wishesuponastar
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- Mar 25, 2011
I don't think there's anything wrong with a little passing disappointment when something doesn't work out exactly as you hoped, and that far more women felt this way in passing than would ever admit it out loud. It is only natural... if part of your vision of parenting was girls nights out and prom dress shopping and wedding planning, only having boys means letting go of a lot of what you imagined for yourself. And the vast, overwhelming majority get over it and are happy with the baby they get by the time that child arrives. Only in the here and now would we shame women for having any preferences at all when they conceive.
As far as alcohol, there's a range of thinking on that and the ethical difficulties of studying it make conclusive answers unlikely. My OB said an occasional glass of wine wasn't going to do any harm, especially late in the pregnancy, and actually suggested I try it to help with sleeping when I was two weeks overdue with DD16.[/QUOTE
Maybe my cousin does have those feelings that she will never have "daughter things to bond over" like you mentioned. I can see that perspective now.
I'm still not sold on the idea of drinking while pregnant.
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