Spin off from free food thread

[armywife]

I have a family member that doesn't want to go to parties, but wants their spouse to bring them a plate of food. Isn't this rude? To me, if you want to go, you don't get a take out order! I can't imagine telling hosts 'oh my spouse didn't want to come, but can I take a plate of food home for them'. One party in particular the family member tagged along with us (we asked the hosts if it was OK to bring him) then his wife tells him to bring home a plate of food for her.

 

[MushyMushy]

My mother used to do that! With her it started when I was little and she worked as a nurse. Since she would work most holidays, wherever we went for holiday dinners, we would wrap her up a plate and take it to her at work. That was fine, and then like you said it would flow over to parties or picnics, she'd expect someone to bring her back a plate.

 

[emer95]

Ha! I'm going to have to show this post to my husband. When we were first married and I would go to a women-only thing on HIS side of the family (like a bridal or baby shower) I would come home and he would look at me like a sad puppy and say, "You didn't bring me home a plate?" I burst out laughing! Like I was going to go through the buffet line twice and say, "This time is not for me, it's for hubby!" I don't think so, bub. You can make a sandwhich when I have to sit through one of your family's delightful get togethers.

 

[monkeybug]

I have an aunt who loads up a plate of "leftovers" to take home (for herself) BEFORE she gets the plate she is going to eat at the party/gathering. I mean they aren't even leftovers yet! It annoys me the most because she ends up buzzing around the kitchen when everyone else is trying to set up and doing all those little last minute things, and she's asking for a plate, where's the foil, do you have a spoon to serve this, and just being a pest.
I made caramel apples for all the kids to decorate at thanksgiving one year, and I had made a few extras in case one took a roll on the ground (we were decorating them on my Grandmas patio) and when I went to get one of the extras when exactly that happened, they were gone! I found three of them in a paper bag on the kitchen counter with my aunts name on it! Yikes! Who does that?

 

[monkeyboy]

I could eat

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

OMG! I had my DSis bridal shower. I paid for a buffet for 75 people. Only 40 ending up RSVPing yes. My DM said "Well at least you will be able to eat for the week." I was living paycheck to paycheck and this big expensive shower was setting me back a bundle. Mom ended up kicking in. We had to pay for so many because her fiance's family kept calling late saying "Oh, I forgot to call but I'm coming." So my mom said to pay for extra and she would kick in half.

So food for 75 but only 40 guests. Can you believe I ran out of food??!!! Apparently some of his relatives brought tupperware and were filling up plates and plates of food and stuffing them in the containers. Okay, I would have gladly given out food at the end if they really needed it but they were taking the food prior to everyone having eaten. Thank goodness it was at a family friend's house and she had whipped up trays of stuffed shells for us. Let's just say that it was the only thing I ate because all the other food was gone.

So yes, I think its rude to ask for a plate. In fact I even said something to my DS FMIL. Her response was "Well their husbands drove them. They are driving around and expect to be fed." Thank goodness my DS divorced his butt!!!

I do want to add that if at the end of the party a hostess offers to make a plate of food for you to take home for whatever purposes, I do not think it is rude to accept it. There are many times where I have sent home food to individuals that either couldn't come or if we have too much. I would rather have leftovers eaten than sitting in my fridge rotting.

 

[scrapquitler]

I have an aunt who loads up a plate of "leftovers" to take home (for herself) BEFORE she gets the plate she is going to eat at the party/gathering. I mean they aren't even leftovers yet! It annoys me the most because she ends up buzzing around the kitchen when everyone else is trying to set up and doing all those little last minute things, and she's asking for a plate, where's the foil, do you have a spoon to serve this, and just being a pest.
I made caramel apples for all the kids to decorate at thanksgiving one year, and I had made a few extras in case one took a roll on the ground (we were decorating them on my Grandmas patio) and when I went to get one of the extras when exactly that happened, they were gone! I found three of them in a paper bag on the kitchen counter with my aunts name on it! Yikes! Who does that?

My grandmother and aunt used to do that, too. I think it was a function of their age and growing up in the depression. Going out to eat with them was embarassing...They would each carry a plastic bag in their purse and put the 'leftovers' in. Leftovers included the extra rolls they requested from the server, which they had no intention of eating, all the extra packs of crackers from their soup and all the creamers/sugar packets/butter pats that were on the table. And going to a buffet or potluck was even worse

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

Many relatives on Hubby's side of the family does this and it drives me nuts especially the ones that load up an extra plate to take home BEFORE everyone has ate.



I'm usually in charge of making trays of cookies and candies for the holidays and I was shocked the first time I did it as the trays were half emptied before they were served with EVERYONE loading up stuff to take home. So the next year I made my trays PLUS I premade plates for everyone to take home and while most of the families thanked me and thought it was great a few of them were not so thankful Obviously I put more on the plate of the bigger families then a family of 1 or 2 and the ones that had less thought they were getting ripped off. I had to explain that the bigger families got more because there were more people but everyone had the same amount per person