Spinoff.. Do your kids

[jevs]

They sure do. Mine are 13 and 10.

 

[MIGrandma]

Mine are 40 and 37, and no I don't think they consider me difficult. We are very close, our DD and her family lives about a quarter mile down the road from us so we do see her and her family more often than our DS and his family as they are about 30 minutes away and DS works 60-70 hours per week so doesn't have a lot of free time. But, we all go camping together and we go on vacations with each family, out to eat, etc. I think if they thought I was difficult we probably wouldn't spend as much time together. And I don't think they thought of me, or their Dad, as difficult when they were growing up. I know I never felt my parent were difficult as I was growing up.

 

[hereyago]

Yes at times and I am good with that, lol.

 

[THEDISNEYTHREE]

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[Vijoge]

My sons are adults now, but the oldest and the youngest have never considered me to be difficult. My middle son, however, has thought me difficult most of his life and still does. My 17 year old granddaughter, who, up until this summer, lived with me for the past 11 years, decided last spring that I was difficult and that life would be better with her mom. Four months later, she wants to come home and I've had to assure her my views and rules haven't changed in her absence.

 

[Wendy31]

I was just thinking about this question actually... "I wonder if my kids would consider me difficult?"

Our children are 16, 15, & 7, & I'm certain there are times when they do think I'm being difficult. But, then again, there are times when I think THEY are the ones being difficult! LOL!

But, primarily, it's all been due to parent/minor child issues - typical stuff like "You can't wear that" or "You have to clean your room first" or "No, I'm not buying you that video game" and "Yes, I do need the password to your phone."

There are instances where I think things should be done a certain way - from things like "You have to rinse the bowls BEFORE you put them in the dishwasher" to how we open Christmas presents on Christmas morning. And, for the most part, they go along with me & my quirks.

However, honestly, they probably have the most difficulty with how much I worry & the "restrictions" they feel due to my worry & anxiety, if that makes sense.

I actually don't think we've gotten into the stages yet where I could really be considered difficult, & I think the grown up child & parent relationship is a whole new playing field.

For my part, I do consider my own mother & my mother-in-law a bit difficult w/ some of their expectations for family holidays & get-togethers. My mom can be a bit passive-aggressive, plus she's nosy & gets her feelings hurt very easily. However, I love them both dearly, and I realize that someday I'll be the mom & mother-in-law of grown children, so I try very hard to show them grace & treat them fairly & respectfully because my turn is coming soon.

 

[Klayfish]

I don't really know, and honestly don't really care. I love my kids more than anything in this world and am very close to each of them. To me, part of my responsibility of being their dad, beyond all the fun stuff, is to teach and guide them. Right from wrong, good manners, do the right thing, etc... I take that responsibility seriously, as I want my kids to be honest, hard working and stand-up adults when they grow up. So I'm sure at times when I'm riding them about something they think I'm very difficult. But oh well, part of being a kid...and a parent.

My wife, different story. She makes it very clear that she thinks I can be difficult.

 

[lovin'fl]

Twin DDs-17 would say I am. Maybe one (who is difficult herself) more so than the other(who is more easy going). DS-19 would also say I am (he is also difficult himself). Heck, DH would likely say I am too (yep, he too is difficult). And my mom is pretty difficult but MIL isn't bad lately but she was when my kids were little and then my mom wasn't difficult... huh, that's interesting.

 

[NMAmy]

Of course dd thought I was difficult when she was growing up--I was the one constantly bothering her with pesky rules like doing her homework, basic hygiene, general good manners, and curfews.

Now that she's 25 and a mom herself, I'm back to being mostly awesome again and the most trusted babysitter. I love it.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

9 year old girl... Yes.
9 year old boy... No. I can do no wrong

 

[scrhsa]

Sometimes. I have been blessed with very well behaved kids ( I do NOT take credit for it... It's all God and basic personalities )so I haven't really HAD to be difficult. I have my moments with the youngest...just turned 18 but we still have an excellent relationship. I am very thankful for how easy it was to raise my girls. I didn't really have to do much parenting

 

[Gumbo4x4]

No

 

[powellrj]

at different times I think they have all considered me difficult, but right now its just my middle DS and thats only because since he moved home, I still make him pick-up after himself.

 

[RedAngie]

I'm curious, because I seem to have missed it - which thread did this spin off of?

Probably the engagement thread where the OP says a MIL is being "difficult" because she wants her son to change the date of his wedding since it's so close to her daughter's wedding.


I'm sure my girls considered me difficult when they were teens. Maybe they still do.

 

[mombrontrent]

I just asked my DS17 and he said that I'm annoying sometimes but not difficult , LOL!

My two girls would probably agree that I'm not difficult, I'm very easy going and "chill" as my kids say!

 

[smitch425]

No, my daughter (13) disagrees with me often, but is smart enough to know she is generally the one that is being ridiculous. Lol

ETA: Perfect example... Today she came home upset because her bus is over crowded so they are splitting the route into two. She said that since she doesn't get to ride with half of her friends, I have to drive her to and from school. Um...heck no. I pointed out that if I drove her, she would ride with none of her friends, which would be worse than half. It took her about an hour to accept it wasn't happening. I already have to drive her on Mondays and pick her up on Fridays because her French horn doesn't fit on the bus. Lol

 

[Magpie]

My son would say I am definitely not difficult. However, he hasn't hit the teen years yet. I am sure in the future there will be plenty of no's coming his way and he will think that I am being difficult at times. I will be completely ok with that. LOL

Interestingly, for me, the teen years were when most of the "no's" ended and I got to say "yes" a heck of a lot more often. I stopped having to constantly protect the kids from themselves, and they became more capable and confident and independent.

My 18 year old will be moving out in a few weeks. I'm going to miss him (and his snow shovelling, dish washing, etc. )

I've loved the teen years. I'm sorry they're almost over!

Whereas I have to say, I didn't love the "I need to eat mystery mushrooms off the front lawn" toddler years at all.

 

[minniebeth]

My 18 and 14 year old girls? Most definitely!
My DS21? Nah... I make him food for his apartment and he's happy...