jgmklmhem
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- Dec 8, 2003
In the other thread many people were coming from the opinion that spouses aren't parents and shouldn't be teaching their spouses "lessons." I don't agree. Spouses do this all the time to get things in the order that they want them and to make things more harmonious. As long as it isn't in an abusive way or doesn't cause "real" harm then I think it is only natural (Shelbyjosh's example would be one I consider over the top). We all have bad habits that need to be broken and once you are an adult your parents aren't always there to teach you that lesson (heck they probably facilitated some of our bad habits).
For example it is my job to clean out the sink after dinner is cooked and we are done eating. Either due to laziness or actually work to do I had forgotten/not cared to do it for a few days even at my wife's urging. My wife knowing it needed to be done did it anyways but kept one plate aside. The next night at dinner I was served my meal on this dirty plate (didn't eat from it and got a clean plate after the point was made). I got her point and have very rarely been a problem since. I think sometimes we all need to be humbled to keep order and we all know just nagging doesn't work much of the time.
For example it is my job to clean out the sink after dinner is cooked and we are done eating. Either due to laziness or actually work to do I had forgotten/not cared to do it for a few days even at my wife's urging. My wife knowing it needed to be done did it anyways but kept one plate aside. The next night at dinner I was served my meal on this dirty plate (didn't eat from it and got a clean plate after the point was made). I got her point and have very rarely been a problem since. I think sometimes we all need to be humbled to keep order and we all know just nagging doesn't work much of the time.