Starting over, fresh start

[ChevyNat]

Thank you all and yes his family was very involve in all of this... they never liked me... I was trying to make a man of him and trying to get him away and to think for himself, so I guess I was a threat...
His mother is so dependent of him to do everything around the house and always calls him for every little thing... Even when I had special occasions planned he had to run off to do something for his family...
I was ALWAYS last on the list.... I love to throw parties for the kid's birthday and Halloween and he used to hate it... did not like to help me with the decorations, the cleaning etc.... But wow, was he happy to help someone else plan a party... So all these little things are starting to pop up now and I'm soooo glad that he is gone.... I'M FREEEEEEEE!!!! ha! ha!

 

[Disney Crazy Debbie]

It sounds like you have found alot of group help. As a single mom I have struggled and sacrificed for my child but I wouldn't do any other way. He is a fine young man and will be graduating from H.S. next year. Because of the lack of participation by his own father in life (his own due to drinking) I have tried to be everything to him and I wasn't looking for another "father" becuase it would have to be someone who cared not just about me but would love him as his own. I never found that but we are strong. You are fortunate to have your family so close and supportive because mine lived too far away.

 

[NYDisneyKid]

Hello,,,Sorry to hear about your ordeal. If anything rememeber 1 thing,,,, Think DISNEY, DISNEY,DISNEY,
ºOº

 

[pamouselover]

So so sorry. Hang in there, better day are to come!

 

[ChevyNat]

Thinking of my happy place, thinking of my happy place ha! ha!

 

[L107ANGEL]

You seem to have your stuff together!! Good for you! Feel free to pm me if you need a shoulder anytime!

 

[pamouselover]

Not to hijack the thread, but are you watching Scott on VH1?
Darn is he still hot or what!

You seem to have your stuff together!! Good for you! Feel free to pm me if you need a shoulder anytime!

 

[Unregistered]

Hey sis, it's me ha!ha!

Yes indeed you have your family and I am just sooooooooo anxious for you to come and live here with the two love of my life (see I have no children so I give them everything that I would for my own children). My sister is a very strong person and she is extremely strong headed. But the sad part in all of this is how he told her that he was leaving. Just a big COWARD!!!! He did not even have the respect of talking to her as a mature couple would do in circumstances like this. Anyway I could go on and on about this person but I think I told my sister my feelings about this man (if I can call him that).

Good thing that the kids are surrounded with so much love from their grandparents and my husband and I.
OCTOBER 2008 HERE WE COME!!!! he will not take this away from you.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Not to hijack the thread, but are you watching Scott on VH1?
Darn is he still hot or what!

Yes, but sort of a jerk huh

Hey sis, it's me ha!ha!

Yes indeed you have your family and I am just sooooooooo anxious for you to come and live here with the two love of my life (see I have no children so I give them everything that I would for my own children). My sister is a very strong person and she is extremely strong headed. But the sad part in all of this is how he told her that he was leaving. Just a big COWARD!!!! He did not even have the respect of talking to her as a mature couple would do in circumstances like this. Anyway I could go on and on about this person but I think I told my sister my feelings about this man (if I can call him that).

Good thing that the kids are surrounded with so much love from their grandparents and my husband and I.
OCTOBER 2008 HERE WE COME!!!! he will not take this away from you.

Well bless your heart!!! Sounds like the op has alot of support behind her

 

[WDWFRV]

She is a wonderful mom!!!! She does everything in her power for those kids to have a wonderful life. Hey! she brings them to Disney ha!ha! She is extremely strong, but when you have your entire family supporting you, it helps a lot. That was the problem in that relationship, IT WAS JUST HER (he was never there). The grass is not greener on the other side ha!ha! He will be hit in the face soon enough. But between you and I, I am glad he is out of her life, I did not see a bright future for them with him in the picture. He is not family-oriented at all. He has big problems in the head that man (if I can call him that ). A man that leaves his wife and kids after 20 years (married for 10) without further explanation, just WE HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON is a coward to me. Don't worry my sister knows how I feel about him ha!ha! Anyway now she can concentrate on her courses (she would like to become a travel agent) but I see her working as an agent for Disney ha!ha! She just spends hours planning when we go there. She is an absolute awesome sister and besides she is finally FREE from him and his family.

YOUPPI

 

[WDWFRV]

It sounds like you have found alot of group help. As a single mom I have struggled and sacrificed for my child but I wouldn't do any other way. He is a fine young man and will be graduating from H.S. next year. Because of the lack of participation by his own father in life (his own due to drinking) I have tried to be everything to him and I wasn't looking for another "father" becuase it would have to be someone who cared not just about me but would love him as his own. I never found that but we are strong. You are fortunate to have your family so close and supportive because mine lived too far away.

How long ago were you divorced?

 

[ChevyNat]

Thank's guys for all your support... and to my Sis which I love dearly... I'm not sad that he is gone... I realize what I did not have in a relationship... I was always very grounded and level headed in this. So it's not as hard as I would imagine... but then again I have the support of a loving family on my side... so can't complain..

 

[Tat2ddisneymom]

This is probably the best thing that could have happened to you. That's great that he's not fighting you for the kids and will be financially supportive. Hopefully he won't totally cut them out of his life. But it sounds like they're definitely better off with you. Hugs & kisses to you & the kiddos.

<---That's me doing the happy divorce dance for you

Everything will be just fine. You've got a lot of friends around here to help you out.

 

[byoung]

Wish you the best.

 

[want2bamommy]

I am so sorry to hear that your DH did this to you so abruptly and out of the blue. It sounds like you are a very strong woman and I commend you for it.

HUGS to all!!!

Missie

 

[ChevyNat]

thank you, it helped alot to get positive feed back and lots of pixie dust ha!

 

[ChevyNat]

Well, the kids and I are going to Canada's Wonderland on Monday... they don't know, it's a surprise!
things are progressing slowly with my soon Ex... we are getting the papers ready for signing... my lawyer is gone until the 15th of August, so can't get nothing done... so in the meantime, my Ex is giving me half of his paycheck every week... I have put all my bills to date, and some little extra... I've stacked my freezer with meat, shrimps, fish etc... and keeping the rest of the money for fun... I'm gone for 2 weeks, so asked him to still give me half on the next Friday, so I can buy the rest of the school supply and pay for the kid's fun away... they need it... and he said yes, not a problem!!! ha! ha! I'll milk him for every cent, before we sign the papers... because after that he will put a stop to it... but I will be ok!!!