Spousal Pet Peeves...Spout Off Here!

[NCRedding]

OH, where do I start LOL

1--the way he eats totally disgusts me. I need to leave the room LOL And if it's chips or cereal, I'd prefer to leave the state!!! It's THAT bad.

2--I am NOT perfect in any sense of the word BUT there are some words that he mispronounces that just drives me up the wall. I don't know why....but boy oh boy.... instead of saying until he says ontil....and for a local town here (Danielson) instead of saying dan-yull-son, he says danel-son. I know these are stupid things but for some reason it makes me cringe.

3--I would bet my life that he has some sinus problem or deviated septum or SOMETHING!!! You can hear him breathe from a different room. I'm not kidding!!! I've even had people over on numerous occassions and they'll be looking around with a strange look on their face asking me, "what's that noise?" And when they realize it's his breathing....they always say, you NEED to go have that checked out by a doctor. LOL I've been telling him that for years now but he HATES doctors and refuses to go

I'm sure there are more and I'm sure there are "a couple" things that drives him crazy about me, but that's another thread all together!!! LOL

Other than the pronunciation of words, you could be married to my husband. He makes this incredible noise when he eats, but he doesn't hear it. It's like a cross between a growl and a grinding of the teeth. It's so embarrassing when other people hear it.

He also has the breathing issue. When he walks in a room, it sounds like he has run a marathon. The snoring is terrible. I've told him I think he has sleep apnea, but he refuses to go to the doctor, and even told me that if the doctor did diagnose him with it, he wouldn't wear the mask or have surgery.

He is opposed to throwing away anythng when he takes it out. He finished the ice cream last night; the box was on the counter for me to throw away this morning. He emptied the drink box, and left it on the counter. I make it easy to throw stuff away, but he refuses to throw it out.

He is horrible at gift-giving. We just had our 21st anniversary. He gave me a box of ShamWows! His favorite gift for me is mystery novels; I don't like them (his mother did). He also loves to give me lottery tickets, which are fun, but he spends like $200 on them (I'd prefer he spend no more than $20 on them).

 

[Pakey]

We are in year 26 of our marriage and the list is getting longer.

1. He is obsessed with golf. I don't mind that he's at the country club for at least 30 hours a week playing and another 10 hours on his phone texting or talking golf with his buddies but please do not make me listen to it through dinner or my favorite television show. If I wanted to know how he got out the sand trap on hole 7, I'd go to the club and watch him play. Oh and even worse is waking up and seeing that he's practicing his golf swing NAKED in front of the mirror while he's waiting for the shower. He even has a club hung on the side of the barbeque so he can practice his swing while he's grilling.

2. He taps his fingers. On his chair arm, not so bad. But I really hate it when we are out for dinner and his drumming his fingers on the table.

3. He thinks that everything that comes into our home must first reside on the kitchen island for months.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

So far, so good with DH. But he did use my beloved Dyson vacuum to clean his boat. Apparently sucked up something wet...and then put the vacuum away. Even though I took the whole thing apart and tried to clean it out, every time I vacuum now it smells like thirteen rats crawled in there and died. (Maybe fourteen.) Peeeeeee-uuuuuu!

 

[friend of pooh]

He is horrible at gift-giving. We just had our 21st anniversary. He gave me a box of ShamWows!

 

[NMAmy]

Solution for the coffee mess - pour it over the sink.

Yeah, I may have mentioned a solution like this in the last 11 years. So far, it's not really working out that well for me but thanks for the suggestion!

 

[luvsJack]

With a basket for his dirty clothes in the bedroom on his side of the bed (for ONLY his clothes), a hamper in each bathroom and another in the laundry room--his clothes still cannot manage to get IN any of those and are always on the floor.

And he is really good about picking his plate up from the table. But then he only takes it as far as the kitchen counter (maybe 2 steps). Why not go ahead and rinse it off and put it in the dishwasher?? After supper, his is the only plate I have to rinse and put in the dishwasher, everyone else puts theirs in them selves.

 

[Katieinwonderland]

There are only a couple of things that DH does that really drive me crazy - but the big one is his apparent fear of opening the dishwasher. He will walk PAST the dishwasher to put his dirty dishes, glasses etc in the sink. Then he will fill them with water "to soak them" (why would a water glass need to be soaked?!) and they stay there! It drives me crazy - I'll constantly say to him "just put them in the dishwasher!" and when I say that, he will. But if I'm not around, they just sit in the sink..."soaking".

He has the same issue with the laundry basket. He will put his dirty clothes in a neat little pile...NEXT to the laundry basket!

 

[MerMom60_94]

DH and I make each other crazy. It's a good thing he makes me laugh so hard to offset his little quirks!

When he takes off his socks to throw them into the pile of laundry, he connects the pair together by pulling the top of one over the other. I then have to take them apart as I throw them into the washing machine. Does he really think they can be washed like that??

He and my DD both come into the middle of a mundane conversation and say "what? what were you talking about?" If the three of us are in the car it goes something like:

DD: Oh mom, I saw a nail polish I like.

me: That's nice.

DH: What? What did she say?

me: Nothing. She saw a nail polish she likes.

DH: Oh. Whatever. I need to turn at the lights.

DD: What did Dad say?

me: (sigh) He said he needs to turn up at the lights.

The conversation goes on this way until I get fed up and start making up answers. The thing is, why doesn't he ask her what she said. And why doesn't she ask him what he said? Why are they asking me to repeat everything?

Those are things I make fun of to his face. There is one habit that is recent that I can't give him a hard time about but it is totally getting under my skin. He has recently had a medical diagnosis that required him to take medication on a regular basis. Rather than just taking it, it is like a major production complete with an announcement. I sympathize that he isn't feeling well, but just take the medicine already! I really don't need a step by step everytime it is time to medicate!

Oh, and he also has an aversion to throwing away wrappers. So, for instance, I bought a box individually wrapped Twinkies when I was grocery shopping. Today I got up to find a wrapper on the counter next to the fridge and one on the counter right next to the trash can. How hard is it to throw them into the trash?

OK. I feel better now that I have gotten those off of my chest.

 

[laracroft]

I hope there's not a limit on the post length. This may take awhile!

DH complains about everything. Mostly that he is tired. He works a schedule where he works 2 days then off 2, so he doesn't work 5 days a week. So on his days off he lays around and does nothing. On my days off (only 2 every week) I am cleaning and doing laundry, cooking and playing with the kids. He actually complains that he's tired (from his chair).

He picks his feet and/or plays with his toes. This makes me wanna vomit.

Which leads into he has to be told to wash his hands. This man is 40, don't you know when you play with your feet or the dog, before you go into my kitchen you wash your nasty paws?

He kicks his legs all night long and vibrates the bed. If that wasn't bad enough when he turns from one side to another he flips so hard, I go about 3 feet in the air.

When he leaves for work and I am still in bed, he will come to my side of the bed and say, "I'm leaving for work". DO you REALLY have to wake me up to tell me that?????

When he drinks anything he makes that glup glup sound like in cartoons. You'd think he's just ran the Boston Marathon and is dying of thirst. EVERY TIME.

When I am in a conversation with DD13 about school, movies, something funny, he will say "What happened? What are you talking about?" I can't repeat everything I just said!

I have a rocker in my bedroom that has a very expensive doll that my mother gave me. I have told him over and over, do not put your clothes on this chair, because it makes the room messy. Just throw it in the hamper. Guess where he puts his dirty clothes?

When he brushes his teeth, he always ends up gagging himself. So then we have to hear dry heaves for 10 minutes.

Ok I better stop for now! LOL

 

[snapppyd]

OK, I really can't complain much. My Dh will load and unload the dishwasher, go grocery shopping, cook, etc. The man really is almost an angel.

BUT, it drives me crazy that EVERY TIME I get up to use the powder room at night he wakes up out of a dead sleep to ask "WHERE ARE YOU GOING?". Where the heck do you think I am going at 2 or 3AM? This happens all the time, not just once in a while.

It's so bad that sometimes he actually follows me in his sleep. I almost gave him a heart attack one night - I was in the bathroom and he was leaning on the wall outside. I think he was still asleep, but didn't know. I said "I'll be right out!". Well he screamed like a girl, he didn't seem to realize what was going on, I'm glad I didn't kill him that night

 

[Halloweenqueen]

My dh refuses to use a drive-thru. If I insist we use one I have to do the talking.

He takes out the garbage but never puts a new bag in the can.

Always has to have a new project or craft, yet rarely finishes anything. My garage is full of models, RC vehicles, instruments, etc that he never finished.

Hates to talk on the phone.

 

[ilovejack02]

I consider myself pretty lucky because there's really only one thing DH does that drives me crazy and we've found a way to work around it. I don't drink coffee. DH drinks a LOT of coffee. My only issue with that is that it seems to be impossible for him to pour it without spilling it everywhere on the kitchen counter.

After months of complaining and scrubbing coffee stains off the counter, I finally smartened up and bought a plastic placemat to go under the coffee pot. I still roll my eyes when I see the mess but every few months, I toss the old placemat and replace it with a new one.

what is up with that, how hard is it to see coffee on counter!! My FIL does it all the time, I fuss at him every time when he is at my house UGHHHH.

My Dad doesn't spill coffee, but spills the sweet n low all over and leaves half packs on the counter.


THank goodness my husband doesn't drink coffee LOL!

 

[peanut1967]

Right here we go

1. Soccor, we live in the UK and he has a season ticket, thats fine with me no problem with him going to see the match, BUT later that night his dad will ring ( think on his father goes to the match with him) and very loudly ( usually while we are watching a film) they pull the match to pieces for a hour...WHY you have just been together for over 2 hours talk about it then.

2. again a soccor related thing, or tv, I can ask him a question and he has not heard any of it...I have to say look at me I need to tell you something...grrr

3. Plates after dinner, we have a dishwasher so put your plate in there not on the side.

4. Again plates if you dont eat all your food scrape it in the bin...apparently we have a fairy that does it for him.

5. he picks his eyebrows...yuck

6. Stop telling when you have done a household task ( very rarely I am a sahm) that you have done such and such a thing for me...its our home you do it for us.

7. And please please do not tell me you have mended my washing machine...mine!!!!! again its ours.

maybe I should stop there

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

My DH does things purposely to annoy me. Just ask him.

He has this habit of constantly saying "What?", as if he didn't hear what you said. After 2 or 3 "What?"s, he finally starts laughing and says "Gotcha ya." He usually catches me when I'm in the middle of doing something or trying to get things done. I swear one of these days...

He also thinks its funny to scare the crap out of me. I startle easily. No idea why, but I do. I also get up very early in the morning for work so I'm used to the house being asleep. He will tip toe into the bathroom, pull the edge of the shower curtain back and softly say "boo". How our DD sleeps through my shrieking is beyond me. One day he's going to give me a heartattack.

Oh yeah, and we have elevated garbage stacking to an art form in our home. DH has a tendency to push it down, and push it down until it is so compacted that I can't get the bag out of the can. So the garbage is now his job. I will stack and stack until he ends up taking it out! If he stopped pushing it down, then it is easy to get out. I'm not struggling with garbage.

But I do love that crazy man!!

 

[ckay87]

- He works closing shift, I go in at 4a, so I am in bed when he gets home from work...he comes in the bedroom, wakes me up, and ASKS ME IF I AM UP!! Well yeah..I am now...and its usually a STUPID question that could have waited or been handled via an email or something..

I have that problem too....you do not find out if a person is awake by waking them up!!

 

[KadysMom]

DH drives me insane with some of the things he does!

Someone else mentioned the drive thru. One time he called me at work from his cell phone to tell me he was driving through starbucks. He asked me to speak loud enough so that when he put me on speaker phone they could hear me order through the drive thru speaker!!

If we are in the car together I have to lean over him and yell our order because he doesnt like to do it himself.

I kept noticing he was throwing *some* of his dirty clothes outside hamper. I was confused because *some* made it in. So I would pick them up and then do the laundry. One day he asked me how a certain pair of underwear kept ending up back in his drawer. I just looked at him like.... WHAT? He said he threw them next to the hamper so that I could throw them away for him... ARE YOU KIDDING!?!?!?!?!

I have to leave the room when he eats certain foods because i want to vomit or pull my hair out.

If the dishwasher door is closed, its ok to open it. Your dishes can go in there, they dont have to hang out in the sink first....

When you finish your soda, please put it in the can basket. We have a trash basket just for cans. The counter is not it....

I FEEL BETTER NOW!!!

 

[Dax]

I am seeing MANY of us are sharing some of the same issues..

I do love my husband to pieces...plus no one else could put up with his crap..

- He does not know how to throw ANYTHING away...junkmail, opened cans, wrappers, paper towels...nothing..

- He squeezes his toothpaste from the middle ALL THE TIME! He has his own now.

- He puts half empty bottles of water back in the refrig..I mean literally like a swallow left...

 

[stm61]

Let's see, where do I start lol

-he also refuses to do anything with his dishes except put them on the counter/table/sink. Just cannot get them in the dishwasher. Maybe it's genetic, since it's a common complaint here. Even if he's using paper plates, they still sit on the table until the fairies come and carry them away.

-he absolutely cannot put the lid/cap back on anything. Well, actually he does put it on, he just doesn't tighten it. The younger kids come along and pick up the soda bottle by the top, soda is now all over and he's yelling at the kids. Soda, juice, pickles, doesn't matter, the cap is just set on top of the bottle, never tightened.

-he takes over the family room at night to watch his tv shows. I can always see exactly what he's eaten because he leaves the empty bottles, wrappers, plates, etc, in a semi-circle around "his" spot on the coach. When I fuss he says he always picks up after himself. Yeah, right, 2 days later, when he can't get to his spot without stepping over piles of trash.

-this one I just cannot understand. He takes a shower at night, right before going to bed, then gets fully dressed again. A few minutes later he gets undressed to go to bed. Why bother getting dressed if you're taking it all off again? Which leads me to my next complaint:

-he takes his clean clothes and drops them on the floor next to the bed. Not hanging over the door, on the cedar chest, on the dresser, etc, but on the floor. Of course, they're the first thing I fall over every time I walk in or out of the room in the dark.

-he sleeps in just his underwear, which is not a big deal in the winter, when he's covered up. But, we have 3 daughters. They really don't need to see dad spread out across the bed in his tighty whities every time they walk in the bedroom. Some things I really don't need to explain to preschoolers at 5 a.m. Our oldest dd's are 11, you'd think after hearing my mouth for 11 years he'd put a pair of shorts or scrubs on to sleep in.

-the thing that absolutely drives me insane is, he constanstly repeats what he's just told me, over and over again. If he's had a problem at work, I hear about it at least 5 times that night, before I finally tell him I heard him the first time, he doesn't need to repeat it over and over again. Then he gets upset because "I'm not listening to him" lol.

 

[laracroft]

Let's see, where do I start lol



-the thing that absolutely drives me insane is, he constanstly repeats what he's just told me, over and over again. If he's had a problem at work, I hear about it at least 5 times that night, before I finally tell him I heard him the first time, he doesn't need to repeat it over and over again. Then he gets upset because "I'm not listening to him" lol.

OMG I sooo understand this one. This made me laugh because I go thru it daily!

 

[Dax]

Oh Oh...got another...

HIS SOCKS! He takes them off in a ball. He does the wash, I put it away. He WASHES THE SOCKS THIS WAY!!! Inside out and in a ball...So I have to "fix" them when putting them away...UGH