME post as the OP! My son is 5 and has been potty trained since 2 1/2. NEVER an accident during the day! However, he STILL wakes up with a wet pull up every night. He was going so much, that the bed would be soaked even with the Pull Ups.

NOW WE HAVE TRIED GOOD NITES. They are for bigger kids and hold more urine. MUCH better! He doesn't wake up soaking wet anymore, which could ruin his confidence. My little guy DOES NOT WANT TO wet the bed...he sleeps so deep, he can't help it. The doctor said it IS hereditary, but neither me nor my DH had this problem. The doctor says I should not worry at all and that he will grow out of if.

I am just here for support, because I am going through it, too. When he wakes up dry I get SOOO excited with him!! When he wakes up wet, I say OH WELL, TRY HARDER TONIGHT! Negativity will only make it worse.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

 

[belle&beast]

My 2 DS's were dry at night at the same time - of course they're 3 years apart. One was 7 and the other was 4. My 7 year old had not had a dry night in his life, I think. We discussed it with him when he turned 7 and I think he also felt some pressure with his little brother being dry at night. He wanted to try something to fix the problem.

We purchased a bedwetting alarm by Malem (you can see it at http://www.bedwettingstore.com/category_alarms.htm). He was able to pretty much handle things by himself when the alarm woke him from being wet during the night. (Waking up, changing into dry clothes and hooking the alarm back up.) It's been several years, but I think what we did was put the alarm on his underwear and then place a GoodNites pull-up over that so that the bed wouldn't get wet. It was almost incredible how well and how quickly it worked! Within about a week, he was dry at night, and I can't recall an accident in the almost last 4 years since then.

I know it's not a guaranteed fix because I have a friend who tried the alarm, and it just didn't wake her son up. She would have to wake him up and help him change, and it just never worked. I think he's 10 now and still wet at night, so I think there's something more complicated going on with him. My son just seemed to be a pretty heavy sleeper and slept through his body cues. The alarm trained him. He slept with the alarm for a week or two after he was dry, and then we just stopped with the alarm, and he's had no trouble since then.

The alarm is sort of expensive - looks like it's currently around $80, but I figure it paid for itself pretty quickly in money saved on pull-ups. Good luck! I will say that the key was having DS fully on-board with wanting to do something about it. We never embarassed him about it, but he clearly didn't like being wet either and wanted to do something about it.

At our urology appointment, the alarms were not recommended for kids under 8 because it is still within the "normal range" for kids to be wetting until then. I only bring this up because I asked about the alarms at our last appointment. My DSis used one, so I was curious about them.

 

[deedeetoo]

My youngest just turned 6 and he still wets the bed about half the time. He also wears a pull-up to bed everynight. He just had his 6 year doctor appt and the doctor said not to worry, its still normal at his age, but I wish it would end, mostly for his sake. I know he is embarrassed by it. He makes me hide the pull ups in my closet when he has friends over to play.

 

[Darcy03231]

DS is now 13½ and up until about 2 years ago would still occasionally wet the bed. He's a very deep sleeper. He has outgrown it (as the pediatrician said he would) so don't worry. It's not uncommon at all.

 

[ohiominnie]

dh is a pediatrician and also a podcaster. he did an episode about bed wetting you may find helpful. you can go to:
http://www.pediascribe.com/podcast/20061029/pediacast-15-trypod-bedwetting-toxic-mold/
and click on "play now"
or to to iTunes (if you have it) and search for Pediacast. Then look for episode 15.

he got some great feedback on this episode from listeners.

hth!

 

[TheDizMom]

I can honestly say I never say anything to her about the situation at all. I figure she doesn't need my added pressure. I make a big deal out of it when she stays dry, and she never has daytime accidents. She was however very hard to potty train, almost as hard as her brother. I am glad to know everyone seems to go with the let her grow out of it thing like the doctor. I just remember being given medication when I was a kid and my DH had the alarm. I have never really thought of my daughter as a deep sleeper as she is still apt to wake up crying for me in the middle of the night, but I suppose when she is actually asleep she is not getting the signals. My only thing is it doesn't seem to bother her at all. Will this change when she starts getting invites to spend the night at a friends house?

 

[SpecialK]

Gosh,I could have written the SAME post as the OP! My son is 5 and has been potty trained since 2 1/2. NEVER an accident during the day! However, he STILL wakes up with a wet pull up every night. He was going so much, that the bed would be soaked even with the Pull Ups.

NOW WE HAVE TRIED GOOD NITES. They are for bigger kids and hold more urine. MUCH better! He doesn't wake up soaking wet anymore, which could ruin his confidence. My little guy DOES NOT WANT TO wet the bed...he sleeps so deep, he can't help it. The doctor said it IS hereditary, but neither me nor my DH had this problem. The doctor says I should not worry at all and that he will grow out of if.

I am just here for support, because I am going through it, too. When he wakes up dry I get SOOO excited with him!! When he wakes up wet, I say OH WELL, TRY HARDER TONIGHT! Negativity will only make it worse.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

You might want to think twice about saying "try harder tonight." That gives the impression that this is something within his control; it's not. My son is twice your little one's age and still waking uo wet 90% of the time. We've tried everything - restricting fluids, waking him when we went to bed, the alarm and drugs. Nothing worked on the bed-wetting, but all of it caused him great anxiety. Doc says a few more months and it will be time for a urologist. Makes me sad for him.

 

[glass slipper girl]

My oldest is almost 7 now and still wakes with a wet Good Night maybe 3 times a week. We aren't making a big deal of it. My middle son is is 4 and is dry at night. My oldest doesn't seem bothered by needing the night time pants so we haven't made an issue of it. The ped said if by 8.5 he is still doing it we can talk about the meds that help but DH and I feel like if it isn't bothering DS, we won't worry about it. He WILL outgrow it eventually. DH's nephew wet untill about 11 so it may be something in his genes too. If DS starts to be upset by it, then we'll look at the meds. I tried limiting liquids at night but that didn't work. The ped suggested not bothering because he does eventually have to learn to hold it even with drinking before bed so not to worry with it. I also tried waking him before I go to bed but then he'd fully wake up and be awake for up to 2 hours so that isn't good. If he is dry (he always tells us if he is) we say "THAT'S GREAT!" but if he's not we don't comment at all.

 

[thunderbird1]

No great miracle cure here, but I can relate to your experience. My dd was wet darn near every single night night of her life until recently. In our case it was definitely a deep sleep issue, since even the act of going and sleeping in a cold, wet bed wouldn't wake her up. She always had better luck if we were in a hotel, probably because she wasn't as relaxed as at home. She had worse luck if she was sick, and sleepier than usual (had the flu last month and didn't make it through 3 nights in a row).

We asked her pediatrician about it back when she was 5, and were told if she hadn't outgrown it by then, she probably wouldn't until she was 9. And she was 9 1/2 when she finally did, at least by our standards. She still has an occasional accident, but it's only once or twice a month--nothing compared to where she was 3 months ago.

and good luck!

 

[Grendalynn]

I too can be added to the list of having a child with bed wetting problems. DS8 is still waking up a majority of the week with well GOOD NIGHTS... Some nights he's dry, others he has a few squirts, other night he is drenched!!! This is especially had for him as his little brother, turning 4 tomorrow, is dry 5 of 7 nights! I still buty the GOOD nights ad even tried the learn N feel brand. But no luck, DS8 is just such a deep sleeper. We took him to see his Dr thsi fall and she suggested a Bedwetter alarm just as a PP posted. Honestly, we didnt follwo thru with it as much as we should have as it tends to wake the entire house up as DS sleeps thru the alarm usually. And with a baby in the house, sleep is a pretty precious and rare thing.

So join the club and good luck. This is a much more common problem/situation, however you want to word it, than most realize and more common in boys. It is hereditray and not only are they harder to potty trainin the beginning, but harder to keep dry 24-7.

 

[Samantha/NC]

My son is 11-almost 12-and he has finally had about 3 to 4 weeks of being mainly dry!!! His uncle and grandmother were bedwetters. He usuallys wets 3-4 times a week. I NEVER say anything to him, he is also a very deep sleeper. He is not embarrassed at home, but would die if anyone knew!! So it is our secret

 

[Diamondintheruff]

My 6 1/2 year old DD still wets the bed too. I have found by talking about it that it is much more common than you think. If all the tricks fail all you can do is find a solution for your family that promotes the least stress and the most sleep.

What works for us is double making her bed (plastic cover, towel, sheet, plastic cover towel, sheet) each night. She will pull off the top wet level and than go back to sleep herself. She hates wearing pull-ups and since pull-ups increase her incidence of yeast infections I put up with the extra laundry.

 

[Denine]

Here is my situtation. DD is 4-1/2. She wakes up soaking wet every morning. She is a deep sleeper.
The problem is, that being in the wet pull-up is irritating her skin and privates. She has already had yeast infections. I am using the huggies night time pull-ups and she is still having the problem.

I am afraid to wake her up before we go to bed. I think she will be awake after that. I try to limit her fluids and she goes right before bed. If she didn't have the problems, I wouldn't be so concerned, but she hurts.

Any ideas?

 

[glass slipper girl]

Denine, try using the Good Nights night time pants and see if that helps. I noticed my son's skin wasn't as wet or irritated once we moved to those rather than pullups.